help custody question

[mishanded]

What is the name of your state? Illinois
My husband got custody of his two children, 16 and 17 last year. Since then the mother has not taken the kids over night once and has only picked them up a handful of times for a few hours.
A few days ago, his som, 18, got in trouble for his room being messy. He decided to leave and go to his moms house, he said for a few days. Now he calls us and wants to move back to his moms house. We had a GAL in our custody case. It was decided that the children were better with us. His son was sixteen at the time and a freshman for the third year in school. We do not want to let him move back with her. He is much better off here, but now his mom is telling him she will do what he wants if he comes back. Since he is 17, will be 18 in September, can he decide where he wants to live? Can we make him come back home ?

 

[Litigation!]

What is the name of your state? Illinois
My husband got custody of his two children, 16 and 17 last year. Since then the mother has not taken the kids over night once and has only picked them up a handful of times for a few hours.
A few days ago, his som, 18, got in trouble for his room being messy. He decided to leave and go to his moms house, he said for a few days. Now he calls us and wants to move back to his moms house. We had a GAL in our custody case. It was decided that the children were better with us. His son was sixteen at the time and a freshman for the third year in school. We do not want to let him move back with her. He is much better off here, but now his mom is telling him she will do what he wants if he comes back. Since he is 17, will be 18 in September, can he decide where he wants to live? Can we make him come back home ?

My response:

No, you can't. Leave the kid alone.

IAAL

 

[stealth2]

his som, 18, <snip> Since he is 17, will be 18 in September

So.... which is it? Is he 17? Or 18?

 

[mishanded]

sorry .... a typo he is 17, soon to be 18.

 

[Litigation!]

sorry .... a typo he is 17, soon to be 18.

My response:

I maintain my answer. Bank the money you'll be saving, and take a vacation to Vegas. The kid isn't worth it.

IAAL

 

[weenor]

Your home may be better for him...but if you force the issue he won't see it that way and at this age...its too late. If his mother is willing to put with an unemployed kid with nothing to do, let her support him... the raising is done and it will be what it will be.

 

[SingleMom67]

My response:

I maintain my answer. Bank the money you'll be saving, and take a vacation to Vegas. The kid isn't worth it.

IAAL

Bullsh$t. As long as the kid is under 18 he's legally considered a minor. He needs to return to his father. Tell him he can go live anywhere he feels like it on his birthday in September!!

[If you really were IAAL (you freakin' troll), you'd know that.]

 

[Litigation!]

Bullsh$t. As long as the kid is under 18 he's legally considered a minor. He needs to return to his father. Tell him he can go live anywhere he feels like it on his birthday in September!!

[If you really were IAAL (you freakin' troll), you'd know that.]

My response:

Oh, and here's a person that KNOWS!!

How do you suggest that our writer get the kid back? Drag him by the hair? Call the police (they won't help)? Go back into court? The kid couldn't care less about what a court thinks or says.

So, what would you suggest? Hmmmmm?

You see, you don't know a damn thing. You've never dealt with these issues. You're just an emotional female. Well, guess what? Your "emotions" and a dime won't buy you a cup of coffee.

IAAL

 

[SingleMom67]

My response:

Oh, and here's a person that KNOWS!!

How do you suggest that our writer get the kid back? Drag him by the hair? Call the police (they won't help)? Go back into court? The kid couldn't care less about what a court thinks or says.

So, what would you suggest? Hmmmmm?

You see, you don't know a damn thing. You've never dealt with these issues. You're just an emotional female. Well, guess what? Your "emotions" and a dime won't buy you a cup of coffee.

IAAL

Yawn. You're such a waste of space. Bottom line is it's not up to the kid. The are a number of options to the father. And the comment, "You've never dealth with these issues." Hon, it's my profession. I "deal" with it EVERYDAY!!! Now will the real IAAL please stand up.

 

[Litigation!]

Yawn. You're such a waste of space. Bottom line is it's not up to the kid. The are a number of options to the father. And the comment, "You've never dealth with these issues." Hon, it's my profession. I "deal" with it EVERYDAY!!! Now will the real IAAL please stand up.

My response:

Gee, that's funny. I didn't read any legal, workable, suggestions. C'mon, we're all waiting and would love to know what you'd do.

IAAL

 

[SingleMom67]

My response:

Gee, that's funny. I didn't read any legal, workable, suggestions. C'mon, we're all waiting and would love to know what you'd do.

IAAL

I refuse to engage a troll.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

I agree with Weenor and IAAL, it would cost too much to force Sonnyboy back home. He won't finish school and he and his mother will tire of each other in the mean time, use some of the money you save on new locks and get an unlisted phone number.

 

[Litigation!]

I refuse to engage a troll.

My response:

Ah, that's what I thought. You're just an emotional female. It's so easy to throw out "names" when the writer is asking for help, and you seem to think you have the answer!

So, help her! Give her your thoughts and ideas. She wants her 17 year old back at home. Don't you have any ideas?

IAAL

 

[LdiJ]

I agree with Weenor and IAAL, it would cost too much to force Sonnyboy back home. He won't finish school and he and his mother will tire of each other in the mean time, use some of the money you save on new locks and get an unlisted phone number.

I agree as well. You'd have to drag mom into court for contempt, and by the time it was all over the kid would be so close to 18, that a judge probably wouldn't bother to buck his wishes....and a few months later, after spending a ton of money, you would be right back in the same position that you are in now.