I'm 17 and wanting to leave

[nnk1021]

I live in Minnesota. I turn 18 in October. I want to move to Missouri. School starts there next month and I'd rather be there from the start. My parents have said I can on one condition. That condition is they will not be responsible for me or my actions so emancipation. Minnesota has nothing about emancipation but there is consent based. I dont know how I would prove in Missouri that I am on my own and "emancipated". What is the best way to do this?

 

[Zigner]

The "best" way? Wait until October. Even assuming that you are completely eligible for emancipation (and I'm not saying you are, in fact, you probably are not), it's not going to happen before then anyway.

 

[nnk1021]

Issues with that

1. That helps in no way. 2. I'm leaving for reasons beyond wanting to. 3. I don't want to show up mid school year and mess up my schooling. 4. From what I've seen from my research in completely eligible because it says they can consent ant then its done in Minnesota. I want to know the best way to go about that for proof of it. I've heard a contract signed and notarized.

 

[Zigner]

1. That helps in no way. 2. I'm leaving for reasons beyond wanting to. 3. I don't want to show up mid school year and mess up my schooling. 4. From what I've seen from my research in completely eligible because it says they can consent ant then its done in Minnesota. I want to know the best way to go about that for proof of it. I've heard a contract signed and notarized.

1) It does help...I do understand, however, that you think it doesn't help because it's not what you want to hear.
2) I suspect you lack the maturity to understand the true difference between "wants" and "needs".
3) Then stay and finish school. (I will say that it's commendable that you are focusing on making sure your schooling goes well.)
4) You're not going to be in Minnesota. You're going to be in Missouri, which has very different rules relating to emancipation.

 

[nnk1021]

1) It does help...I do understand, however, that you think it doesn't help because it's not what you want to hear.
2) I suspect you lack the maturity to understand the true difference between "wants" and "needs".
3) Then stay and finish school. (I will say that it's commendable that you are focusing on making sure your schooling goes well.)
4) You're not going to be in Minnesota. You're going to be in Missouri, which has very different rules relating to emancipation.

It doesn't make sense for me to stay any longer if I know I can have it better away from my family. With my mother I have experienced verbal, emotional and physical abuse. With my father a verbal, emotional abusive drunk. So for the past 5+ years I've needed to fend for myself in the house while still bending to them unless I want the chance of being hurt. When you hear your worthless from your mother on a couple occasions you'd understand. So I had thought of leaving but had no idea how to do it and over the past year + since someone saved me from suicide i've been trying to figure it out because this is enough and they bring me more pain when I could go near someone who has shown me love, kindness and care over the past year +. I don't think dealing with this longer is in my best interest. I really dont like talking about that stuff.

 

[Zigner]

It doesn't make sense for me to stay any longer if I know I can have it better away from my family. With my mother I have experienced verbal, emotional and physical abuse. With my father a verbal, emotional abusive drunk. So for the past 5+ years I've needed to fend for myself in the house while still bending to them unless I want the chance of being hurt. When you hear your worthless from your mother on a couple occasions you'd understand. So I had thought of leaving but had no idea how to do it and over the past year + since someone saved me from suicide i've been trying to figure it out because this is enough and they bring me more pain when I could go near someone who has shown me love, kindness and care over the past year +. I don't think dealing with this longer is in my best interest. I really dont like talking about that stuff.

Please speak to an adult about this. Clergy, the police, a teacher (if you can reach out to one during the school break.)

 

[Just Blue]

It doesn't make sense for me to stay any longer if I know I can have it better away from my family. With my mother I have experienced verbal, emotional and physical abuse. With my father a verbal, emotional abusive drunk. So for the past 5+ years I've needed to fend for myself in the house while still bending to them unless I want the chance of being hurt. When you hear your worthless from your mother on a couple occasions you'd understand. So I had thought of leaving but had no idea how to do it and over the past year + since someone saved me from suicide i've been trying to figure it out because this is enough and they bring me more pain when I could go near someone who has shown me love, kindness and care over the past year +. I don't think dealing with this longer is in my best interest. I really dont like talking about that stuff.

Are you done with highschool? With whom will you live? How will you support yourself?

 

[nnk1021]

Are you done with highschool? With whom will you live? How will you support yourself?

I have 1-2 years left. Myself maybe a roommate. I'm being allowed access to money my grandpa has put aside for me to do this as he believes its something my grandmother would have helped with. That's only for necessities. The plan when I move is as follows. Figure out legal. Sign up for school. Look for work and then get a place to stay more permanently. I do have a place to stay while figuring that stuff out.

 

[Zigner]

I have 1-2 years left. Myself maybe a roommate. I'm being allowed access to money my grandpa has put aside for me to do this as he believes its something my grandmother would have helped with. That's only for necessities. The plan when I move is as follows. Figure out legal. Sign up for school. Look for work and then get a place to stay more permanently. I do have a place to stay while figuring that stuff out.

You will not qualify as an emancipated child in MO.

 

[Just Blue]

I have 1-2 years left. Myself maybe a roommate. I'm being allowed access to money my grandpa has put aside for me to do this as he believes its something my grandmother would have helped with. That's only for necessities. The plan when I move is as follows. Figure out legal. Sign up for school. Look for work and then get a place to stay more permanently. I do have a place to stay while figuring that stuff out.

How do you think you are going to get an apartment. Till your 18 you are not able to sign a legal contract (lease). Can't you stay with grandfather till you graduate? Why are you so far behind in school?

 

[nnk1021]

How do you think you are going to get an apartment. Till your 18 you are not able to sign a legal contract (lease). Can't you stay with grandfather till you graduate? Why are you so far behind in school?

Severe depression couldn't do the work. Came home every day had to do stuff for my parents then locked myself in my room the rest of the night being depressed until this last school year where I played catchup and got pretty far. I can but dont want to because that's where I moved from with my family 2 years ago and now he is trying to clean out the house to sell.

 

[Just Blue]

Severe depression couldn't do the work. Came home every day had to do stuff for my parents then locked myself in my room the rest of the night being depressed until this last school year where I played catchup and got pretty far. I can but dont want to because that's where I moved from with my family 2 years ago and now he is trying to clean out the house to sell.

Well...I'm glad that you are getting beck on track with your schooling. The only thing worse than being depressed is being depressed and uneducated. EVEN IF you could qualify for emancipation ..it would take months and months for it to get through the courts. You will be 18 in a few months. Just wait it out. You could then get an apt locally and be with your friends...

 

[nnk1021]

Well...I'm glad that you are getting beck on track with your schooling. The only thing worse than being depressed is being depressed and uneducated. EVEN IF you could qualify for emancipation ..it would take months and months for it to get through the courts. You will be 18 in a few months. Just wait it out. You could then get an apt locally and be with your friends...

My nearest friends are all going off to military. And my girl friend lives in Missouri. I have family down there too. I see this as a way to get me away and get me closer to her so I can actually spend more time with her. Along with me finishing school and being more myself than I am here.

 

[Zigner]

Well...I'm glad that you are getting beck on track with your schooling. The only thing worse than being depressed is being depressed and uneducated. EVEN IF you could qualify for emancipation ..it would take months and months for it to get through the courts. You will be 18 in a few months. Just wait it out. You could then get an apt locally and be with your friends...

In Montana there is no specific court procedure for emancipation, but emancipation can be done through the parents. HOWEVER, that won't help this OP because Missouri won't recognize it.

 

[Zigner]

My nearest friends are all going off to military. And my girl friend lives in Missouri. ... I see this as a way to get me away and get me closer to her so I can actually spend more time with her.

...and THERE it is folks.