i feel horrible

[notgood]

this previous weekend a few friends of mine met up and jammed with our instruments. Anyway we were drinking and i had WAY to much to drink.. i remember my friend saying "i dont think you should drive" and me saying "ahh nah ill be ok" (at that point we had only started drinking and my keys were in my pocket) so pretty much the last thing i can remember was having my car at the side of the road after i had unfortuanitely hit another vehicle infront of me. I thank god he was not injured and i thank God that i didnt kill anybody, im very fortunate for that under these terrible circumstances..

since this has happened iv lost my job (was driving to make money) and of course my license.. here in Canada you automatically get a 90 day suspension regardless for any drinking and driving charge and im sure more after my court..

i feel very depressed about this... i guess all things in life are learning experiences right?

i got my car out of impoundment and it cost me $312 dollars.. i broke the windsheild with my head so it wasent driveable had to get it towed.

im 21 and i still live at home.... i wish this never happened... my anxiety/depression levels are pretty high at the time being..

just seeing if any of you guys have any suggestions or whatnot to do about my situation.. i applied for unemployment insurance but i dont know if i will get it..

i really messed up.. living in the country isnt helping either as their is nothing in walking distance for work and its about a good hour walk to the closest bus stop

im open to any suggestions

 

[averad]

since this has happened iv lost my job (was driving to make money) and of course my license.. here in Canada you automatically get a 90 day suspension regardless for any drinking and driving charge and im sure more after my court..

US Law Only - WHEN POSTING A QUESTION, YOU MUST INCLUDE THE NAME OF YOUR STATE

 

[notgood]

ahh.. sorry


any of you guys know any Canadian forums? iv been having a hard time finding any.. most of the sites i find are all lawyers looking for clients

 

[seniorjudge]

ahh.. sorry


any of you guys know any Canadian forums? iv been having a hard time finding any.. most of the sites i find are all lawyers looking for clients

www.expertlaw.com

I can't guarantee anything....

 

[notgood]

www.expertlaw.com

I can't guarantee anything....

thanks that link looks like it will be helpful


lots of things to read there and so far nothing written about American Laws only

 

[tsifreak]

What do you want us to say You know you were to drunk to drive and you still did its called responsibility. Why did you drive??
Thing you will learn in your classes you will be taking is you dont have to be drunk to get a DUI I had 4 16 oz beers in 1.5 hrs and I got one with a .08 and I was shocked to say the least.
If you drink anything you can get a dui thats the way it is and people dont undersand that. .08 is nothing and you would never think you are impaired sucks buut thats the law.
Yea your real lucky you didnt kill anyone.
I felt real bad as well and I didnt even get pulled over for suspected dui. You will be hurting from this for awile and my want to talk to your doctor about your depresion.
Hey you have to move on. It will be something you will always remember though.
I would really look at getting a very good lawer because of the accident with a dui is bad news

 

[notgood]

thanks tsi

i dont know why i drove.. i cant actually remember getting in my car

whatever lies ahead of me im sure i deserve (or worse) i feel like a burden to my family

my blood alc level was 160

i made an appointment with my doctor and i will be seeing her today.. i feel that i need to talk to somebody outside of my family because id like the opinion of a doctor and somebody not family related.

 

[2901bruce]

this previous weekend a few friends of mine met up and jammed with our instruments. Anyway we were drinking and i had WAY to much to drink.. i remember my friend saying "i dont think you should drive" and me saying "ahh nah ill be ok" (at that point we had only started drinking and my keys were in my pocket) so pretty much the last thing i can remember was having my car at the side of the road after i had unfortuanitely hit another vehicle infront of me. I thank god he was not injured and i thank God that i didnt kill anybody, im very fortunate for that under these terrible circumstances..

since this has happened iv lost my job (was driving to make money) and of course my license.. here in Canada you automatically get a 90 day suspension regardless for any drinking and driving charge and im sure more after my court..

i feel very depressed about this... i guess all things in life are learning experiences right?

i got my car out of impoundment and it cost me $312 dollars.. i broke the windsheild with my head so it wasent driveable had to get it towed.

im 21 and i still live at home.... i wish this never happened... my anxiety/depression levels are pretty high at the time being..

just seeing if any of you guys have any suggestions or whatnot to do about my situation.. i applied for unemployment insurance but i dont know if i will get it..

i really messed up.. living in the country isnt helping either as their is nothing in walking distance for work and its about a good hour walk to the closest bus stop

im open to any suggestions

Thank the Lord. Don't drink & drive. Get on with your life. It could have been much, much worse!

 

[BigMistakeFl]

BigMistakeFl

When you speak with your Dr, if he should prescribe antidepressants, make sure he researches this because some forms of that medication can give a false positive for other medications including narcotics. You may be tested as part of your probation and won't need that trouble.

As the poster above said, you will get through this. You will be a burden to family and friends, and you will hopefully learn from it and never forget the experience. Roughly 50% of us are said to repeat it and end up in the court system again for another DUI. Let's make sure we're not part of that statistic.

 

[notgood]

thanks guys i appreciate the responses


im already on antidepressants.. been taking them for years and need them to function

 

[BigMistakeFl]

BigMistakeFl

Good; whatever it takes to get through and survive this and spread the word. People know of the danger of killing someone when driving after drinking..... they often don't realize that they could very well be that driver and not realize that they have had just one too many. Or even if not, that they can be successfully prosecuted when they aren't falling down drunk, and have to likewise survive the penalties. A limo ride home would be cheaper and much more fun.

Do think about researching the antidepressants you take and you might consider disclosing this to your PO in case a chem test is in the works. Your Dr might also be able to adjust the dosage or switch to another med in case.

 

[notgood]

thanks


iv been on the same anti depressents for about 4 years and they seem to do good for me

the one physical thing thats bothering me is im having trouble taking deep breaths


im also having trouble talking to the people i was with that night.. they keep phoning me to get me out of the house but i dont feel like being around them right now.. what i have been doing is helping out my neighbour with lots of stuff (hes older and i enjoy spending time with him)


im also getting good support from my family which is very helpful and im very thankfull for it

i appreciate all of your responses

 

[justsomeguy]

Keep your head up. It's a horrible thing to go through. I know it's bad, but alot of people on this forum don't see that most DUI people are good people who made a bad decision. or at least one VERY BAD decision, to drink and drive. I don't belive this makes you a bad person, it's something millions of people do every night. That doesn't make it right, it's just that they don't think it's wrong at the time. That is until something like this happens.

Just come to grips with the fact that you are going to have to deal with this, and move on, do what you have to do. Put it behind you , but keep the memory of it fresh so it NEVER happens again.

 

[notgood]

thanks

im feeling pretty good about this right now.

Thinking about the future is getting me down but maybe something good will happen.. maybe unemployment can put me through some school or trade or something. I hated my job anyway.

This also really makes me think that me and alcohol dont mix. A few years ago i had a very bad fight with my dad which caused me to get charged and the night before it happened i was drinking by myself.

Since that happened me and my dad have been on good terms and things are good. Heck me and him would have beers with eachother and shoot the breeze.


The things i see causing me the most grief in the future are my history coming up when i want a job. Not a job to make people happy saying "hey look at me im responsible i have a ****ty job i hate" but something i actually enjoy and take some pride in..


ha i dont even know why im typing this here on this forum but yeah.. i guess im venting

 

[BelizeBreeze]

If you really are sorry, you'll tell pops that you'll get him a beer and you have a soda or iced tea. You are an alcoholic and wrapping it in anything other than what it is will only serve as an excuse for your next binge.

I've been dry now for 31 years and it's still hard on a hot day not to pick up a cold beer (with a pinch of salt and tomato juice). But I enjoy being conscience through life.

The only way to insure it never happens again is to control it now. And if life is hard, thank your stars or whatever God you pray to. Because you've been given a second chance. PERIOD