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MELISSA71
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Hello, I have an 8 year old daughter whose father took it upon himself to see her only about 5 hours total for 2 occassions, in a 14 month period. I live in New york. He left new york over a year ago and moved to pennsylvania and now he is moving to virginia because he wants to, not because of a transfer of any kind. He is in arrears for 6500. Currently for the past 8 weeks, going on 9 I have not received anything, and he keeps lying saying it is in the mail. I had to give CSEB his employer the last few times and he refused to give me this new one, but I investigated it myself and finally got it and I gave it to CSEB. He has never voluntarily paid child support. He left New york, where he has 6 outstanding warrants for his arrest. In the beggining when he stopped his visitation, I contacted him, to see why. He kept saying she is better off without him. I tried to talk some sense into him, that it will hurt her and to think of her. I am the one who told her to a least call her, because he never did, never asked her how she was, or how was school, he just stopped all communication. He fially listened to me and statred to call sparatically, but now he was making promises to her that he would see her and make plans with me to see her and tell her everything a little girl wants to do, but never showed up. He did this at leaset 6-7 times. Ibelieve I made it worse asking him to call. She is seeing a school pyshcologist about the abandoment of her dad. She aks me why he keeps lying to her, and not seeing her. I have a great guy in my life now for the past three years and he is so good with her. She took it upon herself to call him Dad sometimes. We are getting married and he wants to adopt her. My ex, I know will not allow it, even though he has no contact with her. Will the courts hear me without his consent. His family is behind me and I am in contact with his probation officer. I also was awarded full custody because of all his problems and his actions regarding her. Please help. What is the process? Thank you