Hi,
I live in California. My ex girlfriend hates the fact that our son has a stepmom. She mentioned before I ever met the current stepmom that she wouldn't be able to handle it. She has even remarried and had more kids with her current husband. My wife's relationship with my son is great. They've known each other now for about 5 years, they love each other, she's just like a regular parent when he's here. He's 10. We had another son as well and he loves his little brother very much. So, our relationships are great. The problem is that he knows the way his birth mother feels about his stepmother. So, he always mentions if stepmom punishes him, or takes something away for punishment, etc. as this makes his birth mother feel better. She gets upset at him when he mentions anything positive about his stepmom or if he shows her any type of affection whatsoever. This is sad because I don't make him feel guilty about his positive relationship with his stepfather. Anyway, we got a notice that we were being accused of abuse and neglect. We were baffled, obviously as there is no abuse or neglect going on in our home. We treat him the same as we would treat his little brother. We make sure that they are both properly behaved, nurtured, protected, and intellectually stimulated. It's just a normal household. We had to have an in-home interview with the social worker. We were amazed at the things we were being accused of. None of them were true. The social worker deemed that this was just another case of birth mother unable to handle child's relationship with stepmother. (She interviewed my son and the birth mother as well, separately. ) This is a serious accusation and, luckily, the social worker saw right through the birth mother's false allegations. The social worker recommended for all four of the parents to go to counseling, but the birth mother refused. She was just hoping that our child would be taken away from me. She had refused counseling before also, when another therapist recommended it. She seems to not be acknowledging her issues. My fear is that every time she's upset she'll just keep making false accusations of abuse against my wife and I, to drag our names through the mud and try and take my son away. My question is, how can I keep her from making these serious false allegations? What can I do to protect myself? Can she just keep doing this over and over again, and then refuse to do what the counselor suggests until she finds the one that says "take his son away!" ??? How can I protect myself? Do I have any legal resource? There's more to this story but I wanted to get this answered first. Thanks for all of your help.
Pony 1
I live in California. My ex girlfriend hates the fact that our son has a stepmom. She mentioned before I ever met the current stepmom that she wouldn't be able to handle it. She has even remarried and had more kids with her current husband. My wife's relationship with my son is great. They've known each other now for about 5 years, they love each other, she's just like a regular parent when he's here. He's 10. We had another son as well and he loves his little brother very much. So, our relationships are great. The problem is that he knows the way his birth mother feels about his stepmother. So, he always mentions if stepmom punishes him, or takes something away for punishment, etc. as this makes his birth mother feel better. She gets upset at him when he mentions anything positive about his stepmom or if he shows her any type of affection whatsoever. This is sad because I don't make him feel guilty about his positive relationship with his stepfather. Anyway, we got a notice that we were being accused of abuse and neglect. We were baffled, obviously as there is no abuse or neglect going on in our home. We treat him the same as we would treat his little brother. We make sure that they are both properly behaved, nurtured, protected, and intellectually stimulated. It's just a normal household. We had to have an in-home interview with the social worker. We were amazed at the things we were being accused of. None of them were true. The social worker deemed that this was just another case of birth mother unable to handle child's relationship with stepmother. (She interviewed my son and the birth mother as well, separately. ) This is a serious accusation and, luckily, the social worker saw right through the birth mother's false allegations. The social worker recommended for all four of the parents to go to counseling, but the birth mother refused. She was just hoping that our child would be taken away from me. She had refused counseling before also, when another therapist recommended it. She seems to not be acknowledging her issues. My fear is that every time she's upset she'll just keep making false accusations of abuse against my wife and I, to drag our names through the mud and try and take my son away. My question is, how can I keep her from making these serious false allegations? What can I do to protect myself? Can she just keep doing this over and over again, and then refuse to do what the counselor suggests until she finds the one that says "take his son away!" ??? How can I protect myself? Do I have any legal resource? There's more to this story but I wanted to get this answered first. Thanks for all of your help.
Pony 1
