Hiding from service

[txrose1998]

What is the name of your state? TX

My ex-husband has been dodging service from the OAG for child support enforcement. I have completely run out of ideas on how to get him out of the woodwork. They can find nothing on him...no bills, no cars, no houses, no employment, ect for the last four years. Has anyone dealt with this? Does anyone have any ideas on how to remedy this situation without going to extremely expensive lengths?

Thanks in advance!!

 

[majomom1]

What is the name of your state? TX

My ex-husband has been dodging service from the OAG for child support enforcement. I have completely run out of ideas on how to get him out of the woodwork. They can find nothing on him...no bills, no cars, no houses, no employment, ect for the last four years. Has anyone dealt with this? Does anyone have any ideas on how to remedy this situation without going to extremely expensive lengths?

Thanks in advance!!

Do you have an address for him? Does he exercise visitation?

 

[txrose1998]

Do you have an address for him? Does he exercise visitation?

I have a last known address for him at his mother's house. I know that he receives mail there because my last communication with him in November of last year was in regards to a courtesy letter from the OAG.
He does not currently have access rights to our child.

 

[txrose1998]

BUMP! Please help, if you can!

 

[fairisfair]

friends, family, old co workers, private investigator, previous employer . . . and if he doesn't want to be found, you probably WON'T find him.

It took me 14 years.

 

[txrose1998]

friends, family, old co workers, private investigator, previous employer . . . and if he doesn't want to be found, you probably WON'T find him.

It took me 14 years.

DOn't I know that's true, fair.

It is just so frsutrating and I was hoping for some miracle!

 

[majomom1]

DOn't I know that's true, fair.

It is just so frsutrating and I was hoping for some miracle!

Mine tried to dodge the process server during the divorce, but my attorney used a private process server so I was able to talk to him on the phone, got him a picture and a time and place to find him. He finally got him at one of the kids' activities -- and no, the kids were not around. I made sure to get there early so the kids were inside and he agreed to catch him in the parking lot --- my ex was soooo mad!

 

[StampGirl]

Took me 2 weeks to serve my Ex and I knew where he was too. GRRR He just wouldn't answer the door.

Soooo.... I served him when my Dad was to pick up the kids one night (I was in the hospital due to pregnancy complications). My Dad picked up the process server, drove to his mom's house, Dad knocked on the door, Ex answered it, Server stepped into the doorway and handed him the papers. Attached was birthday card for him too!!! hehehehe

I had to give the card. He said all he wanted for his bday was a divorce. And he got it too.

Too bad you aren't in CA. I know an OUTSTANDING process server who does things cheap for me and people I refer. (besides that he is cute to look at too LOL)

 

[alissagail]

I too live in your same county. My ex did the same thing.

I know that most wont agree with me here. But I felt if he was going to that kind of father, we didn't need him or his money. I worked very hard being a single mom...but we made it...now I am grandmom to a beautiful 6 yr old. My daughter is now 31 and she turned out great! Couldn't ask for a better child. Her dad is still running from OAG...but not for me. They told me it would be too late now.

Just keep reporting every information that you get on him and staying on top of your situation. I know for most, every bit helps.

Good luck.

 

[fairisfair]

DOn't I know that's true, fair.

It is just so frsutrating and I was hoping for some miracle!

Do you have ANY contacts in common?

I lucked out, one of his family members got into a huge fight with him and was just dying to get "even". I never stopped bothering them. I would call like once a month.

Funny, they had no idea where he was until then.

 

[txrose1998]

I wish you lived here, StampGirl! I could use a referral like that!

I just wish there was some way to surprise him....I spoke with the OAG's office this afternoon and the caseworker told me a story a deputy told him earlier. This deputy went to serve someone for a child support case. He went to the house, knocked on the door, and the person looked out the window, stuck his fingers in his ears, and stuck out his tongue!!!! And these are supposedly grown-ups!

I have phone numbers and addresses for several family members and some close friends, but funny how all of them claim to have no knowledge of where he is....maybe I will luck out too. Maybe, eventually, he will make one of them mad.

If anyone has any good referrals for private proccess servers in Texas, PLEASE let me know!!

Also, to the poster you said he is not worth it, his time or his money. You are right. But now I am working on the principal of it. These deadbeats deserve to have karma bite them in the butt!!

 

[alissagail]

Also, to the poster you said he is not worth it, his time or his money. You are right. But now I am working on the principal of it. These deadbeats deserve to have karma bite them in the butt!!

I understand. The money would have been nice. But more important, a relationship with a great dad would have been nice too. He was in and out of jail all of the time...but never for child support.

I have a name of a good lawyer in McKinney. He may be able to help. My husband is using him for child support purposes. I am not sure how IM works here, or how I could get that information to you privately...But I will be glad to share that information.

 

[txrose1998]

I understand. The money would have been nice. But more important, a relationship with a great dad would have been nice too. He was in and out of jail all of the time...but never for child support.

I have a name of a good lawyer in McKinney. He may be able to help. My husband is using him for child support purposes. I am not sure how IM works here, or how I could get that information to you privately...But I will be glad to share that information.

Turn on your pm's

 

[alissagail]

I will be back on line today @ 4PM> I will be available to PM then.