I have a question reguarding my son

[dawnb]

What is the name of your state? Arizona
The father of my son has visitations on mondays and fridays. He wants to see my son on Saturday one time which I would have no problem but I work saturday nites and I have no one to pick him up for him to drop off. My mom is the one that watches the kids for me but she has an injustion against harrasmen against him and he is not allowed over there for no reason. I told him no because I have no one for him to drop off to. Can he use this against me?

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state? Arizona
The father of my son has visitations on mondays and fridays. He wants to see my son on Saturday one time which I would have no problem but I work saturday nites and I have no one to pick him up for him to drop off. My mom is the one that watches the kids for me but she has an injustion against harrasmen against him and he is not allowed over there for no reason. I told him no because I have no one for him to drop off to. Can he use this against me?

No, you can't be punished for not giving dad extra time. Its nice if you can, but if you can't, you can't. However, is there perhaps another member of dad's family around who could drop the child off at your mom's? Or is it impossible to allow dad to have that Saturday overnight since you will be working? (assuming that dad would even want it)

 

[dawnb]

No, you can't be punished for not giving dad extra time. Its nice if you can, but if you can't, you can't. However, is there perhaps another member of dad's family around who could drop the child off at your mom's? Or is it impossible to allow dad to have that Saturday overnight since you will be working? (assuming that dad would even want it)

Well, I don't think that his room mate would want that. That was in question before and there has been an issue to where Amberly's place is involved. All of his family though lives in Alaska so it really makes it hard. I am trying to stay focused on him being there for dane and hoping that other things aren't happening but still staying cautious. Hey. If he got another job to where he isnt' able to see him as much should I go back to court and do a different visitation schedual and he is also making more money. Should I go back and take him to court or let it be? I honestly don't know about all of this.

 

[GrowUp!]

Hey. If he got another job to where he isnt' able to see him as much should I go back to court and do a different visitation schedual and he is also making more money. Should I go back and take him to court or let it be? I honestly don't know about all of this.

What does the court order say>?

 

[GrowUp!]

What is the name of your state? Arizona
The father of my son has visitations on mondays and fridays. He wants to see my son on Saturday one time which I would have no problem but I work saturday nites and I have no one to pick him up for him to drop off. My mom is the one that watches the kids for me but she has an injustion against harrasmen against him and he is not allowed over there for no reason. I told him no because I have no one for him to drop off to. Can he use this against me?

Is there a neutral place (i.e. police station parking lot) where the exchange can take place, where neither parent leaves their vehicle? What does the order say exactly regarding the injunction?

 

[Ohiogal]

Here is the problem -- you have been involved in ways of depriving your children's fathers of time. That in and of itself will not look favorably in court. Punished for nto giving extra time? No not necessarily. But you can be dinged for not encouraging and facilitating the relationship. Especially if dad comes up with a way to solve the problem and you then have another excuse. Why don't you ask dad for his suggestions as to how to solve the transportation issue. Can he keep his son overnight until Sunday morning? then he can drop the child off to you after you have gotten off work.

 

[nextwife]

Can he keep his son overnight until Sunday morning? then he can drop the child off to you after you have gotten off work.

Golly gee, what an idea!

 

[LdiJ]

Well, I don't think that his room mate would want that. That was in question before and there has been an issue to where Amberly's place is involved. All of his family though lives in Alaska so it really makes it hard. I am trying to stay focused on him being there for dane and hoping that other things aren't happening but still staying cautious. Hey. If he got another job to where he isnt' able to see him as much should I go back to court and do a different visitation schedual and he is also making more money. Should I go back and take him to court or let it be? I honestly don't know about all of this.

Could the roommate possibly drop the child off?

 

[dawnb]

Here is the problem -- you have been involved in ways of depriving your children's fathers of time. That in and of itself will not look favorably in court. Punished for nto giving extra time? No not necessarily. But you can be dinged for not encouraging and facilitating the relationship. Especially if dad comes up with a way to solve the problem and you then have another excuse. Why don't you ask dad for his suggestions as to how to solve the transportation issue. Can he keep his son overnight until Sunday morning? then he can drop the child off to you after you have gotten off work.

If you were reading it. It said that amberly's place is involved. Just to let you know that there is an investigation going. I really don't want your input Ohiogal. You don't talk with respect and apparently you think that I am a whore! I can tell that you have been very sheltered in your life. You have nothing to say to me so stay out of it!!!!!!!!
Please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11

 

[stealth2]

If you were reading it. It said that amberly's place is involved. Just to let you know that there is an investigation going. He could possibly be getting sexually abused. My son has been telling me and my friends things...... So please stay out of this. I am trying don't want your input. I hope that I put you in your place. This is a very serious issue.

Except no one knows what the hell "Amberly's Place" is! And you may want to know that OG is an attorney. Too bad you're not interested in her input.

 

[dawnb]

Could the roommate possibly drop the child off?

He won't let anyone drop him off except for himself. I know that I haven't been in the best situations but I am only trying to do better in my life and in my children. I obey by the court order and I still struggle with the "what could be" and try not freak out about certain situations. I let my son go and also deal with the detective and Amberly's Place. I wish that people wouldn't take my life like I am someone that I am not. I understand that you only read what is written and it can be taken so easily out of place. I am not a whore and I don't just open my legs to anyone. I tried working out this relationship with the father for 4 years just to see that it wasn't any good for me or my son. Thank you for answering my questions and I hope that I answered yours and everyone elses. I am here for legal advice. I do my own research too but to be honest I don't understand the legal terms.

 

[CJane]

Wow. I'm confused.

You have 'no problem' letting dad have some extra time, except for a minor drop off issue.

But the child might be being sexually abused while at dad's house?

 

[GrowUp!]

If you were reading it. It said that amberly's place is involved. Just to let you know that there is an investigation going. I really don't want your input Ohiogal. You don't talk with respect and apparently you think that I am a whore! I can tell that you have been very sheltered in your life. You have nothing to say to me so stay out of it!!!!!!!!
Please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11

Consult with an attorney in your area -- change that -- consult SEVERAL in your area and see what they tell you.

We'll be waiting for that apology for OG.

 

[Ohiogal]

If you were reading it. It said that amberly's place is involved. Just to let you know that there is an investigation going. I really don't want your input Ohiogal. You don't talk with respect and apparently you think that I am a whore! I can tell that you have been very sheltered in your life. You have nothing to say to me so stay out of it!!!!!!!!
Please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11

I never said you were a whore. I do however think you have the manners of a guttersnipe. And I respond to whoever I want to respond to -- I do not need your permission nor will I ever ask for your permission to respond. You don't want me to respond then you don't post on here. Because I will respond to whoever I so desire and say whatever I so desire because you see, I am not your little slave nor your child to listen to whatever tripe comes out of your mouth> Got it?
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And where did I ever use the term whore? I told you if you wanted things easy that you should not have children out of wedlock. That is a legal fact. That gives rights automatically to both parents as well as obligations to both parents and then you wouldn't be wondering how you can terminate the rights of a father who has not yet abandoned his child because he legall does not have one. If you can't stand the facts of life, don't participate in life. If you don't want to know the law, then continue on.

 

[dawnb]

Except no one knows what the hell "Amberly's Place" is! And you may want to know that OG is an attorney. Too bad you're not interested in her input.

I wouldn't mind her input if she would do it respectfully. I don't appreciate it.