What is the name of your state? FL
Is there somewhere on this site that has examples of visitation that my ex and I could sit down and work out together?
I am perfectly willing to let him see his child WHENEVER he wishes, even pick him up from school, spend the evening with him, whatever and whenever.
I don't want any of this fighting anymore with each other over when and where and who and how...its just NOT good for our son.
OK so he up and out of the blue kept the child without notifying me till the very last minute. The child is home and I am tired of seeing this suffering going on between all of us.
How do you get the point aross to a stubborn, hardheaded ex that its NOT about him and me? That the time for revenge and head games needs to stop post haste?
Its about the CHILD!
There is no hidden agenda here. I just want what is best for our son. And to me, it means BOTH of us raising him. Not just me. Not just him.
But the ex is hell bent on having it his way which is what I am not getting as he is not even trying to talk about this.
When I try and talk he screams and curses, he yells. Sometimes I won't even answer the phone. Even at work he calls and tells complete strangers how he is going to 'get' our son and leave....
I'm at my wits end trying to figure out what mood he is in when he calls. Is he in the child snatching mood? The curse out the ex mood? The 'woe is me' mood?
ALL I want is for him to come to the realization that since we live 30 minutes apart it wouldn't be so damned difficult for him to see our son if HE would stop being such a donkey's butt.
All this court stuff is for the birds.
The child loves both of us, not just one of us.
Please give me some pointers.
Oh and I do have a DVI against him which I can have modified if he would ONLY be quiet in the court room and realize he needs to at LEAST respect the judge. You can't yell and tell a judge how things are going to be and expect to walk out with what you want, which is exactly what he did a few years ago when I tried to have the DVI dropped completely but the judge made the injunction PERMANENT beause my ex became angry and verbally abusive toward him!
Is there somewhere on this site that has examples of visitation that my ex and I could sit down and work out together?
I am perfectly willing to let him see his child WHENEVER he wishes, even pick him up from school, spend the evening with him, whatever and whenever.
I don't want any of this fighting anymore with each other over when and where and who and how...its just NOT good for our son.
OK so he up and out of the blue kept the child without notifying me till the very last minute. The child is home and I am tired of seeing this suffering going on between all of us.
How do you get the point aross to a stubborn, hardheaded ex that its NOT about him and me? That the time for revenge and head games needs to stop post haste?
Its about the CHILD!
There is no hidden agenda here. I just want what is best for our son. And to me, it means BOTH of us raising him. Not just me. Not just him.
But the ex is hell bent on having it his way which is what I am not getting as he is not even trying to talk about this.
When I try and talk he screams and curses, he yells. Sometimes I won't even answer the phone. Even at work he calls and tells complete strangers how he is going to 'get' our son and leave....
I'm at my wits end trying to figure out what mood he is in when he calls. Is he in the child snatching mood? The curse out the ex mood? The 'woe is me' mood?
ALL I want is for him to come to the realization that since we live 30 minutes apart it wouldn't be so damned difficult for him to see our son if HE would stop being such a donkey's butt.
All this court stuff is for the birds.
The child loves both of us, not just one of us.
Please give me some pointers.
Oh and I do have a DVI against him which I can have modified if he would ONLY be quiet in the court room and realize he needs to at LEAST respect the judge. You can't yell and tell a judge how things are going to be and expect to walk out with what you want, which is exactly what he did a few years ago when I tried to have the DVI dropped completely but the judge made the injunction PERMANENT beause my ex became angry and verbally abusive toward him!
