What is the name of your state? Michigan
Been married for almost 11 years. I have 2 children from previous marriage (16 and 14 yrs old) and permanent, total custody. WE have a child together (10 yrs old).
Husband wants a divorce (I don't---still holding out for help before I throw in the towel). Husband has been a stay at home dad since 1999. He was working full-time prior but in 1999 we realized that we could not afford summer care for all 4 children (his daughter from a previous marriage had moved in with us full time this same year). He therefore quit his job to stay with the kids during the summer. I have a full time career and make enough money on my own to support all 6 of us-barely. I was hoping that he would go back to work in the fall, even part time to help out with the finances. Always an excuse (i.e. I might need him when I have an occasional overnight trip, etc). In reality, I could have found someone else to stay with the kids if there was a conflict in times with a potential job. His other excuses are all the work that needs to be done on the house...which he is saving us money by doing these things by himself. Which he is, but 90% of the 'remodeling' jobs he has started has been finished.
He does do a lot remodeling around the house, although there are currently so many unfinished projects it's about to drive me nuts. Every single room in the house needs something to be finished or redone. He does not however, really perform any, what I consider to be, a stay-at-home parents job. I end up leaving work early to pick kids up or drop them off to various activities. I do all the cooking. I do the majority of cleaning with the kids helping with respective chores. I go to all the parent teacher conferences, including his own child's 90% of the time without him. I'm there for almost all games and activities that the children are involved in. I take care of all the finances. ETC.
Problem is that he thinks he's going to get alimony from me and keep 'our' child. His daughter from a previous marriage moved back to her mom's house last year. I don't think he would get custody as he no income and no one available to watch our child if he was working. I have built in babysitters with my teenage children if I'm not able to get home by 4:30pm for some reason.
What, with the information I have given, are his chances of alimony. I certainly would have documentation from the schools, teachers, friends, and family of who the primary caregiver has been (me), including the primary breadwinner (me). Thanks.
Been married for almost 11 years. I have 2 children from previous marriage (16 and 14 yrs old) and permanent, total custody. WE have a child together (10 yrs old).
Husband wants a divorce (I don't---still holding out for help before I throw in the towel). Husband has been a stay at home dad since 1999. He was working full-time prior but in 1999 we realized that we could not afford summer care for all 4 children (his daughter from a previous marriage had moved in with us full time this same year). He therefore quit his job to stay with the kids during the summer. I have a full time career and make enough money on my own to support all 6 of us-barely. I was hoping that he would go back to work in the fall, even part time to help out with the finances. Always an excuse (i.e. I might need him when I have an occasional overnight trip, etc). In reality, I could have found someone else to stay with the kids if there was a conflict in times with a potential job. His other excuses are all the work that needs to be done on the house...which he is saving us money by doing these things by himself. Which he is, but 90% of the 'remodeling' jobs he has started has been finished.
He does do a lot remodeling around the house, although there are currently so many unfinished projects it's about to drive me nuts. Every single room in the house needs something to be finished or redone. He does not however, really perform any, what I consider to be, a stay-at-home parents job. I end up leaving work early to pick kids up or drop them off to various activities. I do all the cooking. I do the majority of cleaning with the kids helping with respective chores. I go to all the parent teacher conferences, including his own child's 90% of the time without him. I'm there for almost all games and activities that the children are involved in. I take care of all the finances. ETC.
Problem is that he thinks he's going to get alimony from me and keep 'our' child. His daughter from a previous marriage moved back to her mom's house last year. I don't think he would get custody as he no income and no one available to watch our child if he was working. I have built in babysitters with my teenage children if I'm not able to get home by 4:30pm for some reason.
What, with the information I have given, are his chances of alimony. I certainly would have documentation from the schools, teachers, friends, and family of who the primary caregiver has been (me), including the primary breadwinner (me). Thanks.
