KristineIowa
Junior Member
Hello -
This is the male of the couple typing this, despite the username.
Our daughter, let's call her "Ginny," has been harassed for months at her school. She is 14 and in 9th grade. It began with her first boyfriend (dubbed, Squirrel-boy for now, also 14) who got a little extra handsy a few times, so she got uncomfortable and broke it off and reported it.
The boy has done nothing but escalate his behavior ever since. He followed her around after she told him she wanted nothing to do with him and to please stay away. He would use lots of attention getting behavior like approaching her when with friends, taking over conversations, running in front of her in gym class, spreading rumors about her online, threaten suicide, blame her for his mental health issues, etc..
Then last month, he wrote her a note threatening her. She watched him writing it and after we submitted it to the police, he admitted to writing it. No punishment has been handed down for this beyond an initial 2-day suspension for another unrelated matter he was involved in. We filed a harassment complaint after the note and Ginny stayed away from school because she didn't feel safe in the same building with Sq.B.
We already have an attorney but I am asking these questions to help determine what questions I should ask the attorney, police, etc..
The school principal defends this boy every chance he gets. Ginny is being threatened for truancy because she can't be near her assailant (threats count as assault in our state - Iowa). Sq.B is also guilty by definition of stalking and harassment. We FINALLY got her go to back to school to try and get back to normal (even though SqB still sits there, smug in his vindication) and then the dance came. Ginny went with another boy.
SqB was warned about harassment and in this state that includes physical and even visual proximity without cause. He approached her at least 5 times that night of the dance. My wife was there and watched them. She counted some of them as possibly incidental (we know better but to convince someone its is deliberate is harder). The last two were obviously intentional and we had witnesses watching for him to approach so we can have him formally charged with harassment.
The principal defended him, again, in front of witnesses and parents who were complaining about Sq.B. The resource officer at the school is also defending him, despite the witnesses saying they watched him spying Ginny all night long and waiting to approach her when no one was looking each time. They even had the ability to determine his intent on the last incident because they pulled Ginny away and others stepped between him and her. The SRO is trying to manipulate everyone's testimony to make it seem like they are saying they weren't sure or that he was near them accidentally or because the wastebasket was there, which is all a load of crap. The SRO is saying that if he didn't speak to her or touch her it doesn't count.
It reminds me of the older brother who waves his hands one inch from your face saying, "not touching, can't get mad!"
I am looking online and cannot find any script of what a juvenile harassment warning has on it, if there is one. Does anyone know? It almost HAS to include something about proximity since it is in the law. Sq.B violated that law. IF the warning included "stay away from her," he is guilty. If it didn't, the person reading him the the warning didn't do his or her job and Sq.B is STILL guilty (ignorance not being a defense). He didn't need to be in that place at that time, period.
I don't know why they are defending this kid. We have a well-documented (I mean a ream of paper in printouts of evidence, transcripts, phone records, screenshots, testimony, etc.) over 5 months of this boy bothering her. We have launched Title IX, State and Federal Civil Rights complaints, local investigation and will soon be filing suit against the school district if they do not get this kid away from my daughter. I realize we cannot dictate what a school does or what law enforcement does. Ginny constantly cries and says things like, "my school doesn't care about me," and, "I should have never come forward."
Even in the middle of #metoo we have people who ignore a girl's cries for help and dismiss her claims so we can defend the boy.
I am open to people "tearing this apart" as I am certain I left things out, need better organization, whatever. Any advice is appreciated.
This is the male of the couple typing this, despite the username.
Our daughter, let's call her "Ginny," has been harassed for months at her school. She is 14 and in 9th grade. It began with her first boyfriend (dubbed, Squirrel-boy for now, also 14) who got a little extra handsy a few times, so she got uncomfortable and broke it off and reported it.
The boy has done nothing but escalate his behavior ever since. He followed her around after she told him she wanted nothing to do with him and to please stay away. He would use lots of attention getting behavior like approaching her when with friends, taking over conversations, running in front of her in gym class, spreading rumors about her online, threaten suicide, blame her for his mental health issues, etc..
Then last month, he wrote her a note threatening her. She watched him writing it and after we submitted it to the police, he admitted to writing it. No punishment has been handed down for this beyond an initial 2-day suspension for another unrelated matter he was involved in. We filed a harassment complaint after the note and Ginny stayed away from school because she didn't feel safe in the same building with Sq.B.
We already have an attorney but I am asking these questions to help determine what questions I should ask the attorney, police, etc..
The school principal defends this boy every chance he gets. Ginny is being threatened for truancy because she can't be near her assailant (threats count as assault in our state - Iowa). Sq.B is also guilty by definition of stalking and harassment. We FINALLY got her go to back to school to try and get back to normal (even though SqB still sits there, smug in his vindication) and then the dance came. Ginny went with another boy.
SqB was warned about harassment and in this state that includes physical and even visual proximity without cause. He approached her at least 5 times that night of the dance. My wife was there and watched them. She counted some of them as possibly incidental (we know better but to convince someone its is deliberate is harder). The last two were obviously intentional and we had witnesses watching for him to approach so we can have him formally charged with harassment.
The principal defended him, again, in front of witnesses and parents who were complaining about Sq.B. The resource officer at the school is also defending him, despite the witnesses saying they watched him spying Ginny all night long and waiting to approach her when no one was looking each time. They even had the ability to determine his intent on the last incident because they pulled Ginny away and others stepped between him and her. The SRO is trying to manipulate everyone's testimony to make it seem like they are saying they weren't sure or that he was near them accidentally or because the wastebasket was there, which is all a load of crap. The SRO is saying that if he didn't speak to her or touch her it doesn't count.
It reminds me of the older brother who waves his hands one inch from your face saying, "not touching, can't get mad!"
I am looking online and cannot find any script of what a juvenile harassment warning has on it, if there is one. Does anyone know? It almost HAS to include something about proximity since it is in the law. Sq.B violated that law. IF the warning included "stay away from her," he is guilty. If it didn't, the person reading him the the warning didn't do his or her job and Sq.B is STILL guilty (ignorance not being a defense). He didn't need to be in that place at that time, period.
I don't know why they are defending this kid. We have a well-documented (I mean a ream of paper in printouts of evidence, transcripts, phone records, screenshots, testimony, etc.) over 5 months of this boy bothering her. We have launched Title IX, State and Federal Civil Rights complaints, local investigation and will soon be filing suit against the school district if they do not get this kid away from my daughter. I realize we cannot dictate what a school does or what law enforcement does. Ginny constantly cries and says things like, "my school doesn't care about me," and, "I should have never come forward."
Even in the middle of #metoo we have people who ignore a girl's cries for help and dismiss her claims so we can defend the boy.
I am open to people "tearing this apart" as I am certain I left things out, need better organization, whatever. Any advice is appreciated.