Grandparents' Rights?

[ashkyla]

What is the name of your state? Oklahoma.

I'm the mother of a beautiful, perfect one-year old, who has never met her biological father.

My last contact with him was June 20,2004, when I asked if he wanted to attend the ultrasound, and his exact words were, "I'd rather eat my own flesh."

Needless to say, you can see why I didn't contact him after that.

My concern is this: He never told his parents that I was pregnant, and continually swears that the baby isn't his, even though we were in a relationship for 3 years, and I never even thought about cheating on him, much less did it.

The father can go hang, for all I care, but he's his parents' only child, and only possibility of a grandchild.

Part of me feels like they should have the opportunity to know their granddaughter, but I'm worried that they might try to take her from me, or worse, force their son to sue for custody (which I'll die before I let that dirtbag see her, much less raise her.)

Mostly, I'm wondering about the ramifications, if any, or any legal rights my daughter's grandparents might have that I don't know about.

Any help is much appreciated.

Also, suggestions to sue him for child support will be ignored. He would sue me for custody just for spite-too bad I didn't know he was that kind of person before I was pregnant.

 

[Just Blue]

You must've missed the rule against duplicate threads, too.

I've only been a member for a day, and even I got that part.

And, you must not have children, or you'd know it's impossible to speak of them or anything concerning them without emotion.

Unless you have something pertinent to my question, be quiet. I didn't come here to be insulted, something none of the other members seem to have a problem with.

OP...You really should do as IAAL says ...He will give you the BEST legal advice you will receive on this site....and I am not kidding..under that gruff manner he is a legal dream...So if he wants you to remove the emotion from your post, I would do it if I were you!!

 

[ashkyla]

Fine, question with no context.

If I inform my daughter's paternal grandparents of her existence, will they be able to sue me for custody, or demand visitation rights?

 

[LdiJ]

Fine, question with no context.

If I inform my daughter's paternal grandparents of her existence, will they be able to sue me for custody, or demand visitation rights?

Basically...NO.

Its more complicated than that...but that's the basic answer.

 

[happyinorbit]

Can I get a reply from IAAL? I dont think I have any emotional crap in my post.

 

[LdiJ]

Can I get a reply from IAAL? I dont think I have any emotional crap in my post.

He is unlikely to respond at this point.

First, in order for the grandparents to have any kind of standing in court, for anything, dad's legal paternity would have to be established.

Once that is established, they would still have no standing to sue you for custody. Only dad would have standing. Unless, of course, you would be an unfit parent by legal standards.

They would have standing to sue for visitation. However, they would have to have an established relationship with the child in order to prevail.

If the grandparents came here looking for advice, they would be advised to kick their son in the butt and get him to establish paternity and visitation, so that they could see the child on his time.

So.....there is a risk that if you get the grandparents involved, that it will end up getting dad involved as well. You know what kind of people they are....so you are the only one that can make that decision.

 

[happyinorbit]

i meant my post on travel related expenses... i posted in another area. But you actually answered my question. Much Gratitude.