is a daycare considered a school in the court order

[aliachase2007]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Texas
Is a day care a primary or secondary school?
I have a standard court order for visitation in texas. Does anyone know if a daycare is concidered a school in the order?
under possession and access oder definations it says the term "school" refers to the primary or secondary school in which the child is enrolled. But during the summer at her dads, she goes to daycare. So I'm trying to figure out if the order means daycare also when it talks about school.

thanks

 

[Perky]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Texas
Is a day care a primary or secondary school?
I have a standard court order for visitation in texas. Does anyone know if a daycare is concidered a school in the order?
under possession and access oder definations it says the term "school" refers to the primary or secondary school in which the child is enrolled. But during the summer at her dads, she goes to daycare. So I'm trying to figure out if the order means daycare also when it talks about school.

thanks

A daycare is neither a primary or secondary school. A daycare doesn't have a dismissal time. Children are retrieved when their parent gets off of work, or school, or whatever.

Are you trying to determine if you can pick your child up before 6:00pm on your visitation days?

 

[aliachase2007]

A daycare is neither a primary or secondary school. A daycare doesn't have a dismissal time. Children are retrieved when their parent gets off of work, or school, or whatever.

Are you trying to determine if you can pick your child up before 6:00pm on your visitation days?

No, our order has pickups at the homes at 6pm. I only get her one weekend during his month. But under conservators it talks about what each of us are appointed ("the right to recieve info concerning the education, health and welfare", "to confer with the other parent" "consult with school officials" "to attend school activities" "to be designated on any records" I'm sure you get my drift. So it talks about "school" alot and what rights I have. But the last few yrs we've had issues with her at daycare. The first yr I asked him if I could visit and he lied to me (saying it was against their policy) then changed it and said how they told him I tried to pick her up, he threatened me with the police. Then the following yr when I dropped her off after my weeknd I told him (and her) that I'd call more and visit her at her school. He didnt say anything. After I visited her at the school (a different one, and they were fine with it) he called me up really mad and told me not to go back or they'd call the police. Last yr he didnt' even tell me she was going to daycare, and so far this year he hasn't given me any info about where she'll be going. Her first experience at school (the first yr she went, when she was 3) she had a accident and was so upset (she talked about it the next year also) and he never even told me about it.
I just want to know what my rights are. She started prek last yr, and I made sure to tell him about all their activities so he would have the option of going. Even though I hated him there. I even gave him school pictures (for him and his brother and 2 sisters) plus the number incase he wanted to order more. He never even thanked me.

She doesn't like going over there, I hear more and more about things that upset me and her. This past weekend she came home with no undies, and told me how her father wouldn't let her wear any undies all wekend because he doesn't want to wash them. Healso told her, her smile isn't pretty. How can he say that.

sorry, more info then u all probably wanted

 

[Perky]

Of course, you should be listed as mother and as an emergency contact on the daycare records. You should also be informed of any serious accidents. However, does the daycare really have any "activities" similar to those in school? How serious was the accident that occurred in daycare? Did it require medical treatment? If not, then I don't think he was out of line in not informing you.

You are entitled to know the name of the daycare, and you may be entitled to visit; however, your ex has asked (demanded) that you don't. If you have concerns about the daycare, you should talk with your ex first. He is, after all, the parent charged with her care and control during his month of possession.

 

[ecmst12]

You of course have the right to contact her day care and receive information from the staff there, and you can visit the facility.

 

[stealth2]

Of course, you should be listed as mother and as an emergency contact on the daycare records. You should also be informed of any serious accidents. However, does the daycare really have any "activities" similar to those in school? How serious was the accident that occurred in daycare? Did it require medical treatment? If not, then I don't think he was out of line in not informing you.

It may be just me, but I read "accident" as in - she wet her pants. Which may also explain why Dad doesn't want to have to keep washing her underwear.

 

[Perky]

It may be just me, but I read "accident" as in - she wet her pants. Which may also explain why Dad doesn't want to have to keep washing her underwear.

Ah, I think you may be right!

 

[aliachase2007]

It may be just me, but I read "accident" as in - she wet her pants. Which may also explain why Dad doesn't want to have to keep washing her underwear.

Her first day of daycare (3 yrs ago) she had to go #2 at nap time. She was afraid to say anything and ended up doing it in her pants. The school had a change of clothes (some blue uniform) and she had to wear that. She was so upset for along time, and didnt want to go back. Saying the teacher made fun of her.
She doesnt have accidents anymore

 

[Perky]

She doesn't like going over there, I hear more and more about things that upset me and her. This past weekend she came home with no undies, and told me how her father wouldn't let her wear any undies all wekend because he doesn't want to wash them. Healso told her, her smile isn't pretty. How can he say that.

I really think someone is reading too much into this, or not really understanding. If he's going to do laundry, then why not wash the underwear? If he just sends the dirty clothes back to you, then maybe she ran out of underwear. It just doesn't make sense.

As far as the comment about her smile, what was the context? I can remember a number of times telling my kids something along those lines when I was trying to get a good picture of them.

Regarding the first sentence in the quote above, is there another agenda? Are you hoping to limit his visitation?

 

[aliachase2007]

I really think someone is reading too much into this, or not really understanding. If he's going to do laundry, then why not wash the underwear? If he just sends the dirty clothes back to you, then maybe she ran out of underwear. It just doesn't make sense.

As far as the comment about her smile, what was the context? I can remember a number of times telling my kids something along those lines when I was trying to get a good picture of them.

Regarding the first sentence in the quote above, is there another agenda? Are you hoping to limit his visitation?

He doesnt return her underclothes or socks. Sometimes he doesnt even return her clothes. I dont care if they are dirty or not, so Im not sur ewhy he doesnt at least return what shes send over in. Im not sure what the context the smile comment was made in. She just said how her dad said she doesn't have a pretty smile, and she smile for me, like she was showing me the smile he was talking about.
Um I not really trying to limit his visitation. I'm glad he at least is involved in our daughters life. He's tring to get custody, and we are doing a social study. I'm trying to peice together stuff that I can mention to the judge that will help me. As well as maybe getting ym ex to take co parenting, parenting, and/oranger management classes. This has been on going for years with the meaness, and since we're going to court anyway, why not ask for some extra help?