Has anyone gained FULL Custody?

[KarenWalker]

What is the name of your state?TX

Has anyone gotten full custody of their children after previously having joint custody? How did the children react to the change in primary household?

Our children will be moving from out of state, any suggestions to ease the transition?

THANKS!

 

[starbud99]

ya know, I havent yet heard of very many people getting full custody. Good luck to you. And if you already got Full Custody.... tell me your secrets

 

[bliss_in_texas]

ya know, I havent yet heard of very many people getting full custody. Good luck to you. And if you already got Full Custody.... tell me your secrets

I have full custody and always have, it's just always been that way, my ex didn't want any custody.

 

[LdiJ]

I have full custody and always have, it's just always been that way, my ex didn't want any custody.

That is one of the few scenarios though where full custody is given anymore.
These days its almost a given that joint legal custody (joint decision making) will be ordered unless one of the parents is totally dysfunctional.....and various forms of joint physical custody are becoming more and more common, even if the timeshare isn't 50/50.

 

[TNBSMommy]

I have full custody due to the father not showing up for a visitation hearing. The judge suspended his rights, and awarded me sole custody, the kids didn't see their father for around a year....It was hard with our daughter, but our son didn't seem to care all that much, he is a roll with the punches kind of guy...

 

[bliss_in_texas]

I have full custody due to the father not showing up for a visitation hearing. The judge suspended his rights, and awarded me sole custody, the kids didn't see their father for around a year....It was hard with our daughter, but our son didn't seem to care all that much, he is a roll with the punches kind of guy...

What I've recently discovered through my own experience is this...no matter if you have sole custody, if the other parent is absent forever and a day, as soon as that absent parent files a motion, the courts will give him or her the SOP, no matter what they've done in the past. (Barring some criminal situation). It's easier and cheaper to swallow what the court orders and wait until the ncp show's disappears from their childs life..again..
It sucks but it's what happens.

 

[jslopez711]

What I've recently discovered through my own experience is this...no matter if you have sole custody, if the other parent is absent forever and a day, as soon as that absent parent files a motion, the courts will give him or her the SOP, no matter what they've done in the past. (Barring some criminal situation). It's easier and cheaper to swallow what the court orders and wait until the ncp show's disappears from their childs life..again..
It sucks but it's what happens.

So, save $$ on lawyer fees and LISTEN.

 

[mom6stepmom2]

My husband had joint legal/physical custody for 3 years. Lost his job due to downsizing and couldn't find another job. I was living in another state with our 2 children(this is long story for another time). After much soul searching and anguish over leaving his two children, he gave his ex wife legal/physical custody. After 1 1/2 years he filed for sole physical custody. Granted his ex wife was screwing up pretty bad at the time, but he was granted custody. The kids came to live with us. The kids were living with mom on east coast now they live with us on west coast. They haven't seen mom in 11 months.


I have sole legal/physical custody of my 4 children. Ex husband was in a big hurry to be rid of me. Girlfriend waiting in the wings. We went to mediation over custody. Absolutely no arguements from him over who would have custody. In fact the visitation was completely his idea. E/O weekend from Sunday after church till school Tuesday morning. He did not request in the paperwork nor has he ever requested since a dinner night. He requested one week of vacation per year. In the 4 years since our divorce he has taken the a grand total of 0 weeks of vacation. Works for me. He is too self centered and childish to have the kids any additional times. And oh, his little hunny he left me for? She left him at the 11 month mark. Her reason? He had to pay too much child/spousal support and couldn't support her in the manner she would like to be accustomed to. Go figure. He wasn't very forthcoming with his portfolio before they moved in together.

 

[bliss_in_texas]

So, save $$ on lawyer fees and LISTEN.

You know, you are a broken record. *I* am not the one causing the problem. Even with the SOP, he wants more and more and more and more and then when I agree, he wants something different. The issue is not the child, it's him trying to cause me financial problems through litigation. His lawyer sends four to five faxes to my lawyer every week! There is no point to this and there is one aim on his part and it is not about our child. So, stop smarting off about what you don't know and stick to the thread at hand.

 

[jslopez711]

You know, you are a broken record. *I* am not the one causing the problem.

Of course your are not , if you had agreed to SOP in mediation, this would have never happened.

 

[LdiJ]

Of course your are not , if you had agreed to SOP in mediation, this would have never happened.

You know what....I agree with her that sometimes you are like a "broken record". If a parent, mom OR dad is awol for a signficant amount of time then the other parents is NOT in the wrong for not just immediately agreeing to SOP.

Ok...sure...lets take a parent who has become a virtual stranger to a child and just automatically turn them over for SOP....without any period of reintroduction or anything else....that is certainly in the best interests of a child

 

[jslopez711]

You know what....I agree with her that sometimes you are like a "broken record". If a parent, mom OR dad is awol for a signficant amount of time then the other parents is NOT in the wrong for not just immediately agreeing to SOP.

Ok...sure...lets take a parent who has become a virtual stranger to a child and just automatically turn them over for SOP....without any period of reintroduction or anything else....that is certainly in the best interests of a child

And although you may certanly have an argument, you must remember that in this case the judge ordered them to a 30 day reintroduction period. SOP is almost stanard after this. That is MY point, there is only so much anyone can do before SOP is part of your life here in TEXAS, our great state.

 

[LdiJ]

And although you may certanly have an argument, you must remember that in this case the judge ordered them to a 30 day reintroduction period. SOP is almost stanard after this. That is MY point, there is only so much anyone can do before SOP is part of your life here in TEXAS, our great state.

Well...I agree that its inevitable that standard visitation is eventually going to be ordered..(assuming that the parent follows through)....and that applies everywhere, not just Texas. I tell parents that all the time. But that doesn't mean that a parent is required to, or should, simply roll over and agree to it if the child clearly isn't ready.

I have a real problem with awol parents (mom OR dad) who walk away for long periods of time and then just expect to waltz back in and have everything their way. Quite frankly I think that they should be made to work, and work hard, to get back to standard rights. Again...I don't care if they are the mom OR the dad.