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[goldengirlblue]

What is the name of your state? Pa

Hi.
I am newly married to the love of my life.
I have 2 kids with my last husband and one charged child with my husband now and 3 stepchildren.
When I got in to the relationship with my husband i noticed that his oldest son witch is now 12 years is a very misbehaving child.
From what I understand he has had trouble since he was 5 years old.
He pretty much flips out if it doesn_t go his way.
We have rules in the house that he does not like I am thinking because he never had any rules to follow.
He gets very loud and now starts to physical show since of his anger.
He hit me last year got bruises on me and threatened me with a baseball bat he peed out of the window and just was really mean talking.
When I got pregnant he ones hit me . After I had the baby for the first view weeks he was fine with me and then he started getting mean again.I know it sound's strange beeing hit by a 12 year old but I dont hit children.
He is failing classes in school.
Two days ago he got physical with me again. And he is starting to let it out on the other kid's also. His brothers who are trying to protect me by helping me to get him straightened out.
I never hit that boy but I really don_t want to be hit by him anymore either.
He punched my stomach well I had my baby in my arms.
I am not sure what to do with him at this point. And my husband doesn_t seem to know either.
We have grounded him took sports away from him anything we can think of.
I have talked about boot camp and other help with he had counseling also but that did not seem to make a diff the counselor told him to take a walk when he gets angry.
So we are looking for a new one.
He has been yelling outside of the house telling me to sh.. up and all that.
I don't know what to do at this point.
So I thought I come and share my story with you maybe we can get some advice from someone that may be in the same situation.
Thank you.

 

[LdiJ]

When the boy hits you he is committing the crime of domestic violence. If he is allowed to continue to get away with that when he gets older he is going to hit other women, and eventually he is going to go to jail. If the police got involved now he would probably be incarcerated in a juvenile facility.

He needs SERIOUS help. If you want him to have any chance of a normal life, serious action needs to be taken NOW.

 

[goldengirlblue]

Thank you for you reply.
He does not do it every day.But every now and then he does.
When telling my husband that I wil call the police he said I can't do that.
MAybe he has more hard feelings about this I am not sure

 

[Mommi2fivekids]

Golden what you need to do is get that boy some psycological help. He needs a counselor and some medication. Research what your government run mental help center is near you. They go on a sliding scale based on income. He needs anger management, teenage years are a very difficult time. He is probably angry over his mom and dads divorce and even angrier at dads remarriage and the decision to have more children. He is not sure where he fits into the picture. Calling the cops is the worst thing you can do for this child. He hits you because all his anger is directed at you and your involvement in his life, and he knows you wont do anything about it. He also knows that dear old spineless dad wont do anything either based on your post. He is after attention negative or positive and he is getting all that he wants by acting this way. What is he interested in? What are his hobbies? Those are the things you need to focusing on, not what a horrible retched child he is. He needs a focus....find him one. Trust me I know from which I speak on this one. It will get better.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Golden what you need to do is get that boy some psycological help. He needs a counselor and some medication.

you have GOT to be kidding? If your above statement wasn't so dangerous I'd be laughing. You have NO qualifications to be dispensing medical advice or pushing medication on a poster or their relative. So STOP IT!

Research what your government run mental help center is near you. They go on a sliding scale based on income. He needs anger management, teenage years are a very difficult time. He is probably angry over his mom and dads divorce and even angrier at dads remarriage and the decision to have more children. He is not sure where he fits into the picture. Calling the cops is the worst thing you can do for this child. He hits you because all his anger is directed at you and your involvement in his life, and he knows you wont do anything about it. He also knows that dear old spineless dad wont do anything either based on your post. He is after attention negative or positive and he is getting all that he wants by acting this way. What is he interested in? What are his hobbies? Those are the things you need to focusing on, not what a horrible retched child he is. He needs a focus....find him one. Trust me I know from which I speak on this one. It will get better.

Post your medical qualifications for dispensing advice here please. Or stop doing so.

 

[goldengirlblue]

Golden what you need to do is get that boy some psycological help. He needs a counselor and some medication. Research what your government run mental help center is near you. They go on a sliding scale based on income. He needs anger management, teenage years are a very difficult time. He is probably angry over his mom and dads divorce and even angrier at dads remarriage and the decision to have more children. He is not sure where he fits into the picture. Calling the cops is the worst thing you can do for this child. He hits you because all his anger is directed at you and your involvement in his life, and he knows you wont do anything about it. He also knows that dear old spineless dad wont do anything either based on your post. He is after attention negative or positive and he is getting all that he wants by acting this way. What is he interested in? What are his hobbies? Those are the things you need to focusing on, not what a horrible retched child he is. He needs a focus....find him one. Trust me I know from which I speak on this one. It will get better.

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He wresltes and he loves too. The season start's next week.
He did all this last year and it did not help him he still was mad like this.
His grandfather said he has been angry like this since he was about 5.
He was in counceling and yes I do agree on some medizin.
Thank you for you advice

 

[stealth2]

I'd go the cops route, too - scare the living daylights out of the kid. AND I'd tell Dad that he can either grow a pair and start getting his kid some serious help, or you're not risking the safety of yourself or the other kids and you're out of there.

 

[goldengirlblue]

I'd go the cops route, too - scare the living daylights out of the kid. AND I'd tell Dad that he can either grow a pair and start getting his kid some serious help, or you're not risking the safety of yourself or the other kids and you're out of there.

Them are realy hard word's
And I know how bad it is.
And I have had the phone so many times in my hand to call.
But at leased now I know that other thing the same way I do.
We have had alot of people tell him he just don't know he says

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Them are realy hard word's
And I know how bad it is.
And I have had the phone so many times in my hand to call.
But at leased now I know that other thing the same way I do.
We have had alot of people tell him he just don't know he says

What you have is a clear case of Domestic Abuse. The brat can get all the help he needs sitting in jail and thinking about his actions. PERIOD!

 

[stealth2]

Them are realy hard word's
And I know how bad it is.

And how hard will those words be when this kid hurts your baby or one of the other kids? This has been going on for SEVEN years - when is someone going to actually decide that it's time to take action? When a child is dead or permanently injured?

 

[goldengirlblue]

What you have is a clear case of Domestic Abuse. The brat can get all the help he needs sitting in jail and thinking about his actions. PERIOD!

He is only 12 I don't think they but him in jail.But I would realy love for him to see how bad it can get if he keeps going like this.

 

[stealth2]

Jaysus - they won't put him in adult jail, but they sure as hell can put him in a juvenile facility.

 

[Mommi2fivekids]

you have GOT to be kidding? If your above statement wasn't so dangerous I'd be laughing. You have NO qualifications to be dispensing medical advice or pushing medication on a poster or their relative. So STOP IT!

Post your medical qualifications for dispensing advice here please. Or stop doing so.

I am not posting medical advice. I am posting from personal experience unlike you. I am actually attempting to try and help this poor woman. What are you doing? Belittling her. Do you even HAVE kids? If not then you are the one that needs to post YOUR qualifications on this matter not me. Everyones solution is to put this kid in jail. Jail IS NOT under any terms going to "help" that will only make the matters worse. He NEEDS mental help. He NEEDS someone he can talk to. He more than likely NEEDS medication. You dont have to be a Dr to figure that out. You just have to get your head out of your a** to see that. He NEEDS anger management. He has a lot of emotional issues that need delt with. He has had too many issues in his life to deal with on his own. Jail is not going to "scare him straight" and any of you that think it will are extremely naive. You obviously know NOTHING about child psychology or the jail system.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

I am not posting medical advice. I am posting from personal experience unlike you. I am actually attempting to try and help this poor woman. What are you doing? Belittling her. Do you even HAVE kids? If not then you are the one that needs to post YOUR qualifications on this matter not me. Everyones solution is to put this kid in jail. Jail IS NOT under any terms going to "help" that will only make the matters worse. He NEEDS mental help. He NEEDS someone he can talk to. He more than likely NEEDS medication. You dont have to be a Dr to figure that out. You just have to get your head out of your a** to see that. He NEEDS anger management. He has a lot of emotional issues that need delt with. He has had too many issues in his life to deal with on his own. Jail is not going to "scare him straight" and any of you that think it will are extremely naive. You obviously know NOTHING about child psychology or the jail system.

You told this poster that a child you have never met, never diagonsed or for whom you have no medical background that she should 'medicate' him. THAT, under the legal definition, is medical advice and you need to STOP NOW!.

If you have some special training which allows you to diagnose such problems instead of raising a brat, then post it here. Otherwise, keep it up and you may find yourself off this forum.

 

[stealth2]

I am not posting medical advice. I am posting from personal experience unlike you. I am actually attempting to try and help this poor woman. What are you doing? Belittling her. Do you even HAVE kids? If not then you are the one that needs to post YOUR qualifications on this matter not me. Everyones solution is to put this kid in jail. Jail IS NOT under any terms going to "help" that will only make the matters worse. He NEEDS mental help. He NEEDS someone he can talk to. He more than likely NEEDS medication. You dont have to be a Dr to figure that out. You just have to get your head out of your a** to see that. He NEEDS anger management. He has a lot of emotional issues that need delt with. He has had too many issues in his life to deal with on his own. Jail is not going to "scare him straight" and any of you that think it will are extremely naive. You obviously know NOTHING about child psychology or the jail system.

You don't KNOW the kid. So you don't KNOW what he needs.

You also don't KNOW BB or his qualifications. Suffice it to say that he's forgotten more about the legal system than you could ever hope to know.