i dont understand my rights

[lostindenial788]

What is the name of your state?Connecticut

My parents are most likely splitting up and instead of being put in an argument and having to decide who to live with, I'm going to be 16 in January and I'm looking for a job right away and if they go through with the split I'm going to decide to be on my own if I can and before I do something that dramatic I wanted to know what my rights were...I've searched but nothing really helpful has come up...especially when I asked that if I were emancipated but still under 18 would I be able to get married? I have an ex who I'm hoping to be back with and we've been on and off for an extremely long time...nothing sexual and illegal tho but he's going to be 25...so yea plus I was wondering if my dad who is disabled would lose money from his disability check...and also would I be on my dads insurance still?

 

[BelizeBreeze]

You have no rights. You will either be living with mom or dad, depending on who is granted custody, until you are 18. Then you can hit the road.

 

[lostindenial788]

as soon as i can im emancipating myself seeing as my parents dont really want me...they've told me before my basic question is if someone were emancipated before 18 can they get married to someone who is over age

 

[BelizeBreeze]

as soon as i can im emancipating myself seeing as my parents dont really want me...they've told me before my basic question is if someone were emancipated before 18 can they get married to someone who is over age

so you're telling me you would rather get married as a juvenille, have babies and MAYBE have a life at the ripe old age of 40 instead of sticking it out for two years then getting on with your life.

Just remember, this is a legal site. NOT Oprah. If you want to screw up your life that's up to you. I will NEVER condone your messing up your life for two years. It's your choice.

Oh, one thing you better learn right now. Without parental permission OR following the strict guidelines of your state's emancipation statute, you can't emancipate on your own. If you really want to learn go here:
http://lawrence_cheese.tripod.com/rtsminor.htm

 

[lostindenial788]

I know my parents would have to give consent and they will..i talked to them about it....and i wouldnt be messing up my life by getting married instead of sticking it out for two years...you probably think that i'd just get married....but me and him have talked about it as we've been together for a long time and i dont plan on having kids until im completely done with college because i've grown up with no money and i'd rather have a career before i ever thought about having a child..and i'd have life with him i don't really think i need to be on my own to travel or drink at bars or whatever you think living means

 

[cbg]

If you don't think that getting married at 16 will mess up your life, you really ARE lost in denial. That's the most stupid move you could possibly make.

 

[lostindenial788]

well im not saying id get married at 16 im saying if i moved in with him and before turning 18 we decided to get married and would i even be able to date him legally, does becoming emancipated make you an adult in all aspects i think would be the better question because thats what i was trying to find out not advice on my love life although you're advice is very much appreciated

 

[BelizeBreeze]

well im not saying id get married at 16 im saying if i moved in with him and before turning 18 we decided to get married and would i even be able to date him legally, does becoming emancipated make you an adult in all aspects i think would be the better question because thats what i was trying to find out not advice on my love life although you're advice is very much appreciated

WAnt to bet? Your lovelife is EXACTLY the point. Because you can't get emancipated and move in with someone. You didn't even read how to get emancipated did you?

One of the conditions is that you earn a living enough to SUPPORT YOURSELF.

And yes, emancipation CAN be revoked. So yes, moving in with your boyfriend will void your emancipation petition.

Now, think you know what's going on in the world? Think again.

 

[lostindenial788]

well i do know whats going on in the world...and i wouldnt just become emancipated and run right into my boyfriends arms...my bank account has enough money in it to get an apartment and i plan on getting a job and then eventually most likely move in with him...and yes i did read into emancipation and it was about 2 years ago and i didnt read off the internet i went to the youth services place and talked to someone there about it

 

[CdwJava]

Let's see ... you are 15 and your beau is 24 and the two of you have been "on and off for an extremely long time" ... just WHAT does that mean?

You are 15 - you haven't even been alive for "an extremely long time"!

Okay ... let's assume you started seeing each other when you first started to seriously consider 'boys' as something other than playmates - say, just three years ago ... that would mean that this guy was 21 and interested in a 12 year old!

Good God, girl! This guy is either a pedophile or a horribly immature putz! NO normal guy is going to have a thing for a 12 year old - or even a 15 year old - at his age!

The moment you start losing that girlish look, he'll be in the wind! And if you think living together or getting married does not mean a good chance of children - even with precautions - than you are living even further in denial!

The ONLY way your petitions stands a chance is if both parents are for it, you have a good job, and your schoolwork is quite good. Even then, a judge is likely to withold permission to emancipate you if there are relatives that might be willing to take you in, or, there is no compelling reason to grant you emancipation. And, I believe, part of the CT petition process requires you to explain WHY you want to be emancipated. If it's to avoid making a decision on a parent to live with, the judge can make that easy - it's called 'shared custody.'

This is a BAD idea.

- Carl

 

[lostindenial788]

the thing is we never told age...until my birthday..and then he got mad and we didnt talk for a little bit aka 3 weeks...and so in my point of view its on and off

and things like domestic violence verbal abuse and things like that..its to the point that i go to school work to get good grades and stay away from my family so i dont have to deal with it anymore

 

[AHA]

A point from a married adult woman:

You say that your relationship with this cradle robber(and I don't mean that in a joking way!!) has been off and on for years. If you can't even have a stable consistent on-relationship, how are you supposed to have a life long commited marriage?????? You couln't even be honest at first about your age, and it lead to no talking for 3 weeks!!!!! If you had been married when he found that out and trew you out of the house and didn't talk to you for weeks, where would you have gone? What would you have done?
In a marriage you can't just move out after every fight, set up your own home and not talk for a few months!

When I was 16 I thought I knew everything about the world too, now, several years, travels, jobs, homes and relationships later, it's so obvious I didn't know diddly back then. It's almost embarrassing to think back on how adult I thought I was. No wonder adults laugh at kids that age.

 

[cbg]

Even with parental consent, you can't be legally emancipated unless a judge says so, and I'm having a very hard time envisioning a judge agreeing that emancipation would be in your best interest OR that you are mature enough to be on your own (and I don't mean that in an insulting way).

 

[BelizeBreeze]

well i do know whats going on in the world...and i wouldnt just become emancipated and run right into my boyfriends arms...my bank account has enough money in it to get an apartment and i plan on getting a job and then eventually most likely move in with him...and yes i did read into emancipation and it was about 2 years ago and i didnt read off the internet i went to the youth services place and talked to someone there about it

You are either extremely naieve, the youth services employes idiots or you are lying. In any event, "PLANNING" to get a job isn't going to cut it. You are required by statute to show indisputable evidence of self-sufficency and planning to get a job isn't going to cross the legal threshhold.

In fact, enough money in your account to get an apartment isn't enough. You have to have enough money in your account to sustain an apartment, pay your utilities, transportation, insurance and all other expenses that occur to adults.

You're living in a dream world. SO, either do as I suggested and actually read the damn statutes and quit lying to this forum AND to yourself or reserve your streetlamp because that's where you're headed.

And before you even consider this option, I strongly suggest you read Sec. 53a-71. Sexual assault in the second degree: Class C or B felony of the Conneticut General Statutes which can be found here:

http://www.cga.ct.gov/2003/pub/Chap952.htm#Sec53a-70.htm