help needed please

[done wrong dad]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? Florida
The night before visitation my ex (The Custodial) calls and trys to argue so i get fustrated and change my mind about visitation. Of course it doesnt work and she comes up with excuses so I cant get them. For instance I am suppose to go see them tommarrow and spend the night in a hotel with the kids. She let me know today that my youngest has a b day party to go to all night. He wont be with me. By the time I leave to see them tommarrow she will have excuses about my other two kids. She tries her hardest to keep me out of their lives even with my court order visitation including Thanksgiving I did not see them.What can I do.. Please help..

 

[candi4687]

Do you have the papers stating the court ordered times and dates as to when your visitaions are?

 

[done wrong dad]

Yes I do. I always bring them with me to get kids. If that would even help.
This has been a ongoing battle for 3 years and I am getting tired. I can count on one hand how many times I see and talk to my kids. The whole situation has been impossible.

 

[candi4687]

here is what I suggest..

Make sure you take a copy with you stating when you are supposed to get your children each and every time! If she fails to let you have your children on the court ordered dates then you can probably go to the local police department and get them to go there to see to it that you get your children. Also make sure when you go to court that you document everything as to when you see your kids or even what happens once you do. Without the court papers the cops wont do ANYTHING!! Basically thats all I can tell you since I don't know all the circumstances. Maybe that will help you though. Good luck and hopefully someone can tell you more on here to help.

ALWAYS DOCUMENT EVERYTHING!!!!

 

[done wrong dad]

Thank You. I will do that but driving 8 hours one way and not get the kids kills me. I wish my ex wouldnt act like one of the kids. I hope I am not wasting gas tomarrow. If I just see them It will be great. Thanks again

 

[candi4687]

I hope not for you, If I were you I would atleast look up the phone number to the local police department there and see weither or not someone could go with you there if she does refuse the visitaion. You seem to be a genuine dad and it should show her something with you going that far to see them so the least she could do is follow the orders as well. Good Luck again and I hope you can say after this is all done that you got to see your kids and had a great time in doing so.

 

[loving dad]

Good Luck!! I was suppose to have my son over Thanksgiving Weekend and he didn't want to come cuz all of his immediate family was going to be there. The CP said that he didn't have to come if he didn't want to. I went to the house and no one would answer the door. Came home and called the police and was told that they can't ENFORCE it. I just went through this again 2 weeks ago and again didn't get my son. Now I''m suppose to have him tomorrow for the weekend and he said that his mom is throwing a New Years Eve Party and he doesn't have to come if he doesn't want to. What's the good of CO papers if I can't get help from the local police? If the shoe was on the other foot, I'm sure the police would be there to help her out. Any suggestions on how to get my son for visits?

 

[AisforApple]

loving dad

My suggestion,

Put your foot down, tell him he is going like it or not.
It is not upto him, and nothing is more important then a child spending time getting to know his father.

do it by the book, black and white (no "gray" areas)

demand you get your court ordered time, when push comes to shove document with a tape recorder or a police report, and take that bia*** to court.

 

[casa]

Good Luck!! I was suppose to have my son over Thanksgiving Weekend and he didn't want to come cuz all of his immediate family was going to be there. The CP said that he didn't have to come if he didn't want to. I went to the house and no one would answer the door. Came home and called the police and was told that they can't ENFORCE it. I just went through this again 2 weeks ago and again didn't get my son. Now I''m suppose to have him tomorrow for the weekend and he said that his mom is throwing a New Years Eve Party and he doesn't have to come if he doesn't want to. What's the good of CO papers if I can't get help from the local police? If the shoe was on the other foot, I'm sure the police would be there to help her out. Any suggestions on how to get my son for visits?

The officer may not choose to physically FORCE the child to go with you- BUT they do have to take a report if you demand one be made. You will then have a report that you 1) showed up for your court ordered visitation, 2) Have copy of court order on hand and 3)notified police and requested a report be made.

Then you take the reports to the court and file for contempt. If you do this EVERY single time she pulls this, she will either A) Stop it. or B) Eventually be cited for contempt.

Do not give up on your kid because one officer chose not to help you and you didn't know to push for a police report. Also, many many officers do 'strongly advise' parents to adhere to court order. The ones that don't choose, still have to take a report from you if you demand it.