canehook90
Junior Member
So here's the deal. My grandmother (92) had four children and has been on a ventilator since July of 2010. Multiple facilities and doctors have tried to gradually reduce her dependency on the ventilator but her lungs are too weak at this point. All doctors without disagreement, agree that she will never come off of the ventilator.
Enter the tricky situation: The four children (one of whom is my father) don't really speak to each other any more because of multiple disagreements surrounding her care and her late husband's care. The one daughter lives at my grandmother's house and is the caregiver. She claims to have power of attorney but at this point, we haven't found any real documentation of that (not that we've looked very hard...) Two of the children are in favor of remaining on the ventilator. The other two have realized it is a lost cause.
My question is, what can be done? It breaks my heart to see her lying there, motionless breathing through a tube, eating through a tube, going to the bathroom through a tube since July of 2010. She (and I think nobody) would want to live like that.
I'm not sure what I'm asking because I'm not very legally inclined but is there anything anyone can do? I know that as a grandson, I have very few rights in this situation but what can be done about this?
Enter the tricky situation: The four children (one of whom is my father) don't really speak to each other any more because of multiple disagreements surrounding her care and her late husband's care. The one daughter lives at my grandmother's house and is the caregiver. She claims to have power of attorney but at this point, we haven't found any real documentation of that (not that we've looked very hard...) Two of the children are in favor of remaining on the ventilator. The other two have realized it is a lost cause.
My question is, what can be done? It breaks my heart to see her lying there, motionless breathing through a tube, eating through a tube, going to the bathroom through a tube since July of 2010. She (and I think nobody) would want to live like that.
I'm not sure what I'm asking because I'm not very legally inclined but is there anything anyone can do? I know that as a grandson, I have very few rights in this situation but what can be done about this?