I want to get a divorce!

[abbeysmith1025]

Hello. I'm from New York. I want to ask a question, maybe someone will tell me what I can doing? I have a husband, we’ve been married for 5 years. Most recently, I met another man and realized that I love him. I want to file for divorce, but my current husband is against it. Tell me, can I get a divorce without his consent? I cannot be with a new man until I divorce my husband.

 

[not2cleverRed]

Yes, you can get a divorce against your husband's consent. It's called a "contested divorce".

Contested divorces are more expensive than uncontested divorces because the parties are not in agreement.
Contested divorces are not quick. They can take years, and are more emotionally traumatic.
It is wise to retain a lawyer if you are contemplating a contested divorce.

If your husband is a good man, marriage counselling is cheaper.

 

[livinmybestlife]

Why is this in the child support forum? Are there children involved?

 

[PayrollHRGuy]

Of course you can get a divorce. You aren't property. But as mentioned it will cost more and take longer.

Here a timeline from the NY Courts web site.

http://ww2.nycourts.gov/divorce/divorce_timeline.shtml

 

[stealth2]

Hello. I'm from New York. I want to ask a question, maybe someone will tell me what I can doing? I have a husband, we’ve been married for 5 years. Most recently, I met another man and realized that I love him. I want to file for divorce, but my current husband is against it. Tell me, can I get a divorce without his consent? I cannot be with a new man until I divorce my husband.

Perhaps you should consider marital counseling? The "honeymoon" of a new person can be so intoxicating, but it doesn't last. He will belch and fart - just like your husband. He will want to do his own thing - just like your husband. He will no longer see you as his stars and moon - just like your husband. He will cheat on you - just as you have on your husband. Or you'll cheat on him - what you do to one, you will do to the other. Real life will set in - as it has with your husband.

Seriously, darling - grow up.

 

[Ohiogal]

Hello. I'm from New York. I want to ask a question, maybe someone will tell me what I can doing? I have a husband, we’ve been married for 5 years. Most recently, I met another man and realized that I love him. I want to file for divorce, but my current husband is against it. Tell me, can I get a divorce without his consent? I cannot be with a new man until I divorce my husband.

How do you know love this new man? How do you know this new man loves you? Jumping from one relationship to another is NOT healthy. And what is to say that five years down the road you won't be on to another relationship?

 

[t74]

I admit I am old fashioned and older than dirt. While not illegal, it is questionable to become involved with another romatically while still married. If he would become involved with you, why would you think he would be loyal to you and not become involved with another person while you were together.

Before seeing a divorce lawyer, see a counselor and get yourself under control.

 

[Zigner]

Looking at it from the other side of the coin...why would ANYONE want to be with someone who would cheat on their spouse?

 

[Just Blue]

Looking at it from the other side of the coin...why would ANYONE want to be with someone who would cheat on their spouse?

What she'll do with you, she'll do too you.

 

[Zigner]

What she'll do with you, she'll do too you.

True, but even before you get to that, doesn't it speak to the moral character of the person in the first place?

 

[Just Blue]

True, but even before you get to that, doesn't it speak to the moral character of the person in the first place?

Yes, it does.

 

[LdiJ]

True, but even before you get to that, doesn't it speak to the moral character of the person in the first place?

It does speak to the moral character. However, if you go back and read the last sentence in her original post, I think that perhaps in this one instance, it might not be a factor.

 

[stealth2]

I admit I am old fashioned and older than dirt. While not illegal, it is questionable to become involved with another romantically while still married. If he would become involved with you, why would you think he would be loyal to you and not become involved with another person while you were together.

Before seeing a divorce lawyer, see a counselor and get yourself under control.

One thing I have taught both of my girls - finish one relationship completely before starting a new one.

 

[not2cleverRed]

It does speak to the moral character. However, if you go back and read the last sentence in her original post, I think that perhaps in this one instance, it might not be a factor.

It depends on what your definition of "be with" is.

 

[LdiJ]

It depends on what your definition of "be with" is.

That is why I said "might".