Thought it was Minnesota from some of the dialogue, but you're right, it's never been clear. But in the meantime, GEM GEM. If your daughter is a person who has in the past been functional and has a college degree as you say and is a smart person, this just makes it all the clearer what we are telling you. BUTT OUT!!!!!
You're saying, "My daughter won't let me see the papers....." which is a pretty big clue for you here. Your daughter is not really needing all this legal advice, if she was, she'd be on here herself. NO ONE is going to listen to you or let you have control of this situation. NO, do not write the judge a letter it is a total waste of your time and mental energy and I assure you no one will ever want to read it. If you want to help your daughter, and/or your grandchildren, give her money for a good attorney. Then hush.