You dont mention children so that makes it easier .As for the house,either one buys the other out ,or ,sell it and split whatever equity is in it. Take the proceeds and move on.The furnishings etc. It will save you both alot of time and more importantky money if you decice who gets what now.Set aside greed and any other head problems there are.Fighting about chrstmas ornaments and fish tanks etc. is dumb.Women tend to like the stuff.Any gifts from family members could go to the relative spouse.Split as much as you can on your own,make a list and give copies to your attys.Furniture is expensive to replace but consider where you may end up. If its a small apt. you dont want much.The more you keep.the bigger the place you need.China etc. who needs it.If that is an item of concern,yiu might do better to give the expensive dinnerware to the wife and ask for the sterio.Unless you can easily afford to keep the house ,dont look to buy her out.If she wants the house,as you say she does,then get an appraisal,and sell it to her ,keep in mind you need your name off the mortgage. She needs to refinance in her own name.She dont work,so how is that going to happen.Try and talk thay part out,but it probably wont work. Thats an item your attys.need to address. Remember,you need your name off the mort.if its not removed,you may be turned down for future loans especially mortgages.Cars,same deal,she wants the good one,sell her your half ,she needs to get a new loan. You want the car,reverse he deal.She dont work,so who can afford it.Give her the old car as her half of the equity of the newer one if the numbers work. Mediation is a great way to go,you have a say in what happens,but remember,everyone gets something they want and dont want.But it works out.There are usually 3 attys that can work things out without the hollering bikering etc.Youratty,hers and the mediator.They cut right through the BS and get it done. You can advise your wife that you expect to be fair,but you both must be senseable ,that saves money,as the mediation progresses,the attys and mediator take notes and run a list until all items are dealt with.If you have a pension,she will look for part of it,as well as 401's etc.Sometimes an interest in a pension will be conceeded for total interest in the home. Its a big bargaining session. Good luck.