I married a sociopath

[kaydeedidnot]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? Indiana
To make a very long story short, my (soon-to-be) ex-husband took explicit photos of my while I slept (yes, I WAS a very sound sleeper). I have found dozens of photos, negatives and 2 memory cards for digital cameras, but don't know how many he took or what, if anything, he did with them. I want to make clear that I never, in any way shape or form, consented to him taking the photos. I would like to know if there is any way he can be prosecuted, or held liable in any way. He is currently in jail on several felony (domestic battery) charges, and awaiting sentencing on unrelated felony drug charges in another county. I hesitate to open this disgusting subject with the prosecutors involved, because I will have more contact with them during the resolution of the charges mentioned above. I would like to see my ex punished, but if there's nothing that can be done, I'd rather not face the humiliation of having to tell anyone else (particularly my teenaged son) what the sick %*#* did to me.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? Indiana
To make a very long story short, my (soon-to-be) ex-husband took explicit photos of my while I slept (yes, I WAS a very sound sleeper). I have found dozens of photos, negatives and 2 memory cards for digital cameras, but don't know how many he took or what, if anything, he did with them. I want to make clear that I never, in any way shape or form, consented to him taking the photos. I would like to know if there is any way he can be prosecuted, or held liable in any way. He is currently in jail on several felony (domestic battery) charges, and awaiting sentencing on unrelated felony drug charges in another county. I hesitate to open this disgusting subject with the prosecutors involved, because I will have more contact with them during the resolution of the charges mentioned above. I would like to see my ex punished, but if there's nothing that can be done, I'd rather not face the humiliation of having to tell anyone else (particularly my teenaged son) what the sick %*#* did to me.

My response:

How long had you known him before you married him?

IAAL

 

[stephenk]

You want to punish him for taking the photos but you don't want to tell anyone that he took the photos. How do you expect him to be charged with any crime if you won't come forward with the evidence?

 

[kaydeedidnot]

I had known him for one year before we were married. I did not say I would not come forward, I said I didn't want to tell anyone UNLESS he could be charged. I have been doing research on Indiana's Legal Codes, but I'm not a lawyer. The bottom line, I guess, is this: Assuming my statements are fact, did he commit a crime? (Or is he just a disgusting human being?)

 

[BelizeBreeze]

The good news is that the photos of you sleeping have now made it to the internet.

The bad news is, others have. If you would like to review them, please go here. http://www.nolose.org/Events/fleamarket.htm

 

[kaydeedidnot]

The good news is, you think you are cute, part of the bad news is that you are wrong. The other bad news is that someday you may find yourself in a similar situation and have the misfortune to speak to someone with as little regard for the others as you have shown.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

I had known him for one year before we were married. I did not say I would not come forward, I said I didn't want to tell anyone UNLESS he could be charged. I have been doing research on Indiana's Legal Codes, but I'm not a lawyer. The bottom line, I guess, is this: Assuming my statements are fact, did he commit a crime? (Or is he just a disgusting human being?)

My response:

Why am I finding this in my e-mail, and why isn't it on the thread? And, why are you writing it in the first place?

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IAAL

 

[kaydeedidnot]

I don't have any idea why it came to you, email or otherwise. It is in the thread, and it was in reply to BelizeBreeze who seems to find humor in the situation.

 

[seniorjudge]

"... I hesitate to open this disgusting subject with the prosecutors involved, because I will have more contact with them during the resolution of the charges mentioned above. I would like to see my ex punished, but if there's nothing that can be done, I'd rather not face the humiliation of having to tell anyone else (particularly my teenaged son) what the sick %*#* did to me...."

Speaking as a former prosecutor, let me give you my insight. Your husband would, if you filed these charges, would probably want a jury trial. The pix get handed out to the jury.

His defense would be not only that you consented to these photographs, but that you begged him to take him. You have a peeping tom fetish and that kind of role playing gets you off.

You answer, "No, I was really truly asleep the whole time!"

You see where I am coming from? What do you think a jury would think?

So drop it.

 

[calatty]

It is not a crime to take pictures of your wife while she is sleeping. How sick and explicit could they be without waking you up?

 

[BelizeBreeze]

It is not a crime to take pictures of your wife while she is sleeping. How sick and explicit could they be without waking you up?

Well that depends on what he had in his 'other' hand

 

[Venus05]

This is too damn funny!

The good news is that the photos of you sleeping have now made it to the internet.

The bad news is, others have. If you would like to review them, please go here. http://www.nolose.org/Events/fleamarket.htm

Belize, where in the hell did you come up with this?? If they were that explicit while sleeping, imagine what they would be like is she were awake. hmmmm..........If I were her, I'd start posing and try to get the cash before he did