That works if they both have the same views. Otherwise I envision the following scenario.In California, the proxy holder must be another member of your association. So yes, you and the proxy holder can both go to the meeting, and the other member can participate.
Do ToastMasterz and/or public speaking course at a local adult education facility of community college. Do some talk therapy, maybe even take a presctribed pill for it (lots of people do, there is no shame) and be heard.I have a hard time speaking up