in desperate need of advice

[lonelymom]

Long story I will do my best to make it short.

I have a 7 year old son that I have not seen in the last 3 years as of tomorrow. My ex-husband refuses to let our son see me or any of my family. We have court documents that allow visitation with my son every other weekend and Wednesdays of each week.

3 years ago, My ex-husband accused my mother of abusing my son. (I know for a FACT, this is not the case) He has attempted several times to keep my son from me and my family, with accusations such as sexual abuse, physical abuse, etc...

I can not afford to keep going back to court. This last accusation reached the CPS and said abuse had occured but was undetermined who was the perpetrator. I really don't feel like the investigation was properly done in one weeks time. I did send letter of appeal to this but since I was not perpetrator, they would not accept the appeal. Therefore, My mother sent letter of appeal, again she was not the perpetrator.

Since this happened I have tried to contact my son by phone and by going to my ex-husbands house on visitation days on several attempts. Each time to be refused by my ex-husband. My attempts have lessoned over the months... I have not tried to make contact since last year now. I was hoping to let peace settle in so that I could gather resources without my ex-husband suspecting.

I tried to make contact by phone last weekend. The phone has now been disconnected.

I am told all I can do legally, is to hire an attorney and file contempt of court charges on my ex-husband. I do not have the money for this. I am a 23 year old with only a HS diploma and my job is just that at the moment. I have been trying to get on my feet for the past 5 years. I admit to being irresponsible in the past and I try not to blame it on my youth. My ex-husband, however, turned 30 this year. At the time of our last custody hearing, my lawyer advised me to settle to giving my ex sole proprietorship and I as conservator. The agreement was that no child support had to be paid and no insurance needed on my son. Needless to say I took my lawyers advice and feel it was the worst thing I could have done.

I will leave it at this, but there is so much more to tell.

I do hope you have some helpful advice for me.
Thank you in advance.

 

[Ambr]

and you continue to file the contempt of charges until you establish the pattern that the CP is not going to allow your relationship with the child. these are grounds for custodial reversal - granting that there isn't more to the story than what you have detailed.

the longer the child is with dad, with no contact from you - the harder it will be to establish your relationship again. there is no telling what the child is being told. plus - it will be harder to remove the child from dad if you haven't been around and you are not throwing a fit to exercise your visitation.