If the father isn't 18

[Toxic]

What is the name of your state? Minnesota

My daughter is due to deliver her child in the next 2 weeks. She just turned 18, and the father will be 18 in January. Is he responsible to pay any child support at this time? How do I get the process of collecting child support started? Is this paperwork that needs to be filled out via the county we live in? This guy actually told my daughter that if she keeps the baby, he will never speak to her again. Initially, we were not going to pursue child support, but now feel he needs to be a part of this baby, even if it hits him in the wallet. Any suggestions?

Tox

 

[BelizeBreeze]

any suggestions? are you kidding? how about sewing your daughter's legs together for starters.

Next, so see a family law attorney to begin the process of support/visitation/paternity.

And last, pull your head out of your oraffice. And PLEASE tell me you don't have anymore children....geeeez trailor dwellers

 

[Whyte Noise]

You can't get child support for an unborn child. There's no child to support yet.

He's not required to pay child support after the baby is born until a court orders him to either.

YOU don't get the process of child support started. The child's mother does. She's the only one due it, she's the only one that can request it.

 

[VeronicaGia]

And she needs to start by requesting a court ordered DNA test once the baby is born.

 

[SM5NY]

Oh Yup, we would all love to jump on this one, 17 & 18, having a baby. Wow!! However, the child is coming and now it time too deal with it, after all you can't go back now.
First child birth, DNA, then worry about the support, but while in the process, don't forget to have both the parents love, and cherish the life they created.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

but while in the process, don't forget to have both the parents love, and cherish the life they created.

You have GOT to be kidding. Like that's going to happen.

 

[SM5NY]

You have GOT to be kidding. Like that's going to happen.

Heck no, I don't think it's going to happen. It never does, but a word of confidence never hurt anyone.
Tell ya what I think will happen. Kids born, bobbed and fought over cause it's parent were to YOUNG to relized that they should of use protaction and now are to YOUNG to be rasing this child..... Sound right???
But like I said the child is coming and there's no turning back!!! It's sad reall)

 

[AHA]

Once the baby is born, the father might want contact with it. It's not uncommon for that to happen. So, everything has to wait until the birth.

I wish kids in the US got sex education, meaning how to have safe sex. If the schools don't do it, it should be enforced at home. I'm getting sick to my stomach reading (on this board alone) every day of new kids having babies! Are parents talking to their kids at all about the consequences of having sex?
I guess I'm lucky when it comes to having caring parents.

 

[Toxic]

Tough Crowd

First off, trailer (trailor?) dwellers is a pretty childish term. Secondly, I own my home, no mortgage left to pay. I live on 2 acres with 200 spruce tree's bordering my property. I am a mechanical designer and obviously not a "stuffed shirt" like a few of you may be that replied. My daughter has been drug free, alchohol free, and nicotine free. The one and only guy, and I mean one and only she slept with, she got pregnant. I came here for help and advice, not a lesson in parenting. We discussed for months about possibly giving up the baby for adoption. She, my daughter, struggled to make that decision, and when she decided to keep my grandson, I was overjoyed and also terrified. It is both a sad and a joyous occasion. The 2 of them dated for 2 years. This was not a one night stand so if you could please stop with the "sew the legs together" crap and come up with something intelligent and helpful to say, please do so, otherwise keep your "mouth" shut! I'm sorry if this is a bit harsh, and I'm sorry if some of you are shocked that she is pregnant, but life goes on, and I need to move forward and help her raise this child the best she/we can. The child support issue is a right she has and I feel it only fair to HER that the father step up to the plate and help out. Now, does anyone have anything constructive to say, or did I just open myself up to a barrage of nasty post's?

Tox

 

[VeronicaGia]

First off, trailer (trailor?) dwellers is a pretty childish term. Secondly, I own my home, no mortgage left to pay. I live on 2 acres with 200 spruce tree's bordering my property. I am a mechanical designer and obviously not a "stuffed shirt" like a few of you may be that replied. My daughter has been drug free, alchohol free, and nicotine free. The one and only guy, and I mean one and only she slept with, she got pregnant. I came here for help and advice, not a lesson in parenting. We discussed for months about possibly giving up the baby for adoption. She, my daughter, struggled to make that decision, and when she decided to keep my grandson, I was overjoyed and also terrified. It is both a sad and a joyous occasion. The 2 of them dated for 2 years. This was not a one night stand so if you could please stop with the "sew the legs together" crap and come up with something intelligent and helpful to say, please do so, otherwise keep your "mouth" shut! I'm sorry if this is a bit harsh, and I'm sorry if some of you are shocked that she is pregnant, but life goes on, and I need to move forward and help her raise this child the best she/we can. The child support issue is a right she has and I feel it only fair to HER that the father step up to the plate and help out. Now, does anyone have anything constructive to say, or did I just open myself up to a barrage of nasty post's?

Tox

Yes. As soon as the child is born, your daughter needs to petition the court for a court ordered DNA test. If he is indeed the father, the court will order child support. He can then file for visitation and/or some level of custody. Until paternity is established legally, he is under absolutely no obligation to do anything.

This guy will be in your daughters life for the rest of her life. They will always share this child. The child deserves to have both parents involved in his upbringing. The boyfriend may think he can just walk away, but he cannot. Your daughter may view this as her child only, but that's not true.

The sooner they both grow up and realize they have bigger responsibilities than their own wants, the better.

 

[SM5NY]

Ok, yes it is a good idea to get the DNA test and then go from there with the visitation and support. Hopefully all will turn out well for a happy, healthly life for the child. Just keep in mind that although there might be some rough roads ahead, the child will need both parents. Good luck.

 

[Toxic]

agreed

Trust me when I tell you that she wants him in her life, and THEIR baby!

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Tough Crowd

You're damn straight this is a tough crowd. Know why? Because there is a life at stake here. We (or I should say I) don't give a rat's ass about you, your daughter or the boyfriend. What we care about is that child.

And yes, we've heard it hear at least 5 times a day. It's an old story that's getting damn tired and worn.

And the child is all that matters. It's the only one in this equation that had no choice in the matter. Unlike your daughter or her boyfriend.

THANK GOD this is a tough crowd.

 

[SM5NY]

oooohhh very harsh Breeze, if you care so much about this child then give some good advice about the subject and stop criticizing. I mean think about it, its to late to turn back and the parents, and grandmother are coming to terms with the situation. This women is here for advice not your rambling mouth.
Now stick to the question...... like said before, DNA, then visitation and support. You can not get child support for an unborn child.

For Tox: Does the father show any interest now?? Do his parent show any interest now. Had your daughter been dating this guy for a while??

 

[BelizeBreeze]

oooohhh very harsh Breeze, if you care so much about this child then give some good advice about the subject and stop criticizing. I mean think about it, its to late to turn back and the parents, and grandmother are coming to terms with the situation. This women is here for advice not your rambling mouth.
Now stick to the question...... like said before, DNA, then visitation and support. You can not get child support for an unborn child.

For Tox: Does the father show any interest now?? Do his parent show any interest now. Had your daughter been dating this guy for a while??

Here's my answer: SCREW YOU!

Now, what the HELL do these questions have to do with the LEGAL aspects of this situation? I'll tell you. NOTHING!

Christ, are the stupid pills free today?