ha,ha,ha..stepmom question

[blueboy]

What is the name of your state? ca
here's the deal. My X won't talk to me anymore, unless she is screaming. She will talk to my wife. She refusses to talk through e mail, registared mail, and to record our conversations. She is moving in with her X boyfriend, guess they are back together. My daughter is in day care when at her mothers and the day care provider has a convicted criminal going in and out of their home. I have no proof, just that they, ( day care provider ) mentioned he had just gotten out of jail. My wife is with our child more than either one of us is. She does everything for my daughter. Here's the Q... Last time we went to mediation she wanted her boyfriend/fiance to go into mediation. He supposedly could have added something to the conversation. ( they had been dating off/on 2 years what could he have added! any way ) Her lawyer asked for permission, but I said no. Should I ask for my wife to go into mediation this next time? I don't honestly know what my X would say. My wife knows more about my daughter than either my X or I does. Any advice.. please no advice from IAAL I'm pretty sure I have your opinion.

 

[Lil Miss Smarty Panties]

LOL sure you can ask, but you'll probably get the same reply your ex did from you. Give it a shot tho, it's worth a try. All she can say is no.

 

[qtpie]

Technically, I'm a step-mom so I'm not going to advise you to do something that I wouldn't do myself.

Because we step-parents have no legal rights or obligations to our step-children, I don't feel that we should be included in mediation. Go along and sit outside? Sure. But not in the room with everyone else. You're only asking for trouble, and quite frankly, I'm surprised that your ex's lawyer even asked about the BF.

If I were you, talk to your wife about your child since she knows the child fairly well. Write down what she says and then take your notes along to mediation. Don't say, "Well, my wife said this or that." State it like it's coming from you.

JMHO

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

please no advice from IAAL I'm pretty sure I have your opinion.

My response:

Gee, I feel so offended !

Our writer is a typical butt-in stepparent.

IAAL

 

[HomeGuru]

Butthead too.

 

[blueboy]

yeah that's what ...

I expected from IAAL. What everman. You sit back in your easy chair and judge everyone else. I can't stand you, ha,ha, that's why I hired a lawyer jsut like you. I just can't afford to ask him q's like this, it's too expensive... and you're here given it out free all day. hey do you have clients? So, maybe you don't have an easy chair, but a fold out chair in the corner of your room with a computer on a card table. Easy chairs cost $ and I doubt you are making any money as you seem to have so much spare time to sit here and give out all of your wonderful..free..advice.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

Re: yeah that's what ...

I doubt you are making any money . . .

My response:

Gee, you'd like to think so, wouldn't you?

IAAL

 

[stealth2]

If you said no to her SO taking part - why do you think she'd agree to yours? What's good for the goose is good for the gander, my friend.

 

[stealth2]

p.s.

I think it's rather sad that someone other than you or the kid's Mom knows the kid better.

 

[efcoco]

I am not a step mom..but this would be a good time to say...Thank God for some of the step moms.

 

[Grace_Adler]

Ok..I've been sitting here going catching up on some of these threads and I've been trying to be a good girl and keep quiet to keep the peace and I'm going to continue to do so except for the following:

Jesus, Mary and Joseph people..let's not go through this again and beat the dead horse PLEASE, I beg of you!!! What on earth have you people been doing this week, partying down for the 4th of July all week and getting rowdy? LOL!!

I've been debating on whether or not to grab a bowl of popcorn and a soda or a cocktail and cigeratte as I sift through these threads....hhhmmm, I think I'll opt for the cocktail and cigerette!! Honestly, you people would drive a saint to drink!! Damn, I thought I was bad!! LOL!!

(Noone take offense, as this is meant to lighten the mood!)

 

[efcoco]

How funny Grace...

Not sure who and what posting your referring to ...but...It is funny.

 

[Grace_Adler]

Thanks.. just trying to be the class clown again. I guess we're in English class here since so many people are concerned with proper spelling, grammar and puncuation. (BTW, I did pretty well in English class but it's been a long time since then so I forget alot of things and I make some typos so big deal. I ain't ("Oh yeah that's right I said it") AIN'T on here to impress anyone with my English so "that's all I got to say about that. " (Don't know if anyone will get the qoutes) so, if you don't like it bite me too...LOL!!Joking!! That was a reference to another thread. All these jokes are in reference to a couple of other threads on here.. I thought maybe you had read them, if you haven't you should.. there eerr.. very interesting and entertaining to say the least. Maybe I should put all this on the other posts since these jokes are more related to them. ?? I wasn't referring to anyone directly, just making some jokes about the other posts..was talking about the ongoing step parent and CP issue as well as criticisim about correct English. Boy are some of the people on here touchy lately..either everyone is drunk or PMSing.
Look, I know most of us on here don't have any sense but can we at least pretend we do? LOL!! (Joking) Nobody freak out!

 

[coolmomof4]

I suppose you could ask your ex if your wife could be included in mediation and tell her that her "boyfriend" could come in, also. The mediator would probably be able to weed out what info is insignificant and who it is coming from.

Just a thought.

 

[blueboy]

Thank you for the input.
I know it is sad that my wife spends more time with my daughter than me. Believe me I would love to be spending more time with her. I am going to college, and working full time + over time. I will have a b.s. in around 3 years..( It takes forever doing a class at a time ) then I will be able to find a better paying job, and work less. Her mother is working full time and she has a busy social life.

I think I will just have my wife fill me in on everything I might miss, and it's not like mom knows anymore then I do. No, this isn't the scnerio I would have picked to raise my child in, but here I am. I make the best out of what I have.