petersnessa
Junior Member
State: CA
I live in California and back in September of 2005 began receiving harassing text messages stating profane things about me. Then I started receiving letters in the mail. Calling me names, making threats, and saying that my boyfriend was cheating on me. Then this person started threatening to hurt my children. That is when I began taking it seriously and I filed a police report. So now we have a whole case going, and the detective found out exactly who this person is. She got a separate cell phone account under a false name and was sending text messages and calling up to 45 times per day sometimes. This caused horrible stress on my relationship and for my family as well. My daughter had to start therapy and taking medication for depression and anxiety and I did, too. She would tell my daughter that her mother was a whore who liked to f*** two guys at the same time. And then she would tell me that I shouldn't let my youngest daughter ride her scooter all alone outside.
Now that things are all out in the open, she called my boyfriend and told him he'd better have the charges against her dropped or else he would go to jail, too. She was claiming that we were all on drugs and selling drugs out of my home! She even went as far as to come onto my property on Thanksgiving while we were gone and key my car. She scratched "old pussy" into the side of my car. Then sent me a text message telling me to look at my car when I got home. When we saw what happened, we went outside to take pictures of the car (about 10:00pm) then she sent another text message saying "I heard you were taking pictures of my artwork". She is absolutely CRAZY!!! Now this evening, we were just served with temporary restraining orders to stop harassment. She is stating that we are harassing her and causing her stress and anxiety and that she is afraid to leave her house for fear that we might attack her! Are you kidding me? This is the same girl that faked a pregnancy and watched my house, and told my daughter she was going to f*** her boyfriend and beat her up. The detectives say that they can't charge her with vandalism for my car because there are no witnesses and she says she didn't do it. She did, however, admit to harassing us, and mailing letters, and even calling and telling us we better drop the charges against her. This has absolutely ruined my life and about 6 months of my relationship. I have spent many a day in therapy discussing this with my therapist. I have had to start taking anti-anxiety medicine throughout the day, and more medicine just so I can sleep at night. And now after all that, am I going to get in trouble because she says I'm harassing her? The only reason I ever called the number she was texting from, was to see if anyone would answer the phone. I don't know what to do... I just want this nightmare to end. I can't believe this girl was obsessed with my boyfriend and that's why all of this happened. The detectives have also said that I would have to sue her in civil court for the vandalism and anything else. She's ruined 6 months of my life, harassed my minor daughter who now has to be in therapy and taking medication twice a day, not to mention she missed almost a whole month of school because she was so depressed and had such bad anxiety, my boyfriend and I are lucky to still be together and this has had a HUGE impact on our relationship, and at best she may have to do community service and pay some fines.
Can anyone please tell me what I should do?
I live in California and back in September of 2005 began receiving harassing text messages stating profane things about me. Then I started receiving letters in the mail. Calling me names, making threats, and saying that my boyfriend was cheating on me. Then this person started threatening to hurt my children. That is when I began taking it seriously and I filed a police report. So now we have a whole case going, and the detective found out exactly who this person is. She got a separate cell phone account under a false name and was sending text messages and calling up to 45 times per day sometimes. This caused horrible stress on my relationship and for my family as well. My daughter had to start therapy and taking medication for depression and anxiety and I did, too. She would tell my daughter that her mother was a whore who liked to f*** two guys at the same time. And then she would tell me that I shouldn't let my youngest daughter ride her scooter all alone outside.
Now that things are all out in the open, she called my boyfriend and told him he'd better have the charges against her dropped or else he would go to jail, too. She was claiming that we were all on drugs and selling drugs out of my home! She even went as far as to come onto my property on Thanksgiving while we were gone and key my car. She scratched "old pussy" into the side of my car. Then sent me a text message telling me to look at my car when I got home. When we saw what happened, we went outside to take pictures of the car (about 10:00pm) then she sent another text message saying "I heard you were taking pictures of my artwork". She is absolutely CRAZY!!! Now this evening, we were just served with temporary restraining orders to stop harassment. She is stating that we are harassing her and causing her stress and anxiety and that she is afraid to leave her house for fear that we might attack her! Are you kidding me? This is the same girl that faked a pregnancy and watched my house, and told my daughter she was going to f*** her boyfriend and beat her up. The detectives say that they can't charge her with vandalism for my car because there are no witnesses and she says she didn't do it. She did, however, admit to harassing us, and mailing letters, and even calling and telling us we better drop the charges against her. This has absolutely ruined my life and about 6 months of my relationship. I have spent many a day in therapy discussing this with my therapist. I have had to start taking anti-anxiety medicine throughout the day, and more medicine just so I can sleep at night. And now after all that, am I going to get in trouble because she says I'm harassing her? The only reason I ever called the number she was texting from, was to see if anyone would answer the phone. I don't know what to do... I just want this nightmare to end. I can't believe this girl was obsessed with my boyfriend and that's why all of this happened. The detectives have also said that I would have to sue her in civil court for the vandalism and anything else. She's ruined 6 months of my life, harassed my minor daughter who now has to be in therapy and taking medication twice a day, not to mention she missed almost a whole month of school because she was so depressed and had such bad anxiety, my boyfriend and I are lucky to still be together and this has had a HUGE impact on our relationship, and at best she may have to do community service and pay some fines.
Can anyone please tell me what I should do?
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