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[22inMD]

What is the name of your state? MD
Here's my situation.....I'm 22, in the Army in MD, and I just had my son at the end of May this year. He's a beautiful baby and I love him dearly, but this is definitely not the right time and place in my life for me to be a mother. I would like to put him up for adoption, but the father doesn't want to do that. He's in Alaska, married (got married while I was pregnant) and his now-wife has a 1 year old. He wants custody of the baby. We just got the paternity results that were done after the birth and he is definitely the father. What are my options here? Am I pretty much SOL or can I still put him up for adoption? Thanks!

 

[moburkes]

What's wrong with him having the baby? You said that you can't take care of him right now, so why not allow him to be taken care of by the parent that is both willing and able, AND be raised with his 1/2 sibling?

 

[Silverplum]

What's wrong with him having the baby? You said that you can't take care of him right now, so why not allow him to be taken care of by the parent that is both willing and able, AND be raised with his 1/2 sibling?

I absolutely ditto mo's response. Dad has rights, and does not have to sign them away. Why wouldn't you want the father to raise his own child??? It makes no sense, except vengeance-sense, and THAT has NOTHING to do with what is best for the child!

 

[Neal1421]

What is the name of your state? MD
Here's my situation.....I'm 22, in the Army in MD, and I just had my son at the end of May this year. He's a beautiful baby and I love him dearly, but this is definitely not the right time and place in my life for me to be a mother. I would like to put him up for adoption, but the father doesn't want to do that. He's in Alaska, married (got married while I was pregnant) and his now-wife has a 1 year old. He wants custody of the baby. We just got the paternity results that were done after the birth and he is definitely the father. What are my options here? Am I pretty much SOL or can I still put him up for adoption? Thanks!

No, you cannot put the child up for adoption without the father's consent. Give him custody if you don't want to take care of him.

What you may be able to do, once the father of the child and his wife have been married for a least a year and if they agree to it is sign your rights over to the child's stepmother. But I'm sure that's not something you want to do, is it?

 

[Silverplum]

Shocking as it may be, I do believe OP has left the building and would be willing to bet that she does not like our advice.

 

[Ohiogal]

What is the name of your state? MD
Here's my situation.....I'm 22, in the Army in MD, and I just had my son at the end of May this year. He's a beautiful baby and I love him dearly, but this is definitely not the right time and place in my life for me to be a mother. I would like to put him up for adoption, but the father doesn't want to do that. He's in Alaska, married (got married while I was pregnant) and his now-wife has a 1 year old. He wants custody of the baby. We just got the paternity results that were done after the birth and he is definitely the father. What are my options here? Am I pretty much SOL or can I still put him up for adoption? Thanks!

You are SOL and have no right to dictate adoption. Dad has a right to raise his child. Like everyone else told you. You may be in the Army but your immaturity is showing.