My daughter and her social worker thought it would be a good idea to go to mediation, so my daughter could see her children more (she only saw them 39 hours a year, which includes a 15-minute phone call once a week). Her ex had a lawyer for mediation. My daughter had no one with her. I typed a 42-page booklet with dates, instances, and abuse from her ex. (I kept track in a notebook with dates for years and kept all of her ex's emails). I read that people who are under the ADA should ask for accommodations for mediation. Of course, my daughter didn't know this (or me), and I realize it is her fault that she did not ask. Her ex had a very sneaky lawyer, who made the mediation worse, and most of it related to her illness under the ADA. He made us her supervisors (we were never asked). We have to be with her when she sees the kids for 2 hours, in hearing and visible distance, when she is with the kids (we live a state away). My daughter is doing very well; she has not had a bipolar episode for 4 years. I told her to get letters from her doctor, counselor, nurse, and social worker, but she never did. I would think that if my daughter's disability was such a big part of mediation, she should have been told that she could have assistance. The Lawyer who wrote up the mediation was crude and now making us drive 1200 miles to see our grandchildren. We used to meet halfway with their dad. That was only 600 miles. Now for us, it is 300 there, 300 home, 300 back, and 300 home; it is very crazy. I read that his lawyer was in trouble along with a judge in Minnesota, getting clients to pay them, helping parents get custody, and helping with parent alienation. I found out my daughter's ex had this same lawyer (by mistake). This now lawyer, was learning and doing this, when he was a law clerk under a judge. He later became a lawyer and is with a practice. The money, custody, and alienation case was very well known in Minnesota. I cannot believe that a law clerk was able to become a lawyer and is now practicing what he learned. Everything written in the lawyer's mediation report makes it almost impossible for us or my daughter to see the kids. The kids love seeing their mother and us. They come to our house and don't want to leave. They pack their suitcases 2 weeks before. Now, their dad and his new wife are listening to our phone calls on speaker phone, and lately when we call and the children, we leave a message to call back; no one answers the phone or calls back. Many people are telling us to get a lawyer. Because we are the grandparents we know are rights are limited. We did watch our youngest grandson for 10 months - but is must be 12 months. I feel my daughter needs a new mediation (if possible). I have a copy of their divorce decree and my daughter's ex is in contempt of many decisions that were made. I guess I just don't know what to do. We all became victims and are slowly being eliminated from the children's life. I am afraid they are being brainwashed to forget about us. I know that parent and grandparent alienation is growing and I believe many lawyers are using this practice and teaching their clients what to do; I never would have dreamed that people could do this. I would like suggestions/answers that I discussed above. Thank you.