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kumari
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What is the name of your state? NJ
I didnt really know where else to turn so I am asking your advice. I have a very weird situation. My sister didnt want to live with my parents anymore (really bad home environment) when she was 11yrs old and decided to move in with me while i went to college (i was 19) Bad move on my part I know but I just wanted to give her a better life. I supported her with everything paying for private school when I was living in a bad neighborhood, food, rent, etc and received no child support from my parents since they said it was my choice to take her. I have been working and going to school full time so unfortunately I didnt spend alot of time with her. Somewhere I went wrong, since last year she has been very uncontrollable, coming home at 4 am, i found out she started smoking, doing marijuana, drinking, and now dating a 19 yr old. She brings guys home when she wants even though I try to establish rules, (grounding etc) I just feel that my hands are tied. I have been in contact with our parents, and they say to just kick her out. But I cant do that because I am worried of what will happen to her. I never got legal guardian of her, though she lives with me. What are my options? Am I held responsible for her if she commits a crime etc? She is also starting to become a truant and I am working with the school on this. It has been really hard for me I have tried talking to her, reasoning, telling her i love her, getting her counseling and I am just so fed up and confused. Any ideas and suggestions?
Thanks for your help!!!!!
I didnt really know where else to turn so I am asking your advice. I have a very weird situation. My sister didnt want to live with my parents anymore (really bad home environment) when she was 11yrs old and decided to move in with me while i went to college (i was 19) Bad move on my part I know but I just wanted to give her a better life. I supported her with everything paying for private school when I was living in a bad neighborhood, food, rent, etc and received no child support from my parents since they said it was my choice to take her. I have been working and going to school full time so unfortunately I didnt spend alot of time with her. Somewhere I went wrong, since last year she has been very uncontrollable, coming home at 4 am, i found out she started smoking, doing marijuana, drinking, and now dating a 19 yr old. She brings guys home when she wants even though I try to establish rules, (grounding etc) I just feel that my hands are tied. I have been in contact with our parents, and they say to just kick her out. But I cant do that because I am worried of what will happen to her. I never got legal guardian of her, though she lives with me. What are my options? Am I held responsible for her if she commits a crime etc? She is also starting to become a truant and I am working with the school on this. It has been really hard for me I have tried talking to her, reasoning, telling her i love her, getting her counseling and I am just so fed up and confused. Any ideas and suggestions?
Thanks for your help!!!!!