From my previous thread
Never in a million years would i have thought I would be posting my own DV thread. I'm sure most of you are tired of reading through my post about me bitching about my inlaws staying in my home against my will. Well this post is something different.
I do not want to go into too much detail unless asked. Here is a quick rundown of what transpired
4/6 - STBX and STBXMIL (yes she is STILL here and won't leave since 3/20) begin arguing with me when I brought my daughter back home accusing me of lying on where I took my daughter for the day. i took her to a local park and had a fantastic time together fyi. I responded with, " I am her dad and I don't have to tell you every little detail about where and what i do with her as long as she is safe with me." STBX went bonkers and as I turned my back heading towards my basement, she pushes me and yells "GO DOWNSTAIRS". She then threatens me by screaming "You don't live here until you pay me for all of my attorney fees", "Your family is going to have a real problem if I dont get my money", "I hope your parents know they have an illegal driveway", "GET OUT, GET OUT!". (This is all happening while she is holding our daughter and my daughter begins to cry). I told her she's making the baby cry. That set her off even more, then she says Im going to call 911 and tell them you hit me (she has a temp order of protection on me). Her mother chimes in and says "Oh, I just saw you push my daughter, "I'm a witness." Mind you at this point I am already halfway down the stairs. I immediately left the house. I recorded the whole thing with my audio recorder.
4/10- I filed and was granted an order of protection against STBX for trying to forcefully push me down the stairs and screaming at me.
4/11- STBX was served around 5pm. Decides to call my parents to tell them she will no longer allow my daughter to visit them at their house. Then later on that same night unbeknownced to me, she drives to the local police precinct and files a report stating that on 4/6, i pushed her.
4/14- I email STBX from my parents home telling her I am on my way to pick up the baby to take her out for the day. I get no response. So, I decided to just drive over there anyway. When I arrived, I greeted my daughter, and said ok, it's time to go with daddy now. Stbx said "Ok, let me get you ready".
I figured while she is getting the baby ready, I'll go upstairs and grab a few personal items from my room. Then I see her going into her room (she locks it). I figured maybe she needed to grab a new outfit for the baby. I didnt think much of it.
So, I walk back down and so does stbx. Stbxmil is holding the baby and whispers something to stbx. All of a sudden, stbx goes "Oh its time to feed the baby". Stbxmil goes "Oh yes, its time for her to eat". Mind you, I just wanted to take my daughter and leave at this point but to avoid confrontation I just sat on my staircase quietly waiting. I peeked over to see my baby to realize she is still wearing the same outfit when I first walked in to greet her.
Then, as I am still waiting, the doorbell rings. I answer. It's 2 police officers responding to a 911 call placed from my address. They asked me who called, I said officer I just got here myself a few minutes ago and that I was waiting to pick my daughter up, I did not call. Then stbx comes out saying "I called officer, this man violated the order of protection and there is a warrant for his arrest, so you need to arrest him right now". She shows them the order and her police report. They cuff me and took me to jail. While being processed, the officer realized that stbx filed the police report immediately after she was served with the order of protection and she filed FIVE days after the date of the incident she claimed. Why would she wait FIVE days to file a domestic violence police report? The officer didn't buy it and said stbx "worked the system". However, it was too late. I was put in a cell for 24 hours then was transfered to criminal court to go before a judge. The District attorney dismissed my case. I didn't have to appear for the judge. They let me go but the damage has been done. I suffered that day, but what really hurt me the most was I missed out on a day that I should have been spending with my child and how they used my child as "bait" to keep me waiting until the police arrived.
Will this incident have a great influence when the judge decides on custody?
What she did to me, is this considered criminal?
