I-485 Filing with little evidence of Marriage

[FineTune]

What is the name of your state? CA

I filed an I-485 in 2/05 but my husband was arrested when we went in for our interview in 5/05. We knew we were taking a chance since he had ignored some court orders but he decided he could not hide forever and wanted to get it over and done with. He served his time in jail and was later placed in rehab as a condition for release. He will be in rehab for the next 2 years (drug abuse). I see him every week but obviously, I can not move in with him at the rehab.
How can I go about processing my adjustment of status?
There's not even 1 bank that will let us open a joint account. He says that back in 2001, he got credit cards that he thoroughly abused. We do not own anything together because he does not work and I own nothing.
I only lived under the same roof with him from 10/04 - 4/05.
All we've got are just a bunch of pictures from our wedding and other events. Under our circumstances of not being able to live together, I am trying to be as supportive a wife as I can. I often attend his Rehab. meetings with him. His friends and the facilitators know me but too bad, they are not the immigration officers who have to decide our case- Jeez, even the people at the jail knew me when he was there. In short, I have been very supportive because I love my husband and believe he is not a bad boy anymore. I have been advised to divorce him (just legally but not leave him) and re-marry but I think that defines a sham marriage which I don't want to get into. I still have hope that something else can be done but I am so frustrated.
Any advice will be greatly appreciated.

 

[seniorjudge]

What is the name of your state? CA

I filed an I-485 in 2/05 but my husband was arrested when we went in for our interview in 5/05. We knew we were taking a chance since he had ignored some court orders but he decided he could not hide forever and wanted to get it over and done with. He served his time in jail and was later placed in rehab as a condition for release. He will be in rehab for the next 2 years (drug abuse). I see him every week but obviously, I can not move in with him at the rehab.
How can I go about processing my adjustment of status?
There's not even 1 bank that will let us open a joint account. He says that back in 2001, he got credit cards that he thoroughly abused. We do not own anything together because he does not work and I own nothing.
I only lived under the same roof with him from 10/04 - 4/05.
All we've got are just a bunch of pictures from our wedding and other events. Under our circumstances of not being able to live together, I am trying to be as supportive a wife as I can. I often attend his Rehab. meetings with him. His friends and the facilitators know me but too bad, they are not the immigration officers who have to decide our case- Jeez, even the people at the jail knew me when he was there. In short, I have been very supportive because I love my husband and believe he is not a bad boy anymore. I have been advised to divorce him (just legally but not leave him) and re-marry but I think that defines a sham marriage which I don't want to get into. I still have hope that something else can be done but I am so frustrated.
Any advice will be greatly appreciated.

Q: I have been advised to divorce him (just legally but not leave him) and re-marry but I think that defines a sham marriage which I don't want to get into

A: Actually, if you got a divorce, then that would prove that you were really married.

 

[FineTune]

And remarry a different man-not my current husband, just so I process my I-485.

 

[AHA]

And remarry a different man-not my current husband, just so I process my I-485.

What the hell does that mean? You are selling yourself to anyone for a Green Card????????????

 

[FLMommy]

Only stay with him out of love, not because you don't want a sham marriage or whatever, don't do that to yourself.

Ok, it might be tough with the evidence, but I would suggest you get some notarized statements from the rehab leaders, prison guards whatever/whoever might see you visit/join your husband.

Do you have medical insurance at all in both your names? A car? Did you ever have any bills in both your names? File taxes together? Think hard.

 

[FineTune]

In response to AHA - Ever heard of sham marriages? This is how it works - the man I marry (this is per the advice I got from some people) would be a US citizen. I would pay him about $3k or so for him to appear at an interview with me. Once I got my green card, it would be good bye until I need to have it renewed (in about 2 years). Then I would have to pay him again in case they needed us to appear for another interview.
Meanwhile, I would still be with my current husband and carrying out as normal-just that legally, we would be considered divorced.
It's all so shady and false but apparently, it's the latest trend.

FLOMUMMY: Best advice I've got so far, thanks. I am not comfortable with the sham marriage advice and I do love my husband and plan to stay with/stand by him.
I hope and pray that the notorized statements will be good enough.
Anything Bank Related: Like I said, he's got a very screwed up credit history (I really do not know what's in it) but whenever they run his credit, I imagine a BIG red flag and sirens go off in the computer. It's always the same response - they can not have him co-sign/co-borrow with me. So his name is not our car. They won't even let him open a bank account (just a mere bank account, no credit card or anything) with me. Apparently, once they run his credit, the computer won't even let them proceed (whatever he did!). We've tried 3 different banks.

Taxes: He refused to file taxes. I filed as married, filing separately. His names appear on my tax returns but I don't know if this is any good.
Medical Insurance: That's the only thing we've got together.
Bills: He's listed on some of my house utility accounts but for some reason, they only address the bills to one person so his name does not appear on the face of the bills.

 

[AHA]

In response to AHA - Ever heard of sham marriages? This is how it works - the man I marry (this is per the advice I got from some people) would be a US citizen. I would pay him about $3k or so for him to appear at an interview with me. Once I got my green card, it would be good bye until I need to have it renewed (in about 2 years). Then I would have to pay him again in case they needed us to appear for another interview.
Meanwhile, I would still be with my current husband and carrying out as normal-just that legally, we would be considered divorced.
It's all so shady and false but apparently, it's the latest trend.

Ok, so you ARE for sale, how charming and womanly of you YUK!!!!!
Have you not noticed that this is a LEGAL advice site?????? No one is going to advice you on how to break US laws. You are the one selling yourself to any man that needs a couple of bucks, so YOU figure it out. I hope they deport your @ss back under whatever rock you came from. Which is likely to happen since you can't prove you have a real marriage. BYE BYE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[FineTune]

AHA....what's your problem? GAL is all I can say to someone like you. I was and still are seeking legal advice. READ & TRY TO UNDERSTAND before spilling your guts (ohhhh, the smell!!!) to me. Let me try to spell it out to you - I only mentioned a sham marriage as something that someone advised me to do and go read again please- I also mentioned that I was not comfortable with it and was not planning on doing it. You need a life big time. People like me come here to discuss real problems and seek possible legal solutions. We DO NOT need people like you. If you've got nothing positive to contribute just be quiet. You do not have to say something. Do not show off your nastiness. I am not interested. Please read this last bit before you hit the reply button - If you've got nothing positive to contribute to me just be quiet and GAL.

 

[AHA]

AHA....what's your problem? GAL is all I can say to someone like you. I was and still are seeking legal advice. READ & TRY TO UNDERSTAND before spilling your guts (ohhhh, the smell!!!) to me. Let me try to spell it out to you - I only mentioned a sham marriage as something that someone advised me to do and go read again please- I also mentioned that I was not comfortable with it and was not planning on doing it. You need a life big time. People like me come here to discuss real problems and seek possible legal solutions. We DO NOT need people like you. If you've got nothing positive to contribute just be quiet. You do not have to say something. Do not show off your nastiness. I am not interested. Please read this last bit before you hit the reply button - If you've got nothing positive to contribute to me just be quiet and GAL.

Last time I checked, you don't own this site OR me, so stop acting like you do.

I DID read and understand, and we don't need people here trying to get approval to break the law. Good luck with all your future marriages.

 

[FLMommy]

In response to AHA - Ever heard of sham marriages? This is how it works - the man I marry (this is per the advice I got from some people) would be a US citizen. I would pay him about $3k or so for him to appear at an interview with me. Once I got my green card, it would be good bye until I need to have it renewed (in about 2 years). Then I would have to pay him again in case they needed us to appear for another interview.
Meanwhile, I would still be with my current husband and carrying out as normal-just that legally, we would be considered divorced.
It's all so shady and false but apparently, it's the latest trend.

FLOMUMMY: Best advice I've got so far, thanks. I am not comfortable with the sham marriage advice and I do love my husband and plan to stay with/stand by him.
I hope and pray that the notorized statements will be good enough.
Anything Bank Related: Like I said, he's got a very screwed up credit history (I really do not know what's in it) but whenever they run his credit, I imagine a BIG red flag and sirens go off in the computer. It's always the same response - they can not have him co-sign/co-borrow with me. So his name is not our car. They won't even let him open a bank account (just a mere bank account, no credit card or anything) with me. Apparently, once they run his credit, the computer won't even let them proceed (whatever he did!). We've tried 3 different banks.

Taxes: He refused to file taxes. I filed as married, filing separately. His names appear on my tax returns but I don't know if this is any good.
Medical Insurance: That's the only thing we've got together.
Bills: He's listed on some of my house utility accounts but for some reason, they only address the bills to one person so his name does not appear on the face of the bills.

Taxes: bring those returns with both your names on it. It's something.
Medical Ins: Great! Bring any proof that you both have that together - is it in his name and are you a "dependent" on the insurance?
Bills: Yeah, usually is like that. How do you know he's listed on them? Bring any proof of that you can get.

If the money situation is so bad, who is sponsoring you? It doesn't seem he is capable of doing so, especially being incarcerated and all...
Is a 485 all that you filed? How did you enter the US? Give some more background.

 

[FineTune]

Sponsor: My sister is sponsoring me. She won the greencard lottery and is a US Citizen.
Background
US Entry: I first came here as a student , did my Master's degree and went back home.
Re-Entry: I had a multiple entry visa - visitor's. Travelled back and forth 3 times. Met him on the 1st visit, got married on the 4th visit and filed the I-485.
Medical Ins.: He is the dependant. It's part of my work benefits so I've got him on it as my spouse.
Bills: Good qn! I know that when I was getting the house utility accounts, for some of them (Gas/Electric, not sure which), they asked me who else would be using the service with me and I listed his name. On one of them, the application for the service was in both our names.....I need to check and see if they can give me any sort of evidence that he's listed on them.

FloMommy, thanks for your time/ advice. Really appreciate it.