Thanks again!
I did all of that and my ex's attorney said I can see my son only if I sign a document stating that I would give my son this medicine for adhd.I refused. He said then you can not see him..He also wrote a letter to that affect.
The attorney also reminded me that I have absolutely no rights and my ex can do as he pleases.
Jerks huh?
I am Enclosing a recent emial...I will delete my ex and my name...My sons name is replaced along with the doctors with -----, (Mind you, I have always wanted to see my son I just refuse to give him a pill he doesnt need my ex takes this as me not wanting to see him & my "boyfriend" will be my husband in 13 days)
(my name here),
You will NOT be picking ----- up the Thanksgiving holiday. If you will read
the custody arraingement clause pertaining to holiday visitation you will see
that he is to be here for this Thanksgiving, and no changes will be made now,
or in the future.
As to starting up normally scheduled visitation, I will consult with my
lawyer concerning this issue. Remember this, Dr ---- does NOT have anything
to do with this, it is MY right to have ---- continue his medication at all
times, as his father, and parent with custody I dont feel it is wise to have
his medication schedule flip flopped to suit your wishes. The important thing
is -----, and his state of mind and happiness; not yours as a non-custodial
parent. You have always put yourself and your wants ahead of -----, and I
will not allow this to effect him anymore. This is the reason I have again
retained my attourney and his team. I can not, and will not make any more
efforts to facilitate you and your wishes to alter the legal arraingments
made for any reason. The visitation schedule has not been followed by
yourself, and yet you expect me to allow you to see him when the schedule
clearly shows that I am not required to. There will be no more "special"
allowances made for ANY reason.
I will have my attorney notify you concerning your request for resuming
regularly scheduled visitation as soon as possible. Until then, you are to
assume that nothing is granted, due to my concerns about his welfare while in
your care. Again, I will be consulting with my attourney about this matter,
as it is MY decision whether----- will be on his medication on week-ends,
and NO one elses. Dr. ----- is presently ----- doctor, and prescribes his
medication, she does NOT make the decision as to him taking it on week-ends
or not.
Also, there will be no more drop-offs at school Monday mornings after
visitation. As required, drop-offs (assuming visitation is resumed) will be
at the Forest Lake Wal-Mart at 6:00 p.m. Sunday evenings.
As a suggestion, put Richies needs ahead of your own. That is what a parent
does, if they are a good parent. There is no indication that the Adderal is
having ANY ill effects on -----, and plenty of evidence to prove that it is
helping him abundantly. Your decision to not see ---- had, and has NO merit
in anyway, and has only hurt your relationship with him, surely even you can
see that. And the fact that you have allowed your boyfriend to influence
things, in even the slightest degree, as to your relationship, and visitation
with your son is inexcusable. It may be his house, but it is YOUR son: NOT
his.
As to your claim that Dr ----- told me that it was important that -----
sees his mother, it is not true. First of all, Dr ---- has very little
knowledge of the history in the last few years, only the barest of facts. You
putting words in her mouth is not only creating another falsehood on your
part, but just plain ridiculous and not worth any further consideration. I
have spoken to Dr. -----this morning (Saturday, 18th of November), and
during our conversation she stated that while it is not imperative that
----- be on his medication during every week-end it is up to me. If I feel
he should be taking his meds based on what I feel the situation calls for
then it IS proabably called for. As to you claim about her saying that it is
important that ----- sees you, in fact, she never said that, and stated she
has no opinion on that matter.
I am sending you this as, as you said in your E Mail to me, a courtesy. I am
not inclined at this point in any further correspondance with you, or any
conversations.
As I stated before, send any requests, questions or notices to my attorney.
My attourney will let you know about visitation, and any stipulations on
visitation asap.
[Edited by Frantic on 12-02-2000 at 01:41 PM]
is it all the new boards...is that why it is taking so long to get a responce>?