I just wanna screammmmmm!!!!!!

[jcl110367]

I am so confused. I am sooooo sick of my fiances kids it is upsetting my stomach just at the sight of them. They are 12 and 14 and playing her for a fool and she is letting them. My daughter, who is 8 years old is beginning to pick up the bad habits of the twelve year old girl and that is something i tried to stop years ago but the mother continuously brushed it off and basically said, deal with it. Well, now i am tired of dealing with it as I cant any longer. Grantede its easier to ignore problems with kids then to deal with them rationally, but is it healthy? I think not. I see the attitude in my daughter from the 12 year old more and more every day and it almost makes me cry. I never dreamed I would even think about splitting up a family where kids are involved but if I dont,I feel it will be a lifelong regret on my part and the kids are doomed for god only knows how long, seeing how the two parents here cant work together, instead, I am the bad guy for trying to teach them responsibility, manners etc, and because mommy just dont care, makes her sooo wonderful. Little do they know, mommy is setting them up for a major downfall. Sorry, but I cant stick around and watch that happen, and more importantly, not to the two girls I have with her.So the question here is, What steps do I take to end this nightmare and obtain custody of my girls. What does a judge take into consideration when determining custody? Family witnesses? photographs of messy rooms etc, showing no reponsibility in the household being taught? My interests are the best interests of the children, my children, only because the only rights I have to her two children from a previous marriage are to see they are financially supported but any input on how to raise them is out of the question. Fair? no! Wrong ? yes!!! Basically, I just need to be prepared when I go to court for custody and anything and everything I can take with me, will be most helpful but what that is is the question. I can go in running my mouth about this and that but that is hearsay right? Please respond. Thank You.

 

[blueboy]

whoa, slow down there

You put a whole lot of info. there, but I don't remember a state.
This is what I got..
You are a dad, you have an 8 year old daughter. You are engaged to a lady with 2 kids, age 12 and 14.
is this right?
You and your finance are the parents of the 8 year old? You want to leave and take your daughter? How am I doing so far?
If this is the case you need to go and get custody established of your daughter. You would need to go to court and establish custody. Until then you can leave the house with your daughter, and get your own place. I wouldn't leave though until you have filed for custody. If the house is a pig sty then you may want to take pictures, but remember you live in that house too, so it is half your mess.
If this advice is incorrect, don't worry...LB, or one of the other biggies will come in and set us straight. If I had your story wrong, well I'm sorry, and please restate your case.