I have Dual citizenship, and it's being used against me

[jason123xy]

Nevada
I have shared physical custody of my boys, 7 and 9 (one week on, one week off)
The judge has ordered me to pay 24% of the difference between my ex's income and mine. I make (gross) twice as much as she does. I'm paying more than I can afford. I have many loans incurred while my ex and I lived together. My net income is not sufficient to cover my expenses. I have done all I can do; loan modification on the mortgage, cancelled services I could live without. But that's not enough.
My questions:
1) Anything I can do to reduce child support, is there any legal avenue for me to change the the calculation so it's based on "net, bring home" income instead of inflated gross income?
2) The court is withholding the kids passports because my ex made a claim that I threatened to take them outside the country. I'm Jordanian American national. Jordan is not on the Hague convention list
3) If I were to relocate to Jordan for other family issues (taking care of aging parent) how will visitation work out? Since the judge is holding the kids passports, should I expect not to see them there ever? isn't that discrimination?

 

[ecmst12]

I think it's perfectly reasonable for your ex not to allow your children to go to a country where you could keep them from her forever.

 

[TheGeekess]

1.) Depends on how your state figures CS income, but from what I've read here
https://dwss.nv.gov/index.php?option=com_docman&task=doc_download&gid=125&Itemid=287 it looks like it is within guidelines.

2./3.)Since Jordan is not a signatory of the Hague Convention if the judge allowed the children to visit you there and you decided to keep them there Mom would not have any recourse. So, no it's not discrimination but prudence.

 

[Proserpina]

Nevada
I have shared physical custody of my boys, 7 and 9 (one week on, one week off)
The judge has ordered me to pay 24% of the difference between my ex's income and mine. I make (gross) twice as much as she does. I'm paying more than I can afford. I have many loans incurred while my ex and I lived together. My net income is not sufficient to cover my expenses. I have done all I can do; loan modification on the mortgage, cancelled services I could live without. But that's not enough.
My questions:
1) Anything I can do to reduce child support, is there any legal avenue for me to change the the calculation so it's based on "net, bring home" income instead of inflated gross income?
2) The court is withholding the kids passports because my ex made a claim that I threatened to take them outside the country. I'm Jordanian American national. Jordan is not on the Hague convention list
3) If I were to relocate to Jordan for other family issues (taking care of aging parent) how will visitation work out? Since the judge is holding the kids passports, should I expect not to see them there ever? isn't that discrimination?

Did you make a threat? Even an idle, spur-of-the-moment, not really real, kind of threat?

 

[LdiJ]

Nevada
I have shared physical custody of my boys, 7 and 9 (one week on, one week off)
The judge has ordered me to pay 24% of the difference between my ex's income and mine. I make (gross) twice as much as she does. I'm paying more than I can afford. I have many loans incurred while my ex and I lived together. My net income is not sufficient to cover my expenses. I have done all I can do; loan modification on the mortgage, cancelled services I could live without. But that's not enough.
My questions:
1) Anything I can do to reduce child support, is there any legal avenue for me to change the the calculation so it's based on "net, bring home" income instead of inflated gross income?
2) The court is withholding the kids passports because my ex made a claim that I threatened to take them outside the country. I'm Jordanian American national. Jordan is not on the Hague convention list
3) If I were to relocate to Jordan for other family issues (taking care of aging parent) how will visitation work out? Since the judge is holding the kids passports, should I expect not to see them there ever? isn't that discrimination?

You would have to come here to visit them.

Seriously, its not discrimination. Jordan is not a signatory to the Hague Convention so the judge really has little choice but to hold the passports.

Also, when child support is based on net rather than gross, the percentages are normally higher.

I understand that you have downsized, but is there anything you could do to increase your net? (reduce 401k contributions etc?)