He did it again!!!

[Raisingmaddy]

What is the name of your state Washington

Going back to court tomorrow. It is supposed to be the final presentation of the new "adjusted" child support orders.

Last time, ex filed something with the courts called a "Motion/Declaration to provide oral testimony" I had no idea what this was prior to going into court, but I found out in court that he was requesting a significant amount of money deducted from the child support for his transportation costs (he is the one that moved so far away) He even told the judge in court that he sent me a copy of the motion he submitted, which of course he did not. I had to get a copy of it from the court house.

Anyways, he was granted a deduction from the child support. I couldn't believe it, but what the judge actually said was "In Washington we allow custodial parents to move away (which has nothing to do with my case) so we of course do not see it a problem if the non-custodial parent moves away. The courts understand that ncp may have a new relationship, or job position for the reason to move, but it doesn't matter to us what it is" he then said " Even though the ncp moved away for a new relationship, I think he should get a credit on his child support since he has a great distance to drive" I have to say, even though he got a deduction, he did not get the amount he asked for. The amount he asked for was so huge, it was MORE than he even pays for child support, if he would have gotten the full amount I would have to pay him every month after his deduction.

Sorry this is so long, but fast forward to now... after being hit with that surprise in court, and since he was granted part of it the States Attorney had to draw up new orders and they are supposed to be finalized tomorrow. So, I looked on the Court website last night and almost fell out of my chair. He filed ANOTHER motion/declaration to provide oral tesitmony AND a "Letter".

Again, I have NOT received a copy of what he is now asking the judge to change in our order. I know it is going to be something significant, but not sure what. He purposely files things the Friday before court on Monday, but he isn't sending me a copy of it. Due to this I am not able to have the information to be able to properly defend/provide information. Is this supposed to be allowed? If not, can I ask for it to be dismissed or at the least continued?

Thank you!

 

[CJane]

I would FO SHO ask for it to be dismissed due to lack of proper service, or in the alternative, to be continued to a later date to give him an opportunity to serve you/for you to prepare a response.

 

[Raisingmaddy]

Update...

Court was today at 4:00 p.m. I was actually served at 3:09 today with the motion he filed on Friday so at least I was able to know what he was trying for in court.

He is arguing the monthly amount of childcare I pay to try to reduce his support even lower (he was just granted transportation costs). I submitted even more documentation to verify the childcare amounts are accurate.

The other item in the motion he is requesting is to be able to designate his parents to pick up our children on his weekends. He is supposed to pick them up eo Friday @ 7:00 p.m. and return them Sunday @ 7.m. He has not been picking the kiddos up until Saturday morning for at least the last eight or so months.

There are several issues with this. First of all, he doesn't even show up on many of his weekends whatsoever, yet he is getting a flat amount off child support for his transportation costs. On many occassions if his parents have picked up the kids, he doesn't even come to town, but he would like his parents to have the kids and STILL get the transportation deduction.

His parents cause significant issues on a regular basis, and I would prefer NOT to have them included in our parenting agreement. He told the judge what he wanted, and the judge asked me if I disagreed with this. I explained to the judge I would prefer that if ex insists on someone else picking the children up Fridays, that he choose someone other than his parents due to the conflict they cause. The judge agreed with me, and told the ex if he can't make it when he is supposed to, and wants them picked up anyways then he needs to come up with someone other than his parents. I am SOOO relieved!!!!

I do have a question about the childcare issues and would appreciate some suggestions. Our children have been going to the Boys and Girls Club since 2004, the monthly rates have changed several times over the years. I currently pay a total of approx. "150" per month right now. Our children have always gone to the club on a regular basis, however, this last year due to child having Mono, and several other reasons their were several months they didn't go at all. Instead of using the monthly amount I pay, my ex wants to average out the total paid by the LAST twelve months, to have the monthly amount counted reduced SIGNIFICANTLY to about $22.00 per monthwhen I actually pay more than that. I completely disagree with this, because they will be going every single month in the future, they didn't go during that time due to certain reasons beyond my control. I hope this part makes sense, any suggestions would be GREATLY appreciated.

I also want to thank EVERYONE for all of the help you have already given me. Even if I didn't always like the answer, you have TRULY helped me co-parent SO much better. Now, before I do anything, I always think...what would Ohiogal say...