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[ReneeCT]

What is the name of your state? CT

My husband and I are foster parents of our nephew who is 3. At the time he came to live with us he was 1 1/2. The reason he lives with us is his mother went to jail and the father was already in jail. He has never met his father before and had been in 3 foster homes before he came to live with us. We are moving to South Carolina at the end of this month, we actully thought his mother would be out last Feb. but was not releasd. DCF, the mother and the father have all know we planned on moving since Nov. of 05. DCF did not want to do inter-state foster care because they would have to file to terminate the parents rights and we would have to agree to adopt him. If it came down to that then we would, but DCF recommended we transfer guardianship to us. Well the mother is agreeing with the transfer but the father is not. He has been out of jail since June of last year and has done the minimum to try and get his son back. He still only has one visit for and hour a week. We have guardianship court today and I am nervous that it wont go through and our nephew may have to go to another foster home at the end of this month. DCF did mention the jusde may let him come with us until the trial is over! Has anyone ever heard of this? I just feel like DCF is backing us into a corner were no matter what my husband and I are going to have issues. Either guardianship and the parents take us to court in CT when we live in SC or inter-state but we have to agree to adopt him and it is to late for inter-state because it could take months for it to go through and he would have to go to another home anyway! I feel so awful for my nephew in this ! We are so confused and don't know what to do! HELP!

 

[Silverplum]

What is the name of your state? CT

My husband and I are foster parents of our nephew who is 3. At the time he came to live with us he was 1 1/2. The reason he lives with us is his mother went to jail and the father was already in jail. He has never met his father before and had been in 3 foster homes before he came to live with us. We are moving to South Carolina at the end of this month, we actully thought his mother would be out last Feb. but was not releasd. DCF, the mother and the father have all know we planned on moving since Nov. of 05. DCF did not want to do inter-state foster care because they would have to file to terminate the parents rights and we would have to agree to adopt him. If it came down to that then we would, but DCF recommended we transfer guardianship to us. Well the mother is agreeing with the transfer but the father is not. He has been out of jail since June of last year and has done the minimum to try and get his son back. He still only has one visit for and hour a week. We have guardianship court today and I am nervous that it wont go through and our nephew may have to go to another foster home at the end of this month. DCF did mention the jusde may let him come with us until the trial is over! Has anyone ever heard of this? I just feel like DCF is backing us into a corner were no matter what my husband and I are going to have issues. Either guardianship and the parents take us to court in CT when we live in SC or inter-state but we have to agree to adopt him and it is to late for inter-state because it could take months for it to go through and he would have to go to another home anyway! I feel so awful for my nephew in this ! We are so confused and don't know what to do! HELP!

Double post -- also in Juvenile Law.
So I'm double-posting my exact same answer:


You've already started 4 other threads on this general topic. The advice doesn't change.

And besides, I thought you *hated* FA and were going someplace else?

 

[ReneeCT]

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Double post -- also in Juvenile Law.
So I'm double-posting my exact same answer:


You've already started 4 other threads on this general topic. The advice doesn't change.

And besides, I thought you *hated* FA and were going someplace else?

This is the 2nd thread because I thought that I posted this under the wrong topic. I never said I hated it! I said that I disliked it and if I could never get any answers to my questions then why bother. This is a completly different topic then my last post so I figured I would give it a try. Anyway,we went to court today and the guardianship was continued for a few months. However, the judge may let him come with us under foster care until the trial. So we have to go back on the 7th of July. If the mother is saying yes I want him to go and the father is saying no he doesn't... does anyone know what the chances are that the judge may let him come with us?

 

[stealth2]

This isn't significantly different from your post in January of this year. https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=304195 In addition, there appears to be some issue with your husband moving his child to SC, with the mother objecting. Neither of these situations really exist in a vaccuum, so you'd be wise to keep them all together. IMO.