home evaluations

[blueboy]

What is the name of your state? ca

My daughter is currently bouncing back and forth between 3 houses, mine and both of her mothers.( Long Story won't bore you with it) My daughter doesn't like to go to one of the houses because she has to share a couch with her 1/2 sister. The house she doesn't want to visit is a studio apt. and VERY cramped no room to play at all in the house. It is also 1 1/2 hours away from her school which means she has to be up very early to make it to school on time. My daughter has her own room at my house with tons of play space and even her own bed. I want her living with me and visiting her mom. Can / Should I request a home evaluation to help me out in court? Not enough $ for a lawyer I'll be doing it on my own.

 

[blueboy]

bump

just bumping myself back up

 

[Boxcarbill]

What is the name of your state? ca

My daughter is currently bouncing back and forth between 3 houses, mine and both of her mothers.( Long Story won't bore you with it) My daughter doesn't like to go to one of the houses because she has to share a couch with her 1/2 sister. The house she doesn't want to visit is a studio apt. and VERY cramped no room to play at all in the house. It is also 1 1/2 hours away from her school which means she has to be up very early to make it to school on time. My daughter has her own room at my house with tons of play space and even her own bed. I want her living with me and visiting her mom. Can / Should I request a home evaluation to help me out in court? Not enough $ for a lawyer I'll be doing it on my own.

And which of the two moms are you wanting her to visit? What exactly are you hoping that a home study establishes with regard to you and the two moms and the child?

 

[Charleee]

"Two moms"????

 

[blueboy]

geeze I could have worded that a lot better.. sorry.
My house and both of her mother houses, she lives in one house 1/2 the time and the other house the other half of the time. I want the courts to understand that my daughter is living in much better conditions when she is with me.
I hope this clears it up.. again sorry I didn't word that better.

 

[coosi]

Two moms...both of her mother's houses??

I'm still confused???

 

[Boxcarbill]

Tired of the silly shell game!

geeze I could have worded that a lot better.. sorry.
My house and both of her mother houses, she lives in one house 1/2 the time and the other house the other half of the time. I want the courts to understand that my daughter is living in much better conditions when she is with me.
I hope this clears it up.. again sorry I didn't word that better.

No, this still isn't clear. The bottom line is that a child has one father and one mother or possibly two dad, one biological and one adoptive or two moms, one biological and one adoptive. But that is it. Now, in the event that there has been an adoption, there has also been a termination of parental rights. Ergo, still only one mother and one father or two male parent or two female parents. If the child has been removed from the home and is in foster care, there is still only one two parents.. If the parents are divorced and the parents have remarried, there is still two parents. The child may "feel" that foster mom and foster dad and step mom and step dad and Aunt Lulu and Uncle Henry and Grandpappy Amos and Grannie Clanton are mom and dad, but the law recognizes only two legal parents--usually one mother and one father at a time. If an adoption has gone through, biological parental rights are terminated and the mother and the father are those two people who have adopted the child. If dad has remarried and his new wife has adopted the child, the mother is the wife of the father. The biological mother rights have been terminated. She is no longer the mother. If dad and mom have divorced and mother has entered into a homosexual relationship, dad is the dad and mom is the mom and mom's partner is mom's partner. Same if dad and mom have divorced and dad has entered into a gay relationship. If mom and dad have used a surrogate to carry their child, mom and dad or the mom and dad and the surrogate is a surrogate. If mom has gone through a sperm bank, then mom is the mom and child has no father unless mom is married at the time and then the law presumes the husband is the father. If mom has engaged in sexual intercourse, regardless of whether is was a one night stand, an unrequited love or just really good sex from, her sexual partner in the father of the child. Parenthood does not terminate upon divorce but upon termination of parental rights.

Now, if, as and when, you get tired of playing this silly shell game, I may attempt to answer your question but I rather suspect that you have exhausted my patience and interest so you will need to look to someone else.

 

[nextwife]

BCB, I am reading this to mean the poster is trying to say that Mom has two houses and the child bounces back and forth between the two. Plus the NCPs one house.

 

[coosi]

I'm reading this as

two women, possibly married to each other,
bluboy provided the DNA,
the women raised the child together as her "two moms", then the women split up.

 

[nextwife]

"My house and both of her mother houses, she lives in one house 1/2 the time and the other house the other half of the time."

" I want her living with me and visiting her mom."

Read all his posts again, and see nothing in his posts implying sperm donor and two moms. I still read one mom with two places.

 

[haiku]

i too think it is more mundane than "my two moms" lol

 

[Irishluck]

In my opinion, I think he has one house and the mother of the girl has two different houses. So not my two moms, but my 3 homes. If you read this line...
"My house and both of her mother houses, she lives in one house 1/2 the time and the other house the other half of the time."{Quote}
But hey, who knows.