HELP!!! My daughter's best friend's Mom is accusing me of...

[dismayedone]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? Illinois

liking her son (he's nearly 13) in an inappropriate manner. I have had several run ins with his mother before, but never anything of this nature. She was angry at me for saying that I didn't want to (we were friends) talk to her anymore unless it was in direct relation to the kids. So she called up and said for the past year she has been worried about the "nature" of my relationship with her son and said she had been watching a lot of stories about Mary Kay Letourneau. Now this kid has been allowed to come over here and watch movies until late at night, has even spent the night here once at their request and was over here the day before yesterday which is the day she made the accusation. I think she is unhinged and has no legal recourse available, but I am still frightened as these are potentially very serious allegations. I have been very nice to her son, taken him places with our family, bought him the occasional small item (I can't buy stuff for my kids and not get something for their friends, that's just me). She emailed me and said she was sorry for saying it and that I had been very good to him. Then after a phone conversation in which I told her I still didn't think he should come over here anymore in case they try to start something again, she emailed me AGAIN and said "I've changed my mind and we are going to look into it". I saved all these emails and contacted the police and asked them to ask her not to contact me again. So far we haven't heard anything else. Should I be concerned? If she carries on with these ridiculous accusations do I have any legal recourse??? Thank you.

 

[JETX]

Should I be concerned?

No.

If she carries on with these ridiculous accusations do I have any legal recourse???

Depends entirely on what, if anything, she does.

 

[dismayedone]

Thanks! I appreciate the feedback!

I feel a bit better now!

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

I feel a bit better now!

My response:

You really shouldn't.

Being dragged through the criminal justice system, whether innocent or guilty, in no walk through the park. So, if she has her son testify to your acts, it won't matter what her e-mails said to you. What matters is that the boy testifies against you, because the crimes were committed against him, and not Momma Bear.

Get ready for the most expensive and emotional ride of your life, and remember to put your seatbelt on.

IAAL

 

[rmet4nzkx]

My response:

You really shouldn't.

Being dragged through the criminal justice system, whether innocent or guilty, in no walk through the park. So, if she has her son testify to your acts, it won't matter what her e-mails said to you. What matters is that the boy testifies against you, because the crimes were committed against him, and not Momma Bear.

Get ready for the most expensive and emotional ride of your life, and remember to put your seatbelt on.

IAAL

I was thinking the same thing, these days there is so much bizzare stuff happening in the news, it doesn't take much to blow something out of porportion and find one's self defending something that never happened. I would be very cautious, keep some distance and document anything that happens.

 

[JETX]

My response:

You really shouldn't.

Being dragged through the criminal justice system, whether innocent or guilty, in no walk through the park.

I agree. However in this case, as long as the OP has in fact done NOTHING improper, I see absolutely NO concern for some parent alleging misconduct to saying, "I've changed my mind and we are going to look into it". If we all 'quaked in our boots' everytime some idiot made such an overly broad and vague statement.... we would never leave home.

So, if she has her son testify to your acts, it won't matter what her e-mails said to you. What matters is that the boy testifies against you, because the crimes were committed against him, and not Momma Bear.

With all due respect, where did you get the idea that the son has said ANYTHING (much less to testify) about improper conduct or any crimes being committed?? The only FACT made in the post is that 'Momma Bear' is alleging. At this point, we have to assume that this is all just a figment of a warped imagination.

Oh, and 'rmet4nzkx', I think you have been 'liking your neighbors son or daughter in an inappropriate manner' and have decided that I am "going to look into it". Does that have you scared??? Are you concerned about my allegation?? Do you 'feel' the slap of the handcuffs yet??? Of course not... no more than this OP does.... or should.

 

[dismayedone]

Okay, please keep in mind that she is unhinged...

every time anything happens in her life she lashes out at someone and in the past year it has been me on more than one occasion. Yet I still kept talking to her, stupid I know. As for those of you that think I will be "dragged through the criminal justice system" I really don't think that will happen. He son is a close friend of this family and is not a liar. Since he called here yesterday crying asking why I had called the police on his mother, I would suppose that he has NO idea what they have been saying about me. He's angry at ME because he doesn't have a clue why I had to cut him out of our lives. I was advised by my father, who is an attorney, to sever all ties completely and yes I have been documenting everything. All phone calls, emails, everything. Emails have been saved to disc and submitted to the authorities and copies of phone records are on their way. Anything else I should do???

 

[dismayedone]

Oh and "I am always liable"

no crimes were committed! NONE!! So there is nothing for her son to testify to. I am assuming that you are a prosecutor?

 

[sue99]

no crimes were committed! NONE!! So there is nothing for her son to testify to. I am assuming that you are a prosecutor?

Don't assume that these people on here who pretend to be experts, are anything. For the most part they don't have law degrees, but they would like you to believe they do.

You don't need anyone's advice on here, because you already got excellent advice from your father!