husband's trust lawyer threating comment

[DANTHONI]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? New York.
My husband has a trust fund (which his mother puts 4,100 in yearly). He says he doesn't (lying), but I've seen the yearly letters stating that a deposit has been made and he has 30 days to withdraw the principal if desired. We have 3 children and are in a financial hole. My family is always giving me money to bail us out. Anyway, when he rec'd his annual letter this month, I emailed his lawyer (through my husbands's email address) asking what amount was available to withdraw. She responded with the amount. Then, she forwarded this email my husband (at his work email address) and his mother. The lawyer sent another reply to me with the title "impersonation", and continued: "I am shocked and furious to learn that you have impersonated your husband in an email correspondence to me. As you must be aware, this is a criminal offense and it is particularly amazing that you would do this in a communique to an attorney of all people! I have set up a file on this matter and I will retain a record of this incident."
Since she has no proof that I sent the email and has called me an impersonator, can I email her back and say that her comment is slanderous? Can I tell her to kiss my butt?

 

[casa]

But didn't you just say you DID email the lawyer from your husband's email address? Or did you sign your name and specify it was you- not your husband inquiring (& they simply did not read it assuming the email address was his, so the correspondence may be?)

 

[DANTHONI]

husband's trust

I did send the email from my husband's address and did not sign my name. My point (right or wrong) is that there is no proof that it was I who sent that email and she's accusing me.

 

[casa]

Luckily I'm not a lawyer so I won't legally give you ramifications- but I think what you did was in fact, an invasion of privacy. You and your husband need to communicate and THAT is the problem- not his attorney's upset over feeling 'duped', which he was.
Why would you impersonate someone else in an email then complain when they found out and got upset?

Regarding your question, if it's your husband's email there are only so many people who are able to access it, and surely as his spouse you are suspect #1. Further if the attorney called your spouse and in law as you say they did- they've confirmed the other people privy to the email did not send it- so it sounds to me that the attorney made a correct conclusion that it was you.

My advice? Stay out of other people's email addresses (unless you'd like to open yours up for anyone to see? ) and if you continue to be upset with your husband, get therapy to resolve your lack of communication and financial stress.

Bottom line, you are participating in this cat and mouse game of money. You can always refuse to participate by either demanding contribution, or leaving. But lowering yourself to his (supposed) level of hide-and-seek won't make you happy, as this post is demonstrating.

A legal solution may calm (or elevate) your fears- but surely won't solve your trust and commitment issues you have with your husband.

Just my 2c. Take or Toss.

 

[DANTHONI]

Husband's Trust

Hi, you're absolutely right. The only reason why I did this was to prove to my husband (who refuses to admit that he has this trust) that I know about it.