Grandparents need help in MO

[milspecgirl]

OMG- you are just wrong.
blackmail??????? ummmmmmmm- that is illegal, it is wrong, and it shows you are just as bad as the people you talk about.
I can only hope that these children are taken away from you. hopefully the parents will see you for the controlling person you are and hide those kids from you

 

[milspecgirl]

Taking care and caring for my child is my job, that I took on when I had her, until the day that I die.

see that ended when she turned 18. you don't have the right to continue doing it without her asking

 

[milspecgirl]

She is very young and I have confidence that with some time and guidance, she will improve on her parenting skills, otherwise I would have given up a long time ago. I love her and will do my best to help her where I can.

just because she isn't the parent you want her to be doesn't mean she's a bad parent. she may not want or need your help regardless of what you think

 

[hvacburke]

You're an a@#$%@#! Really...I would bet a large sum of money that your daughter got pregnant and married young just to get away from you.

This is a very immature comment, I have always tried to do the best I can for my children and will continue to do so. I did not come here for rudeness, I came for help. I am very hurt over this matter and thought I needed some other input and I appreciate and will take into consideration everything I have read (except for this immature post). As for as my daughters marriage, she has been dating her high school sweetheart since the age of 14, no official dates until 16. I think she was too young to get pregnant but she had been with the same guy for a long time.

 

[hvacburke]

just because she isn't the parent you want her to be doesn't mean she's a bad parent. she may not want or need your help regardless of what you think

She comes to me and asks my opinion and also asks for my help. I do not normally butt in where I am not wanted, this will be a first for me. As for as the blackmail thing, I am desperate for a solution and would only do this in desperation. I also don't consider it blackmail, when someone is doing something wrong. This info is old news, and my daughter and I have already discussed it in the past. She agreed that her in-laws home is not a good environment for her children and they only see them when her and her husband are there.

 

[CJane]

I think she is doing something that could cause her to lose her children.

Cause her to lose her children, or cause her to lose them to YOU?

If hubby's family is so bad that they won't pass a home inspection for adoption... and your grandkids LIVE THERE NOW... what the hell are you doing about it?

 

[hvacburke]

Cause her to lose her children, or cause her to lose them to YOU?

If hubby's family is so bad that they won't pass a home inspection for adoption... and your grandkids LIVE THERE NOW... what the hell are you doing about it?

They do not live with the other grandparents, whom are not real fine citizens, they live with his brother and his wife, who seem to be o.k., from what I've seen so far. I have nothing personal against his brother and his wife, they just have no means to take care of a child, they just want one anyway. They are also very young. As for as I am concerned the other grandparents can live as they see fit, as long as my grandchildren are being supervised when they are visiting them. As for as the dirt I have on these people, I do not intend to stick my nose into their lives, I just intend to (as a last resort) to mention what I could do if necessary. I believe this would be enough. I don't think it would come to that anyway, because if these people think there is a possibility of someone coming to their house to ask questions about the adoption, they will convince their son to back out of giving his brother his child.

 

[LdiJ]

They do not live with the other grandparents, whom are not real fine citizens, they live with his brother and his wife, who seem to be o.k., from what I've seen so far. I have nothing personal against his brother and his wife, they just have no means to take care of a child, they just want one anyway. They are also very young. As for as I am concerned the other grandparents can live as they see fit, as long as my grandchildren are being supervised when they are visiting them. As for as the dirt I have on these people, I do not intend to stick my nose into their lives, I just intend to (as a last resort) to mention what I could do if necessary. I believe this would be enough. I don't think it would come to that anyway, because if these people think there is a possibility of someone coming to their house to ask questions about the adoption, they will convince their son to back out of giving his brother his child.

If a home study is done, it will just be done on the brother and his wife....not on the extended family.

 

[hvacburke]

I know this but...

If a home study is done, it will just be done on the brother and his wife....not on the extended family.

My son in law and his family are not real bright, which is to my advantage in this situation and because they don't know this, knowing them they will believe me if I say its true. I know this is underhanded and I don't feel good about it, but if they are not intelligent enough to look into it themselves (and they're not) then that is on them.

 

[CJane]

My son in law and his family are not real bright, which is to my advantage in this situation and because they don't know this, knowing them they will believe me if I say its true. I know this is underhanded and I don't feel good about it, but if they are not intelligent enough to look into it themselves (and they're not) then that is on them.

Out of curiosity, what county are you in?

 

[hvacburke]

Sorry...

Out of curiosity, what county are you in?

Out of the possibility that you would possibly know who I am speaking of, I would rather not give out that info. You may be in the same county or town. Let's just say, that it is a small town with a very good rumor mill, so you should understand why there is some info I don't want to give.

 

[hvacburke]

I will be back.....

I think I've heard that before, isn't he governor now? Anyway, I've got to go do my daily chores but I will check back later. Thanks everyone for giving your opinions, they really do help.