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Beth2
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Hello,
I truly hope someone can help me here as I am at my wits end. My 15-year-old son is completly out of control. About a year ago he got into trouble at school (he watched the door while a drug deal was being made in the bathroom) I pulled him out of school and began to home school him in hopes that I could keep a better eye on him and the choices he was making. He then made friends with an older crowd- boys aged 17-18 who come from troubled homes (no food, drugs, little parental involvement,police records etc.) He has now completely gone off the deep end and I have no control over him. He is four inches taller than me and out weighs me by at least 100 pounds. I ground him and he disappears once I go to sleep. He has not committed any crimes (or at least hasn't been caught) yet. He steals from me and breaks into the house in the middle of the night to take food. He has been missing this time for the past three days. When he does reappear and I try to talk to him he screams and yells. I anticipate him being thrown out of the homeschool program next week as he is not doing his school work. He will then be placed in a continuation high school program. My understanding is that A) I can be put in jail if he does not show up for school. B) If he is placed in juvenile hall I am responsible for the fees and C) I am financially liable for any crimes he happens to commit. I have tried to get him into counseling but he refuses to show up and I am them forced to pay 100.00 that I cannot afford for every no-show. The counselor said he can only help someone who wants help themselves and my son does not fit that definition. I have two other children both extremely well behaved honor roll kids. I provide a good, stable home. I do not drink alcohol or use drugs. I feel as if I am being held hostage by my son. What can I do???
I truly hope someone can help me here as I am at my wits end. My 15-year-old son is completly out of control. About a year ago he got into trouble at school (he watched the door while a drug deal was being made in the bathroom) I pulled him out of school and began to home school him in hopes that I could keep a better eye on him and the choices he was making. He then made friends with an older crowd- boys aged 17-18 who come from troubled homes (no food, drugs, little parental involvement,police records etc.) He has now completely gone off the deep end and I have no control over him. He is four inches taller than me and out weighs me by at least 100 pounds. I ground him and he disappears once I go to sleep. He has not committed any crimes (or at least hasn't been caught) yet. He steals from me and breaks into the house in the middle of the night to take food. He has been missing this time for the past three days. When he does reappear and I try to talk to him he screams and yells. I anticipate him being thrown out of the homeschool program next week as he is not doing his school work. He will then be placed in a continuation high school program. My understanding is that A) I can be put in jail if he does not show up for school. B) If he is placed in juvenile hall I am responsible for the fees and C) I am financially liable for any crimes he happens to commit. I have tried to get him into counseling but he refuses to show up and I am them forced to pay 100.00 that I cannot afford for every no-show. The counselor said he can only help someone who wants help themselves and my son does not fit that definition. I have two other children both extremely well behaved honor roll kids. I provide a good, stable home. I do not drink alcohol or use drugs. I feel as if I am being held hostage by my son. What can I do???