is income the only factor of child support

[waterboy]

What is the name of your state? alabama
my ex is taking me back to court for MORE MONEY and i want to know if there is any other factors other than income that could help me understand an increase.

We both make about 4000 a month GROSS and and bring home about 2700 . i give her 400 . is it only the father's responsiblity to pay for nearly everything. I want to have some income left where when its my visitation i can buy our daughter things and do things with her too.

Common sense tells you that if it takes 600 - 800 a month to raise a child right . Then most of the world would NOT being having children. Its not the money but anyone with a note pad and calculator can see this isnt right. i only get to see our daught 1st and 3rd weekends , week at christmas , and month in summer.

if the court wanted to even start to do what it RIGHT and FAIR for all parties involved would NOT set the support where the mother gets to live like a king and the father live like a commonier

The would say if the child is SUCH a finacial burden the maybe you need to share the child more and let (him , her , them) Stay with the other parent MORE!

thanks for letting me vent. i am sure there is someone that shares my frustration...

 

[ceara19]

How much money it takes to raise a child is very subjective. While one person can say that it only costs $200 a month to provide the bare minimum required for a child, others can claim that it costs $2000 a month to raise a child in the manner in which the child DESERVES.

 

[Hypocritical]

How much money it takes to raise a child is very subjective. While one person can say that it only costs $200 a month to provide the bare minimum required for a child, others can claim that it costs $2000 a month to raise a child in the manner in which the child DESERVES.

I agree.
I pay $800/month in childcare alone.
Guess how much child support I receive each month. Not even half of that.

 

[ceara19]

I agree.
I pay $800/month in childcare alone.
Guess how much child support I receive each month. Not even half of that.

For ME, it takes more then a couple hundred dollars a month to raise my kids. But I don't feed them generic oatmeal 3 times a day and buy all of their clothes at Goodwill (not that there is anything WRONG with Goodwill).

 

[Hypocritical]

For ME, it takes more then a couple hundred dollars a month to raise my kids. But I don't feed them generic oatmeal 3 times a day and buy all of their clothes at Goodwill (not that there is anything WRONG with Goodwill).

I'd be happy if I could get my fussy twins to eat something as healthy as oatmeal!

 

[Frustrated_one]

It cost me over $1,500/mo in childcare alone for two children. That doesn't include food, diapers, clothing, medication, etc. We have shared custody and the ex was ordered to pay over $1,000. You know why? Because it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure that the cost of housing alone will skyrocket expenses. If I got a one bedroom vs a two or three bedroom, there is a $300-$500 min. cost difference. Take into consideration all the other essential items I purchase my financial obligation is well over $1,000/month.

$400?? Really. That's nothing.

 

[Hypocritical]

Housing, yes. My best friend (R.I.P.) sent his ex-wife 50% of his paychecks to support his two children. Her house was in bad shape. He hired a cleaning service twice a month to make her home more liveable. He wanted to make certain that his kids had enough to eat, a home to which they could bring friends over, clothing, haircuts, etc. And with what he had left, he lived in a humble one bedroom apartment. Wouldn't you want the best for your children?

I guarantee my best friend had a limo drive him on the express route to heaven.

 

[MrsK]

What is the name of your state? alabama
my ex is taking me back to court for MORE MONEY and i want to know if there is any other factors other than income that could help me understand an increase.

We both make about 4000 a month GROSS and and bring home about 2700 . i give her 400 . is it only the father's responsiblity to pay for nearly everything. I want to have some income left where when its my visitation i can buy our daughter things and do things with her too.

Common sense tells you that if it takes 600 - 800 a month to raise a child right . Then most of the world would NOT being having children. Its not the money but anyone with a note pad and calculator can see this isnt right. i only get to see our daught 1st and 3rd weekends , week at christmas , and month in summer.

if the court wanted to even start to do what it RIGHT and FAIR for all parties involved would NOT set the support where the mother gets to live like a king and the father live like a commonier

The would say if the child is SUCH a finacial burden the maybe you need to share the child more and let (him , her , them) Stay with the other parent MORE!

thanks for letting me vent. i am sure there is someone that shares my frustration...

Without knowing how much is paid for insurance and child care for the child, I would say $400 is not out of line for support on 4k a month by BOTH parties...its probably very close to what you should be paying. She's probably paying at least $400 a month, too.

You should check to see if parenting time counts as a reason to reduce c/s in your state...if so, and you have the child a large portion of time you could get your c/s reduced. (unless, of course, your state doesnt offer that or it was already factored in)

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Based on the facts provided both parents having $4000 gross monthly income, not counting daycare or insurance, the monthly payment is $448 so OP has such a deal!

 

[critterperson]

What is the name of your state? alabama
my ex is taking me back to court for MORE MONEY and i want to know if there is any other factors other than income that could help me understand an increase.

We both make about 4000 a month GROSS and and bring home about 2700 . i give her 400 . is it only the father's responsiblity to pay for nearly everything. I want to have some income left where when its my visitation i can buy our daughter things and do things with her too.

Common sense tells you that if it takes 600 - 800 a month to raise a child right . Then most of the world would NOT being having children. Its not the money but anyone with a note pad and calculator can see this isnt right. i only get to see our daught 1st and 3rd weekends , week at christmas , and month in summer.

if the court wanted to even start to do what it RIGHT and FAIR for all parties involved would NOT set the support where the mother gets to live like a king and the father live like a commonier

The would say if the child is SUCH a finacial burden the maybe you need to share the child more and let (him , her , them) Stay with the other parent MORE!

thanks for letting me vent. i am sure there is someone that shares my frustration...

In Illinois with $2700 take-home you would be paying $540 plus half of daycare and insurance for one child...Be VERY grateful you could be paying a lot more...

 

[ILOVEMYGSM3]

in that case

what if medical is covered 100% by the father, and due to his being military, the child will forever recieve FREE daycare...according to the FL calculator, my roomate would only pay about 275 a month, and thats AFTER he pays 250 for childcare, and nearly $1300 annually for the childs health, as well as his other cihld's obligation...so in reality, he'd pay nearly 600 a month...FOR ONE kid...funny, florida says he'd have to pay more when his wife has income, yet KY said 260 was enough for his daughter, and her mother had NO INCOME...whatsoever...!!!

funny how different states have different guidelines...i think its messed up some men pay nearly a grand(dropping their pay by half)and some mothers use that money to live out of their means, or get roomies of their own who have kids, to lower their expenses....but thats another story....

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

what if medical is covered 100% by the father, and due to his being military, the child will forever recieve FREE daycare...Just how does a child receive free daycare because the father is in the military? Think before you type here.
according to the FL calculator, my roomate would only pay about 275 a month, and thats AFTER he pays 250 for childcare, and nearly $1300 annually for the childs health, as well as his other cihld's obligation...so in reality, he'd pay nearly 600 a month...FOR ONE kid.. You just mentioned another child.

.funny, florida says he'd have to pay more when his wife has income, yet KY said 260 was enough for his daughter, and her mother had NO INCOME...whatsoever...!!!Maybe he wants to go by the state that has juristiction, instead of comming up with *What Every Other State* would.


funny how different states have different guidelines...i think its messed up some men pay nearly a grand(dropping their pay by half)and some mothers use that money to live out of their means, or get roomies of their own who have kids, to lower their expenses....but thats another story....

How old are you? You seem very uneducated in the subject????????

 

[ceara19]

Just how does a child receive free daycare because the father is in the military?

I was wondering the same thing. Even if some or all daycare expenses were paid by the military, it wouldn't be FOREVER.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

I was wondering the same thing. Even if some or all daycare expenses were paid by the military, it wouldn't be FOREVER.

The *Military* doesn't pay for daycare at all. A military member can get assistance from the state with these issues, but they have to qualify.

 

[businessmiss]

What is the name of your state? alabama
if the court wanted to even start to do what it RIGHT and FAIR for all parties involved would NOT set the support where the mother gets to live like a king and the father live like a commonier
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This statement absolutely frustrates me(typing errors aside). As a divorced mother of two, I have listened to my ex constantly complain about how I am talking all of his money and living like a queen. He pays $500 a month-does not pay for any medical expenses which by court order he is supposed to pay 50%, does not pay for their insurances-medical or dental, I take care of those, or help out with any of their extra-curricular activites.

When we divorced I was making a lot less money then I am now, but I worked hard to make my way up the corporate ladder and am proud of that. You would think he might have tried the same instead of bouncing around from job to job, constantly hiding from the state so they couldn't find him to collect the child support he owed.

I do not understand how a parent can complain about paying way too much for child support when the amount is $4-500 dollars a month. Please! How is that too much when you take into consideration shelter, food, clothing, activities, medical bills, dental bills, transportation, school, etc. etc. etc.

Get over it. If one would put as much time into caring for their child as one did on how to get out of paying child support, the relationship between the child and the ncp would be much stronger.