I was never served paperwork.

[ChelsCoop]

Texas, Washington
11 years ago I was in a coma from H1N1. After 3 months, I woke up and my grandmother disappeared with my 2 year old son. I had given birth to my now 10 year old daughter during my coma. I have since had 2 more children and am married. I have spent the last 11 years trying to find my son. I just recently got where he lives and my grandmother's phone number. She is 81. She is his great grandmother. She will not answer me, she will not let me speak to him. She has cut off everyone but a few people. What are my rights as a parent? I have never been deemed to be unfit and she literally hid him from me when I woke up from the coma. I was concerned about getting healthy and my future. I never thought she would of done this to me. But I really would like to speak and see my son.

 

[LdiJ]

Texas, Washington
11 years ago I was in a coma from H1N1. After 3 months, I woke up and my grandmother disappeared with my 2 year old son. I had given birth to my now 10 year old daughter during my coma. I have since had 2 more children and am married. I have spent the last 11 years trying to find my son. I just recently got where he lives and my grandmother's phone number. She is 81. She is his great grandmother. She will not answer me, she will not let me speak to him. She has cut off everyone but a few people. What are my rights as a parent? I have never been deemed to be unfit and she literally hid him from me when I woke up from the coma. I was concerned about getting healthy and my future. I never thought she would of done this to me. But I really would like to speak and see my son.

It is time to get an attorney involved. Your situation is too complicated to attempt to assert your rights without one. Your grandmother may have obtained temporary custody while you were in the coma which would take your strategy in one direction, but if she didn't then she basically kidnapped your son.

However, you also need to tread carefully where your son is concerned. He was only 2 when it happened and it is unlikely that he remembers you. Your grandmother may have even told him that you died.

 

[Just Blue]

Texas, Washington
11 years ago I was in a coma from H1N1. After 3 months, I woke up and my grandmother disappeared with my 2 year old son. I had given birth to my now 10 year old daughter during my coma. I have since had 2 more children and am married. I have spent the last 11 years trying to find my son. I just recently got where he lives and my grandmother's phone number. She is 81. She is his great grandmother. She will not answer me, she will not let me speak to him. She has cut off everyone but a few people. What are my rights as a parent? I have never been deemed to be unfit and she literally hid him from me when I woke up from the coma. I was concerned about getting healthy and my future. I never thought she would of done this to me. But I really would like to speak and see my son.

Did you check to see if your grandmother was awarded guardianship while you were in a coma? Who was caring for your newborn while you were in the coma? Did you report this to the police? What methods did you use to find your son?

 

[ChelsCoop]

I don't knopw if my she was granted guardianship. My now husband took care of my daughter (My son was with someone else). Never got police involved, because during that few months I was trying to recover. I made so many attempts to communicate with her. Last time was in Fall of 2010 She changed her number and they had moved. She has since cut everyone off. I got info from family members who live in Oregon and Washington who have been able to track her down. She is 81. Not like she is a spry young woman running around with him.

 

[zddoodah]

What are my rights as a parent?

Are you hoping someone will give you a list? If not, what sort of answer are you seeking to this question?

What does this statement from the subject header of your post mean: "I was never served paperwork"? What paperwork are you talking about?

At any point after you came out of the coma, did you report the kidnapping to the police? Have you contacted the police in the area where the child lives? If not, why on Earth not? What does the child's other parent have to say about all this?

I made so many attempts to communicate with her. Last time was in Fall of 2010

What? That was 10.5 years ago, which is right around the time you said this happened, which basically means you've never made any attempts to contact her.

 

[not2cleverRed]

I don't knopw if my she was granted guardianship. My now husband took care of my daughter (My son was with someone else). Never got police involved, because during that few months I was trying to recover. I made so many attempts to communicate with her. Last time was in Fall of 2010 She changed her number and they had moved. She has since cut everyone off. I got info from family members who live in Oregon and Washington who have been able to track her down. She is 81. Not like she is a spry young woman running around with him.

Why?

I get that when you are recovering from being in a coma, you have other priorities, but it's been TEN YEARS.

What you need now is a lawyer, and a PI - the PI to find your son, the lawyer to help you reassert your parental rights.

Should you find your son alive and well, expect to also spend time (and money) on therapy and a reunification plan. Your son no longer knows you, and while I understand you desire to have him back in your life, you have to realize that he's probably been told a lot of lies along the way.

 

[Just Blue]

I don't knopw if my she was granted guardianship. My now husband took care of my daughter (My son was with someone else). Never got police involved, because during that few months I was trying to recover. I made so many attempts to communicate with her. Last time was in Fall of 2010 She changed her number and they had moved. She has since cut everyone off. I got info from family members who live in Oregon and Washington who have been able to track her down. She is 81. Not like she is a spry young woman running around with him.

So you really did nothing proactive to find your son. Making a police report would not have interfered with your recovery. I suggest you hire a PI to find out where your son is living and hire an attorney to assist with getting some visitation rights. The attorney will also find out if there are any court orders regarding your son.

 

[ChelsCoop]

So you really did nothing proactive to find your son. Making a police report would not have interfered with your recovery. I suggest you hire a PI to find out where your son is living and hire an attorney to assist with getting some visitation rights. The attorney will also find out if there are any court orders regarding your son.

I did everything proactive, I searched constantly for her, attempted to reach out, we went to their old house when I visited. I never had much money, she literally disappeared. That's why I am asking now, that I have found her. We have her address, and I am in a way better position, as we lost everything after my coma, was homeless for a year, now living in Houston in my own home. Don't tell me I didn't try.

 

[zddoodah]

I did everything proactive

Obviously not "everything" since you (1) didn't report the kidnapping to the police (and seemingly have no good reason for not doing so), and (2) haven't made an attempt to communicate in 10.5 years.

The first thing you need to do is contact the police where she is living. Given that it's been so long, they may or may not choose to get involved.

Had you not waited so long, this would have been a ridiculously simple matter, but the passage of so much time has made this very complicated. Your son has not known you for the overwhelming majority of his life, so you have psychological issues to deal with in addition to legal issues. If the police won't get involved, you'll need to retain the services of a local attorney.

 

[Just Blue]

I did everything proactive, I searched constantly for her, attempted to reach out, we went to their old house when I visited. I never had much money, she literally disappeared. That's why I am asking now, that I have found her. We have her address, and I am in a way better position, as we lost everything after my coma, was homeless for a year, now living in Houston in my own home. Don't tell me I didn't try.

You didn't call the police and report your child missing/kidnapped. That was a free proactive step you could have taken to find your child. An Amber Alert may have been issued and your son returned to your custody had you filed a FREE police report. Also...you had enough money to have two additional children and purchase a home. So you had money (at some point) but chose to spend it on having other children and buying a home rather than an attorney and PI to find your missing son. These are issues you will likely be asked to address in court and in therapy with your son.

You will need to hire an attorney to file for visitation. The attorney will also be able to find out if there were any court orders regarding your son. Expect that visitation will take place in the child's community. Likely therapeutic/supervised visitation will be required for quite some time. You might want to consider moving to your son's community to facilitate the relationship between you and your son.