I know I'll be in contempt.

[VyRoses]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? michigan

I want to leave with child. Bio-father recently took me to court. Was awarded a few full weekends per month and recognized as a Gardian. Judge over looked long history of Bio-father's --Violance, jail time and serious drug abuse 15 yrs of... He's been clean for over 1yr. (Later He says he took me to court because I was dating someone for a few months.) I know now I should 'Not' have represented myself in court but date came and didn't find a suitible lawer, but I thought I had so much evidance against him on his history I didn't have to worry about it.

Brief History of info.

kicked Bio-father to the curb at 7 months pragnant, he was working for my Dad at the time, he was fired, afterwards they found used needles in the work-truck, I left him.

I did not put any of his info on Birth Certifacte

Has been in and out of childs life last 5yrs

Gardianship Order has been active almost one year.

when child was 18months old went to court for child support, over 400$ comes off his check since than.

Seeing emotional problems due to fathers influence, Impossible to prove in court, we all know.

What are possible consiqences if I leave with no notification to him and without consent? This is what the Gardianship entails on my child and I moving.

Thank you, Vy

 

[Proserpina]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? michigan

I want to leave with child. Bio-father recently took me to court. Was awarded a few full weekends per month and recognized as a Gardian. Judge over looked long history of Bio-father's --Violance, jail time and serious drug abuse 15 yrs of... He's been clean for over 1yr. (Later He says he took me to court because I was dating someone for a few months.) I know now I should 'Not' have represented myself in court but date came and didn't find a suitible lawer, but I thought I had so much evidance against him on his history I didn't have to worry about it.

Brief History of info.

kicked Bio-father to the curb at 7 months pragnant, he was working for my Dad at the time, he was fired, afterwards they found used needles in the work-truck, I left him.

I did not put any of his info on Birth Certifacte

Has been in and out of childs life last 5yrs

Gardianship Order has been active almost one year.

when child was 18months old went to court for child support, over 400$ comes off his check since than.

Seeing emotional problems due to fathers influence, Impossible to prove in court, we all know.

What are possible consiqences if I leave with no notification to him and without consent? This is what the Gardianship entails on my child and I moving.

Thank you, Vy

Where do you intend to move?

If you leave without notification or consent - per your orders - you run the risk of actually becoming the NCP.

 

[VyRoses]

Whats the NCP?

 

[stealth2]

Should you do what you plan, know that when you are found (and you will eventually found), you will be in serious hot water and will likely not only lose custody of your child, but will also be required to have supervised visitation. I wouldn't recommend it.

 

[TheGeekess]

Have you discussed with Dad about putting the child in counseling?

 

[stealth2]

NCP = Non Custodial Parent.

 

[Proserpina]

Whats the NCP?

Non-custodial parent.

In other words - the one who gets visitation.

 

[VyRoses]

...Alright, tell me? How would he find me? Unless you'v got a whole lot of money to do it, how?...

 

[Proserpina]

...Alright, tell me? How would he find me? Unless you'v got a whole lot of money to do it, how?...

Seriously, do you expect us to help you hide the child from the child's parent?




The answer to your question btw, is "You might be VERY surprised at how easy it is to find someone...."

 

[nextwife]

...Alright, tell me? How would he find me? Unless you'v got a whole lot of money to do it, how?...

a skip trace.

 

[VyRoses]

Should you do what you plan, know that when you are found (and you will eventually found), you will be in serious hot water and will likely not only lose custody of your child, but will also be required to have supervised visitation. I wouldn't recommend it.

No, no, no that doesn't just happen, especially with his history, living conditions ect. I don't think so. There would first be a whole lot of court dates, witch is $. Also I would first be forced back to live here. Custody doesn't just get thrown over to him... give me a break people.

 

[stealth2]

Off the top of my head... You leave, he files contempt, the court issues a bench warrant against you. You get into a fender-bender, and the cops run your name. And that warrant comes up. Given that you'd be taking the child, you should expect that the info would go to every state.

Seriously - crappy idea. It is not that hard to find someone when you put your mind to it. It may not happen overnight, but it will happen. Do you really want to live the rest of your life - and have your son do the same - wondering when you'll be caught? You can run, but you can't hide. Not forever.

You chose this dude to father your child. Now it's time to figure out how to mitigate those circumstances. Running away won't help.

 

[VyRoses]

a skip trace.

is that a Joke, a Skip Trace? are you making words up?

 

[InfantCustody]

...Alright, tell me? How would he find me? Unless you'v got a whole lot of money to do it, how?...

He will go to court. The court will issue an order for you to return the child immediately. When you fail to do so because you and the child cannot be located, the court will eventually issue a warrant for parental kidnapping. Once the warrant is issued for parental kidnapping, law enforcement will take over your case. Law enforcement will track you down. Maybe not tomorrow, maybe not in 5 years, but they will track you down. It will not cost Dad a lot of money. All Dad has to do is put a motion before the court and the rest moves from there. Sure, if Dad had money, it may go quicker but it would happen.

The judge who is on our case had this situation come through her court: Mom had custody of the child the first 5 years. Dad had every other week-end. Dad goes to court, gets 50/50 since the child was school age. Mom decides she IS NOT giving Dad 50/50 and sends the child to Florida with Grama. Took the courts and law enforcement 9 weeks to track her down by which time she had warrants out for her arrest. She is arrested (charges later dismissed) but the judge gave Dad SOLE LEGAL AND PHYSICAL custody of the child. Mom was told she could have visitation IF she could afford to pay for a professional therapeutic agency to supervise. Mom could not, and now has not seen the child in 4 years. The case was appealed, and upheld.

I DO NOT RECOMMEND what you are seeking.

Why are you so opposed to Dad spending time with HIS son?

 

[Proserpina]

No, no, no that doesn't just happen, especially with his history, living conditions ect. I don't think so. There would first be a whole lot of court dates, witch is $. Also I would first be forced back to live here. Custody doesn't just get thrown over to him... give me a break people.

1. Drop the attitude.

2. You CAN lose custody. Now, who said it would happen overnight? NOBODY.

3. Answer the questions please.

And finally...

Do you really think that he's going to need a million dollars to haul you back into court? Seriously? There are father's rights groups and attorneys all over the country HUNGRY for cases like this...

Don't fool yourself.