Insurance frustrations with ex

[questionforall]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CT

Not sure if anyone can help.

Ex carries insurance on our child. He is ordered to pay 1/2 of all out of pocket expenses, copays etc.....I pay the bills, submit receipts and that is usually the end of it. He never pays.

Past few years I have been claiming our child on income tax since he never reimberses me. Order states he can claim IF current in child support. Since he's not I take the claim and wipe his deobt free every year figurring it essentially comes from his pocket ultimately right?

Now I am suspicious that when I give the receipts to him, he is submitting them to his Benny account and getting that money back into his pocket without forwarding the reimbersement to me. More than anything I am frustrated. Is there any advise how to handle this and is that legal? Could I add a memo to the bill that amount was paid by me? Would that help at all?

 

[dad43]

it's possible that he's getting reimbursed for it. when i was in the military, my ex didn't live near a base, so she used a local dr. he would forward bills to tricare, stating that copays were paid, and i'd get a check. BUT my ex was never paying copays, and she was supposed to, not me. not saying this helps, but i am saying it's possible he's pocketing reimbursement checks. i don't know if you can add a memo yourself, but maybe you could get the dr's office add a memo that says something along the lines of "copay paid infull by X to amount of $X with check #X"? they'd help you in a contempt hearing i suppose. and he wouldn't be able to argue that YOU are cashing the checks, b/c if the ins company mails them to him, it's a guarantee he's cashing them himself.