I'm afraid my child could be in danger

[prettypeachi]

My son and I live in Missouri. He's two months old and as of yet his father makes no support payments to him, probably because our case isn't finished. That's not my question though. His father's new girlfriend is very hostile towards me, and has threatened me bodily harm both before and after I gave birth to my son. I'm very afraid that if I give his father visitation that this ?woman? would be unkind to my son, and if they stay together that she will eventually belittle me in front of my own child. Is there a way to keep her away from my son and ease my mind? Any kind of advice would help.

 

[prettypeachi]

really could use some help on this one.....thanks

 

[Grace_Adler]

Document everything she says and does, take a witness, record her..whatever it takes so you can build up proof and eventually have her charged with something like harrasment..ect. Right now you call the shots on visitation. You can tell him he can see the baby but only with you and not to bring her. It's his responsibility to file for visitation. When or if he does..you can express your concerns and tell them you have absolutely no problem with arranging visitation but you prefer it be supervised and with a third, neutral party and that you fear his gf could endanger your child and you prefer her not be around. I don't know how it would go but it's worth a shot. You could also tell him you want to do the visitation somewhere public or have a third party come over when he does right now. That way you will have a witness if anything is started. You don't have to let her see your child though. Good Luck.

 

[prettypeachi]

just bumping to get some more input......

 

[Correction girl]

I understand your upset with the GF and she is upset with you in more ways you could never believe there is probaly a lot going on in her head, like, will he go back to you, GF is jealous of you and the baby, is scared of the bond you and the dad has, she wish the baby was hers, lots other but you get my point don't you? Yes its true you don't have to let the GF see the baby and you could voise how you feel about her but that could hurt you end the end rather than help you. Does the dad love his son? how does he treat his son? if he loves love his son he will not let any harm to his son and he will not let the GF bab mouth you in front of the son and talk to him tell him you all need to come to a agreement of no bad mouthing each other in front of the kids make that part of the Court paper work. And when the kid gets older he will know (if the dad and the GF are still together) that the GF is not a nice person and she has no clue what is really up the kids know things. also treat the people that don't like you with honey and they come around soon or later or the dad will wake up and see it. and we know GOD will. good luck

 

[Ashlee1443]

I really don't have any advice to give, I would just like to say how much I can relate to your concerns and feelings. My son's father made the decision not to be in our child's life, which actually became a benefit towards our son, after seeing the type of lifestyle bio dad has chosen to live. Getting child support for this man was like pulling teeth...he was not interested in visitation, thank goodness...there's NO WAY I'd allow my child, who is now 2 years old, in his father's home with that girlfriend of his. She's downright cruel,and she despises me....the feelings are mutual of course, but that's beside the point. Point is, is that no matter what the girlfriends "feelings" may be, whether she's just jealous or not, I'd do what you feel is safe for your child; protect your child, and do what makes you most comfortable. Me, I'd fight with all I have if visitation is/was ever addressed in my case. Bio dad-fine. Jealous girlfriend-Don't think so. I would keep a record of all the threats she makes towards you. I have documented several forms of harassement from bio dad's g/f as well. Good luck. JMO....