Is he accountable for how he spends child support?

[brenk3308]

State of Florida
I pay child support for my two children. I truly believe that the money I send is not being used for the "support" of my children, but is being used for car payments, credit card payments, etc. When the children come for their visits, they voice to me the need for clothes, haircuts, shoes. I try to explain to them that I send money for these things and that these things should be bought by their father. I wish I could buy them clothes and meet their every need, but financially, I can't after sending the money each month. I barely have enough to buy food, and take them for a simple movie. And when I have to tell the kids NO, I can't buy you these clothes, it makes me look like I don't care for them. How do I handle this? And is there any thing that can be done as far as holding the custodial father accountable for making sure the money I send is spent on....CHILD SUPPORT!!!???

 

[momofrose]

I too am the ncp (mom) of a daughter. I pay $157.00 per week for her support. He has is own construction business, and tehrefore any numbers relayed to the court are not the entire picture (if you get my drift). My daughter starts kindergarten this year (puvlic) so the day care costs will go from $400.00 a month to zero..where will that extra money go? Who knows...but there is nothing we can do about it. There should be accountablity, but there is so much emphasis on those that do not pay child support, that those of us who do and who want more rights regarding such things, are swept under the carpet. I don't think that will change...not inour lifetime anyway.
Keep smiling, keep explaining to your children and keep the faith...it's the only thing that gets me through.

 

[Mugs23]

Momofrose

momofrose -
you can go back to court & get a support modification. I need to vent too - my fiancee's CS doesn't get spent on his son. The kid comes to us in ratty hand-me-downs, shoes that have been worn flat so there's no arch support, no hair cut... the list goes on. All of a sudden, the child's bio-mom can cut down her work hours (she thinks we don't know), and gets to flit off to Boston every week...
I was paying her CS in one large sum, but now she's getting it weekly. I'm not paying for her to go out drinking. Sorry

 

[Grandma B]

Believe it or not, there are states where you can request accountability of child support.

 

[ans]

Grandma is right and you can request accountability in some states. Oregon is one but even after talking to the lawyer he said we could ask but..*S* well it isnt too tested and rent, food, power, etc...it is a long shot but hey some days tis all anyone has. We have the same thing happening but I just smile and we do the best we can. Sorry cant remember the orignal name for the post but you are right..dont say a bad word...you cant...it is the children who cant and to say a bad word hurts them and nobody wins, ecspecially the children. I would ask and see if you can, what can it hurt.