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[Shianne]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? South Carolina. I jsut got my court order yesterday. All the the things that is the order is not all the things that the judge said. I was por se in my case and my childrens father had a lawyer. He is a very crucked lawyer. I have called the bar ass. on him and they told me that they are starting to see a patteren. It took 67 days to get the court order because he did not file the order. And then he did not put the order for me to pay child support nor did he put in the order for me to have every other hoilday with my children. But I have another problem.Two days before court their father filed some papers saying that I have suxually abused my children. Which are not ture. Last week I had 2 investorgaters come to my house and I agrred to talk with them at the station. Well when he stated reading the report form a counslor that my children had told that person I liked to fell out of the chair. I just could not beleive what my children were saying and how could they come up with the things they were saying. They are disobaying a court order and they will not let me talk with my children. I am going today to take a lie detector test to prove that I have never have done anything like that. I do not have a lawyer nor do I have the funds for one. I have not seen my children in almost a year. I am so upset about these false accusations. And I question Why would my children be saying things like they are saying? I am currently in the process of filling out a paper to send to the commissions of lawyer conduct. And I am in the process of filling out a contempt of court order. Will the things help me? And how do I fill out a form of false accdusations agnist their father? Will any of that help me? I tried to call my children even though they refuse me to talk to my children. How do I start paying child support? What kind of form do I need to fill out so that they can not use that against me to take my parentrental rights away from me. I was told yesterday by my childrens' father wife that they are going to turn around and suspend my visitation. Can they do that? If so how? I just don't know what to do. I beleive that the lawyer is behind all of this because they didn't have anything else on me to keep me away from my children so they are useing my past against me. Because I was sexually abused by by father when I was a child.I fell like I am being victomized all over again. That is not right. What should I do? Please help me. I feel like I am stuck.

 

[momofrose]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? South Carolina. I jsut got my court order yesterday. All the the things that is the order is not all the things that the judge said. I was por se in my case and my childrens father had a lawyer.

You filed PRO SE

He is a very crucked lawyer.

You mean crooked?

I have called the bar ass. on him and they told me that they are starting to see a patteren. It took 67 days to get the court order because he did not file the order. And then he did not put the order for me to pay child support nor did he put in the order for me to have every other hoilday with my children.


it often takes months to get in front of a judge or get an order signed - what is crooked (crucked) about this? You would have had to sign the agreement that was put in front of the judge to sign and effect an order. If you didn't catch that - that is your fault.

But I have another problem.Two days before court their father filed some papers saying that I have suxually abused my children.

OK

Which are not ture.

Not "true" - ok

Last week I had 2 investorgaters come to my house and I agrred to talk with them at the station. Well when he stated reading the report form a counslor that my children had told that person I liked to fell out of the chair. I just could not beleive what my children were saying and how could they come up with the things they were saying.

What were they saying?

They are disobaying a court order and they will not let me talk with my children.

Who is disobeying a court order and how is it being disobeyed?

I am going today to take a lie detector test to prove that I have never have done anything like that. I do not have a lawyer nor do I have the funds for one. I have not seen my children in almost a year. I am so upset about these false accusations. And I question Why would my children be saying things like they are saying?

The children (and you ) need counselling I presume.

I am currently in the process of filling out a paper to send to the commissions of lawyer conduct.

What did the lawyer do that would prompt you to file? I am not getting it.

And I am in the process of filling out a contempt of court order. Will the things help me?

Will what things help you?

And how do I fill out a form of false accdusations agnist their father?

You can file a motion to be heard in family court to refute these accusations.

Will any of that help me? I tried to call my children even though they refuse me to talk to my children.

What does the signed order say about communication?

How do I start paying child support?

it is in your order - read it!

What kind of form do I need to fill out so that they can not use that against me to take my parentrental rights away from me.

There is no such animal.

I was told yesterday by my childrens' father wife that they are going to turn around and suspend my visitation. Can they do that? If so how?

They can file a motion in court to do that - otherwise they have to follow the visitation guidelines, which you have not shared with this board,

I just don't know what to do. I beleive that the lawyer is behind all of this because they didn't have anything else on me to keep me away from my children so they are useing my past against me. Because I was sexually abused by by father when I was a child.I fell like I am being victomized all over again. That is not right. What should I do? Please help me. I feel like I am stuck.

You do appear to need a ton of help - most abuse accusations need to be substantiated by an social worker. You need to get a lawyer - I know you do not have the money - check with the courts as far as legal aid. But you NEED A LAWYER!!

 

[Shianne]

I took that test and I passed. Of course I knew that I would. Well my order said word for word.
1. I find that the Plaintiff is a citizen of the Satate of Alabama.
2. I find that the Defendant is a citizen and resident of South Carolina and has been so in excess of one year prior to the filing of this action.
3.I find that the parties have never married but are the biological parents of two minor children, to wit: (the childrens names)and date of births. No other children have been born of this marriage and none are expected.
4.I find that this Court has jurisdiction over the parties and subject matter of this litigation.
5. I find that the children have been in the custody of the Plaintiff since the time of the emergency hearing in this action.
6.I find that it is in the children's best interset that the Plaintiff be granted sole and complete care, custody and control of the parties' minor children.
Conclusions of law
1. The Plaintiff is granted sole and complete caare, custody and control of the parties' minor children, and;
2.The Defendant is granted vistition with the minor children an the first weekend of very month from friday at 6:00p.m. to sunday at 6:00p.m.and;
3. The Defendant shall be allowed reasonable phone access to the minor children limited to reasonable time, duration and frequency.
It is so ordered
The problem that I have is that everything that the judge said was not included in that order. I have lots of times tried to contact the lawyer and he would never return my phone calls. When I talked to the bar ass. they told me that they are starting to see a pattern with this lawyer. I took it like they have already had alot of complaints about this lawyer. The other thing that I am having trouble with is that even though I have this order he will still not let me even talk to my children. What can I do? Can I take them back to court so that I can talk to my children and see them? If so what kind of paper work should I file?
See the problem that I have with this order is that everthing that the judge ordered is not in their. The child support and visitation every other holiday.
The bar ass. also sent the lawyer an e-mail to send me a copy of the order before it goes to the judge and he did not do that either.
Will the legal aid help me even with out me having a court date?
I feel like I have been treated sooo unfairly because I don't have a lawyer.
Life with out my children is very hard. I have had my children everyday since the day they were born. I beleive that their father and his wife are brainwashing my children and turning them against me. That hurts me very very much. I just don't know which way is up any more.

 

[BL]

It's been over a year now.

File a modification petition .

Address it all including the contempts .

See if you can retrieve the record of proceedings from the original court case Date(s) ,to see if the missing orders are reflected .

Is your attorney misconduct complaint still active ?

 

[Shianne]

No I did not file PRO SE. But the court order states that I showed up as PRO SE.
What kind of motion do I need to file to be heard to refute these accuasations?
Yes he is such a animal not to want me to be around or to even let me talk to my children. And I have never done anything to my children. And for him to want to take my parentrental rights away from me. For no reason except that he hates me.
My order does not say anything about me paying child support. But the judge did order that in court the day we had court.
They were saying things like I was masterbating my children and that I put my mouth on their penices. But like I said I took a lie detector test and that was some of the questions they had asked me. And I passed with no question.
I tried to get in contact with the lawyer and he would never get back in contact with me. So that I could look over the order before it went to the judge. but of course he did't want me to look over it because my childrens father did not want me to see my children for the holidays.
How can I get counseling with my children when they live in another state. And their father will not let me see them.
Is their a way to get a copy of the transscript with out having to pay for it. Because I know what the judge ordered and everything is not in the order that the judge said in court.

How could I get the order looked at and go on what was said in court?
What kind of paper would I need to file ? If their is such.

 

[Ohiogal]

It's been over a year now.

File a modification petition .

Address it all including the contempts .

See if you can retrieve the record of proceedings from the original court case Date(s) ,to see if the missing orders are reflected .

Is your attorney misconduct complaint still active ?

Over a year? HUH? I see that it took 67 days as of Four DAYS ago. I am confused. What am i missing?

 

[BL]

Over a year? HUH? I see that it took 67 days as of Four DAYS ago. I am confused. What am i missing?

Missed the 67 days .

Still on 2nd cup a coffee.

I have not seen my children in almost a year

So any suggestions from your gallery ?

OP ,your lawyer should have had an opportunity to review the written up order before approving it to be submitted to the Judge for signature .

Contact the Judges secretary and ask the Judge to correct the orders .

Have you contacted your original attorney ?

 

[TheGeekess]

From what I've gleaned, the orders are from Alabama and the OP lives in the Carolinas? Is this correct?

If so, then OP may find these links helpful....
Alabama Code on Custody and Support:
http://alisondb.legislature.state.al.us/acas/CodeOfAlabama/1975/128972.htm

Alabama Child Support Calculator - AllLaw.com

http://www.alacourt.gov/pdfppt/rule32.pdf

http://www.dhr.state.al.us/large_docs/ala cs guide_.pdf

Link to Alabama Administrative Court site on Child Support:
Administrative Office of Courts

DHR website on Child Support:
Child Support Enforcement

Schedule of Basic Child Support:
Administrative Office of Courts

Worksheet used in Alabama to compute Child Support:
disLogonGrid
(It's number 42)

DoItYourself Forms (IE specific):
http://eforms.alacourt.gov/

More Forms:
Domestic Forms - Birmingham Bar Association

 

[Ohiogal]

Missed the 67 days .

Still on 2nd cup a coffee.




So any suggestions from your gallery ?

OP ,your lawyer should have had an opportunity to review the written up order before approving it to be submitted to the Judge for signature .

Contact the Judges secretary and ask the Judge to correct the orders .

Have you contacted your original attorney ?

I have read it several times both before and after caffeine and before and after alcohol and I have no clue because I am not sure she is speaking or writing English. I don't quite understand what is not in the orders that are supposed to be in the orders and why what happened a week ago:

Two days before court their father filed some papers saying that I have suxually abused my children. Which are not ture. Last week I had 2 investorgaters come to my house and I agrred to talk with them at the station. Well when he stated reading the report form a counslor that my children had told that person I liked to fell out of the chair. I just could not beleive what my children were saying and how could they come up with the things they were saying. They are disobaying a court order and they will not let me talk with my children. I am going today to take a lie detector test to prove that I have never have done anything like that

Two days before court was a year ago? Yet it took until last week for investigators to come to the house? Or 69 days before OP posted originally was two days before court? I have NO CLUE why it would take so long for an investigation to get started. i also do not know what court order is being disobeyed or how. Nor do I understand why she has not seen her children in a year and how this was NOT handled at the court hearing 69 days before the court order was received.

I am not getting a logical sense of things. Maybe you are but I so am not.

Again, do I need more or less caffeine? More or less alcohol? More or less chocolate? What am i missing to understand what the heck is going on here?

 

[Proserpina]

No I did not file PRO SE. But the court order states that I showed up as PRO SE.
What kind of motion do I need to file to be heard to refute these accuasations?
Yes he is such a animal not to want me to be around or to even let me talk to my children. And I have never done anything to my children. And for him to want to take my parentrental rights away from me. For no reason except that he hates me.
My order does not say anything about me paying child support. But the judge did order that in court the day we had court.
They were saying things like I was masterbating my children and that I put my mouth on their penices. But like I said I took a lie detector test and that was some of the questions they had asked me. And I passed with no question.

Was there an actual investigation? Is it now closed? Still open? What?

WHEN did this take place exactly?

I tried to get in contact with the lawyer and he would never get back in contact with me. So that I could look over the order before it went to the judge. but of course he did't want me to look over it because my childrens father did not want me to see my children for the holidays.
How can I get counseling with my children when they live in another state. And their father will not let me see them.
Is their a way to get a copy of the transscript with out having to pay for it. Because I know what the judge ordered and everything is not in the order that the judge said in court.

How could I get the order looked at and go on what was said in court?
What kind of paper would I need to file ? If their is such.

Shianne, you said that you were going to take a lie detector test - yet this post implies that you've done so. This happened within the last four days, with two of them being a weekend? That's VERY fast...

Your post is very confusing - please help us help you. Give us another post (on this thread) and try to list exactly what's happened and the timeline.

 

[momofrose]

No I did not file PRO SE. But the court order states that I showed up as PRO SE.
Actually you did - you said in your initial post "I was por se in my case and my childrens father had a lawyer."

You are complaining about your ex's attorney NOT giving you information? He only needs to treat you as a fellow attorney since you represented yourself. He is not going to take ratable hours to explain each and every paragraph to you. When you file Pro Se (which you did) - YOU have to understand what is happening

What kind of motion do I need to file to be heard to refute these accuasations?

You simply file a contempt of court motion that he is not following the court orders - you can address the false accusations in the motion

Yes he is such a animal not to want me to be around or to even let me talk to my children. And I have never done anything to my children. And for him to want to take my parentrental rights away from me. For no reason except that he hates me.

He can not take your parental rights away.

My order does not say anything about me paying child support. But the judge did order that in court the day we had court.

They were saying things like I was masterbating my children and that I put my mouth on their penices. But like I said I took a lie detector test and that was some of the questions they had asked me. And I passed with no question.

You took it on Thursday and the results are back on Monday???

I tried to get in contact with the lawyer and he would never get back in contact with me. So that I could look over the order before it went to the judge. but of course he did't want me to look over it because my childrens father did not want me to see my children for the holidays.

Again -HIS attorney need not speak to you. - It would be a conflict of interest

The thing is BOTH parties MUST sign the agreement - that is -if it was agreed to prior to entering the court doors. If this was something that was strictly ordered by the court upon presentation of evidence by the attorney(s) then it would just be a court order.

How can I get counseling with my children when they live in another state. And their father will not let me see them.

File a motion.

Is their a way to get a copy of the transscript with out having to pay for it.

Call the court house and ask

Because I know what the judge ordered and everything is not in the order that the judge said in court.

I have the distinct feeling you did not understand what the judge said and what was ordered.


How could I get the order looked at and go on what was said in court?

What?

What kind of paper would I need to file ? If their is such.

Again - for the fourth (or fifth time) it is called a Motion. You really need to get an attorney/ It seems you really screwed up representing yourself.