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jason2002
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What is the name of your state?----PA (USA)
Ok, I am getting very tired of this situation. I am not sure what to do now or where to go or anything. This is going to be a long one so please bear with me. I feel I must tell the story in exact detail so that you all are clear on what the full picture is.
It started a while back when we let a friend of ours stay with us at our house a while back with the understanding that she would help pay for her share of the food and that she would be in BEFORE 9 every night and it was for one week. She came down and stayed for almost 10 days (we let her stay a little longer because originally we changed our mind and was going to let her stay for 2 weeks instead until another situation came up). Before she came down she told us that she suspected that she was pregnant and she had an at home test done which said she was negative for being pregnant. Well, while she was here, she didnt not help pay for anything that we fed her, and we must have spent about $100 for her to eat at least while she was here. Also we had taken her to a doctors for another pregnancy test by her request. My fiance who was in there with her saw that the results were NEGATIVE. The doctor said she definatly was not pregnant but that she did have another problem. Oh, and on this note, my fiance is pregnant and was at that time also. This girl caused my fiance so much stress that she had almost lost the baby. This girl, before leaving told everyone that she was pregnant before leaving. She also was not in before 9 pm any night since she came here. The last straw came one night when she did not show up at all. We sat up waiting for her and even called security at the community college that she went to in order to see if she was still there or what. We got no results there and stayed up watching out for her until 1 am. We had the door wide open the whole time, there was a motion detector light outside that came on to the slightest movement which we checked each time it went off, we looked up the street towards the direction of the Community college a half dozen or more times, and still did not see her. We went to bed then in the morning we finally called security again and told them that she never came home and asked if they would check to see if she was in someones room. They found her which because of rules there she and the friend she was visiting both got into trouble. And to top it off, she had the nerve to lie to our faces and tell us that her and her friend came to our house and yelled through the screen door and pounded on it a little after 10 oclock. Problem being, security has a sign in sign out sheet that EVERY visitor MUST sign in and out on. They told us that she signed out and in 3 times that day. The last time she signed in was earlier before 9 oclock, and she did not sign out until 10:35 pm. Add approximatly 15 min. to walk (which undoubtly took longer for her being shes slower walking) that would mean that she would have been here about 10:50 pm. We were tired of her lies and her disrespect for our rules so we called her mother (which was who brought her down) and told her what was going on and she agreed that it sounded like she was lieing and apologised and promise to come pick her up the next day, which she did. We thought the whole thing was going to end there. But it did not. We were friends with her boyfriend at the time (now ex-boyfriend), and he knew our number. He knew she was there so he called us and asked us for the truth about her. He had planned for a while to break up with her but made his final choice a time after that phone call. He asked us for the truth and asked us if he was hanging out with this one boy that he did not want her hanging around anymore (due to the history of her supposibly cheating on him with this boy...) anyways we honestly told him that they were walking in the halls together and that was all we seen, but that we also heard rumors that people saw them holding hands. That was as far as that went. We never had any contact at any time with this girl except for 2 times when she called us to apologise about another student jumping and our faces and to just talk. that is it and nothing harassing or otherwise was extanged at this time. We were letting the whole thing drop and just to forget the whole thing.
Now for the harassment part: This girl has mailed by post office a letter to a friend of ours (who in turn gave it to us because he didnt want to hear it) in which she wrote that we were lieing about to her boyfriend and telling him that she was hanging out with this other boy. She also wrote that she just lost a baby not too long ago. Later after this letter we were sent I was approched by this boy who proceeded to ask me if we were the ones that told her boyfriend that they were hanging out together. I told him no at the time because I was trying to get to class at the time and I did not have time to deal with him and stuff. He explained to me that she told him she was pregnant but she lost the baby due to the stress that we caused her. I proceeded to tell this boy that 1) She had two tests, one at home and one at the doctors and that both came out negative, 2) The doctor who gave her the negative result said that there was some other problem and told her that she definatly was not pregant at any time, 3) She almost caused my fiance a miscarrage, 4) It was impossible for her at any time to have been pregnant and have had a miscarrage. I told him straight out that this girl was lieing to him about being pregnant and there was no way in (h---) that she could have a miscarrage without being pregnant, expecially since she had a normal period right during our visit. She infact had to borrow some pads off my fiance being that she had none. I also told him that since he has some kind of contact with her, to let her know that if she continues with the telling people that we were lieing about her and spreading lies about us that we would be forced to press harassment charges on her. I also e-mailed her telling her that we were going to press harassment charges on her if this didnt stop and I told her in a nice (and in a legal way) how we felt about the treatment she was giving us and asked her nicely to stop. This boy again approched me at a later time and said we that we needed to talk again (which this time I blew off totally and told him that if it is about this girl I do not care and that I will not listen and that if he continued trying to talk to me about her that I will go forward with pressing harassment charges on her). I did not give him a chance at all to talk to me partly because I was too busy in class getting my education, and partly because I didnt not want to hear it, and partly because I was gone right after class was over with for the day). But I when I arrived home, because of this situation that kept going on, I did call her mother again, and this time I told her that this girl is telling people lies and that they keep comming up to us and telling us what she is saying and that this boy keeps comming up to me and telling me that we need to talk and that I want it to stop and I asked her to tell her daughter to knock it off or I was going to have to press harassment charges on her daughter. She proceeded to tell me that she cannot control what her daughter says (which I agree that she cant and never did say that I wanted her to, I just asked her to tell her daughter to quit before she ends up being charged with harrassment), and she also said that I cannot press harrassment charges against her for telling lies to other people which results in them comming up to me and telling me what she says and bothering me when I am trying to get my education. She also proceeded to say that WE told her boyfriend that she was hanging out with this boy and holding hands and stuff, and forced them to break up. I tried explaining that we only told him that we saw them two hanging out together, to which she cannot actually denie herself being that she saw those two right before they left to go home. I also tried explaining to her that we told him that we heard rumors about them two holding hands, not that we actually seen it, and we even told him that we dont know if those rumors are true or not. But she refused to listen and so I hung up. And last I heard, nobody can "force" someone to break up. HEY YOU! YOU TWO ARE NOT TO BE TOGETHER SO BREAK UP NOW!! Now tell me, would you listen to me if I told you and your significant other to break up? I highly doubt that. If you told me that I would probably come back at you with "Go to (H---)!" I mean I dont think anyone in this world is going to allow anyone to force them to break up.
Now heres the question: Can I legally charge this girl with harassment? And also can I legally charge this boy that keeps comming up to me with harrassment if he dont quit comming up to me about this girl? If not, is there any other legal ways to make these two stop this? I am getting very tired of hearing about this girl, expecially when she lives in a totally different county from us by about almost 2 hours away, and all when we were trying to drop the whole thing. I want to know how to put and end to this whole thing totally.
Thank you and hope that this was not to hard to follow as it was kind of hard for me to make it easyer to read without using their names. I could have used fake names in place of their real names, but I was afraid of slipping up and using their real names and/or confusing you guys. Thank you,
Jason.
P.S. You can send e-mail to me at [email protected] but PLEASE include in the subject line "HARASSMENT QUESTION". Other wise I may deleat your message thinking your just another spammer or web virus sender or whatever and not get any important/good advice. Thank you.
Ok, I am getting very tired of this situation. I am not sure what to do now or where to go or anything. This is going to be a long one so please bear with me. I feel I must tell the story in exact detail so that you all are clear on what the full picture is.
It started a while back when we let a friend of ours stay with us at our house a while back with the understanding that she would help pay for her share of the food and that she would be in BEFORE 9 every night and it was for one week. She came down and stayed for almost 10 days (we let her stay a little longer because originally we changed our mind and was going to let her stay for 2 weeks instead until another situation came up). Before she came down she told us that she suspected that she was pregnant and she had an at home test done which said she was negative for being pregnant. Well, while she was here, she didnt not help pay for anything that we fed her, and we must have spent about $100 for her to eat at least while she was here. Also we had taken her to a doctors for another pregnancy test by her request. My fiance who was in there with her saw that the results were NEGATIVE. The doctor said she definatly was not pregnant but that she did have another problem. Oh, and on this note, my fiance is pregnant and was at that time also. This girl caused my fiance so much stress that she had almost lost the baby. This girl, before leaving told everyone that she was pregnant before leaving. She also was not in before 9 pm any night since she came here. The last straw came one night when she did not show up at all. We sat up waiting for her and even called security at the community college that she went to in order to see if she was still there or what. We got no results there and stayed up watching out for her until 1 am. We had the door wide open the whole time, there was a motion detector light outside that came on to the slightest movement which we checked each time it went off, we looked up the street towards the direction of the Community college a half dozen or more times, and still did not see her. We went to bed then in the morning we finally called security again and told them that she never came home and asked if they would check to see if she was in someones room. They found her which because of rules there she and the friend she was visiting both got into trouble. And to top it off, she had the nerve to lie to our faces and tell us that her and her friend came to our house and yelled through the screen door and pounded on it a little after 10 oclock. Problem being, security has a sign in sign out sheet that EVERY visitor MUST sign in and out on. They told us that she signed out and in 3 times that day. The last time she signed in was earlier before 9 oclock, and she did not sign out until 10:35 pm. Add approximatly 15 min. to walk (which undoubtly took longer for her being shes slower walking) that would mean that she would have been here about 10:50 pm. We were tired of her lies and her disrespect for our rules so we called her mother (which was who brought her down) and told her what was going on and she agreed that it sounded like she was lieing and apologised and promise to come pick her up the next day, which she did. We thought the whole thing was going to end there. But it did not. We were friends with her boyfriend at the time (now ex-boyfriend), and he knew our number. He knew she was there so he called us and asked us for the truth about her. He had planned for a while to break up with her but made his final choice a time after that phone call. He asked us for the truth and asked us if he was hanging out with this one boy that he did not want her hanging around anymore (due to the history of her supposibly cheating on him with this boy...) anyways we honestly told him that they were walking in the halls together and that was all we seen, but that we also heard rumors that people saw them holding hands. That was as far as that went. We never had any contact at any time with this girl except for 2 times when she called us to apologise about another student jumping and our faces and to just talk. that is it and nothing harassing or otherwise was extanged at this time. We were letting the whole thing drop and just to forget the whole thing.
Now for the harassment part: This girl has mailed by post office a letter to a friend of ours (who in turn gave it to us because he didnt want to hear it) in which she wrote that we were lieing about to her boyfriend and telling him that she was hanging out with this other boy. She also wrote that she just lost a baby not too long ago. Later after this letter we were sent I was approched by this boy who proceeded to ask me if we were the ones that told her boyfriend that they were hanging out together. I told him no at the time because I was trying to get to class at the time and I did not have time to deal with him and stuff. He explained to me that she told him she was pregnant but she lost the baby due to the stress that we caused her. I proceeded to tell this boy that 1) She had two tests, one at home and one at the doctors and that both came out negative, 2) The doctor who gave her the negative result said that there was some other problem and told her that she definatly was not pregant at any time, 3) She almost caused my fiance a miscarrage, 4) It was impossible for her at any time to have been pregnant and have had a miscarrage. I told him straight out that this girl was lieing to him about being pregnant and there was no way in (h---) that she could have a miscarrage without being pregnant, expecially since she had a normal period right during our visit. She infact had to borrow some pads off my fiance being that she had none. I also told him that since he has some kind of contact with her, to let her know that if she continues with the telling people that we were lieing about her and spreading lies about us that we would be forced to press harassment charges on her. I also e-mailed her telling her that we were going to press harassment charges on her if this didnt stop and I told her in a nice (and in a legal way) how we felt about the treatment she was giving us and asked her nicely to stop. This boy again approched me at a later time and said we that we needed to talk again (which this time I blew off totally and told him that if it is about this girl I do not care and that I will not listen and that if he continued trying to talk to me about her that I will go forward with pressing harassment charges on her). I did not give him a chance at all to talk to me partly because I was too busy in class getting my education, and partly because I didnt not want to hear it, and partly because I was gone right after class was over with for the day). But I when I arrived home, because of this situation that kept going on, I did call her mother again, and this time I told her that this girl is telling people lies and that they keep comming up to us and telling us what she is saying and that this boy keeps comming up to me and telling me that we need to talk and that I want it to stop and I asked her to tell her daughter to knock it off or I was going to have to press harassment charges on her daughter. She proceeded to tell me that she cannot control what her daughter says (which I agree that she cant and never did say that I wanted her to, I just asked her to tell her daughter to quit before she ends up being charged with harrassment), and she also said that I cannot press harrassment charges against her for telling lies to other people which results in them comming up to me and telling me what she says and bothering me when I am trying to get my education. She also proceeded to say that WE told her boyfriend that she was hanging out with this boy and holding hands and stuff, and forced them to break up. I tried explaining that we only told him that we saw them two hanging out together, to which she cannot actually denie herself being that she saw those two right before they left to go home. I also tried explaining to her that we told him that we heard rumors about them two holding hands, not that we actually seen it, and we even told him that we dont know if those rumors are true or not. But she refused to listen and so I hung up. And last I heard, nobody can "force" someone to break up. HEY YOU! YOU TWO ARE NOT TO BE TOGETHER SO BREAK UP NOW!! Now tell me, would you listen to me if I told you and your significant other to break up? I highly doubt that. If you told me that I would probably come back at you with "Go to (H---)!" I mean I dont think anyone in this world is going to allow anyone to force them to break up.
Now heres the question: Can I legally charge this girl with harassment? And also can I legally charge this boy that keeps comming up to me with harrassment if he dont quit comming up to me about this girl? If not, is there any other legal ways to make these two stop this? I am getting very tired of hearing about this girl, expecially when she lives in a totally different county from us by about almost 2 hours away, and all when we were trying to drop the whole thing. I want to know how to put and end to this whole thing totally.
Thank you and hope that this was not to hard to follow as it was kind of hard for me to make it easyer to read without using their names. I could have used fake names in place of their real names, but I was afraid of slipping up and using their real names and/or confusing you guys. Thank you,
Jason.
P.S. You can send e-mail to me at [email protected] but PLEASE include in the subject line "HARASSMENT QUESTION". Other wise I may deleat your message thinking your just another spammer or web virus sender or whatever and not get any important/good advice. Thank you.