I believe my son's father went into my house without my permission.

[stealth2]

We never used to lock our doors. And then... last month we had someone walk in. And I don't mean by accident or mistake. He came in the back and had on gloves. We were home - my 17yo daughter and I. And our obviously not so ferocious dogs.

Not much scares me, but the thought of what could have happened had I not been home? Does. Our doors are always locked now.

 

[OHRoadwarrior]

I guess I'm old enough and small-town enough that we didn't have keys for our house when I was living with my parents. I don't recall them EVER locking the doors.

I remember never locking the doors and leaving the keys in the cars, until I was in my late teens. We decided to start removing keys after we determined gas had been siphoned out of two of our vehicles. We had to change locks on all but one of the house doors, we no longer knew where the keys to the locks had gone.

 

[ambersgrace]

I read all of your replies and thank you

But here's the thing, my son's father never lived in this house. In fact we have never been together sense my son has been born. (I found out I was pregnant after we broke up) He does not have a key to my home. I used to leave the back door open to my house all the time because I live in a very small town and on a quiet street. But as I said I do lock the doors now. Also my 3 year old did not let him in, he's 3 and I know it was dad's idea. Also I know my son and I know he did not make this up. He told me in detail and he told me he and his father "looked for me in every room". My son's father KNEW I was at work, he usually takes my son to the park or somewhere else until 4pm. There has been no agreement for them to wait or go into my house. The thing I didn't stress enough is that my son's father is very bitter. As far as what do I have to hide? Well I don't have much, but for a period of time while I was going through the court battle and well I am a single mom who works a full time job and has a 3 year old. My house is not always perfect, sometimes I leave the toys on the floor and I don't always get to the dishes or laundry. I try, but it is hard balance work, house and child. The house is the first to go sense the other two are not an option. What my question was...if he came in and took photos of my house being messy can he use those photos against me in court to make me look bad? Especially when he was not permitted in my house. Yes this all sounds paranoid but you don't know my son's father and I do not trust him...obviously he was snooping in my house for one.

 

[OHRoadwarrior]

So how did he get in with no known key and locked doors? I suggest you change all the locks.

 

[Proserpina]

So how did he get in with no known key and locked doors? I suggest you change all the locks.

Read again.

The door wasn't locked.

Dad walked in with kiddo, apparently.

I'll repost what I said in OP's new thread:

OP, would you believe your 3 year old if he told you that he'd been playing on the moon with Steve for the past couple of hours?

I'm honestly not being snarky, just trying to point out an obvious flaw..

 

[mistoffolees]

But here's the thing, my son's father never lived in this house. In fact we have never been together sense my son has been born. (I found out I was pregnant after we broke up) He does not have a key to my home. I used to leave the back door open to my house all the time because I live in a very small town and on a quiet street. But as I said I do lock the doors now. Also my 3 year old did not let him in, he's 3 and I know it was dad's idea. Also I know my son and I know he did not make this up. He told me in detail and he told me he and his father "looked for me in every room". My son's father KNEW I was at work, he usually takes my son to the park or somewhere else until 4pm. There has been no agreement for them to wait or go into my house. The thing I didn't stress enough is that my son's father is very bitter. As far as what do I have to hide? Well I don't have much, but for a period of time while I was going through the court battle and well I am a single mom who works a full time job and has a 3 year old. My house is not always perfect, sometimes I leave the toys on the floor and I don't always get to the dishes or laundry. I try, but it is hard balance work, house and child. The house is the first to go sense the other two are not an option. What my question was...if he came in and took photos of my house being messy can he use those photos against me in court to make me look bad? Especially when he was not permitted in my house. Yes this all sounds paranoid but you don't know my son's father and I do not trust him...obviously he was snooping in my house for one.

You don't know that. You have a 3 year old's word for it. There's a reason that 3 year olds can't testify in court.

You got your answer. Change all the locks and lock the doors when you leave. That's probably a wise move from a safety perspective, anyway. Beyond that, you can either let it go or drive yourself crazy worrying about things.

He can't use any evidence he accumulated when he went there, anyway. He was trespassing and it is very unlikely that the court would allow it. So stop worrying.